This is a serious inquiry. Considering my divorce settlement, home and condo,it's most likely that I'll have a much greater net worth than anyone I date. I don't expect to find a man who is even close to me in terms of income, nor is it important to me. I put a much higher value on integrity and character, similar interests, cheerfulness and a kind and loving, fun personality (easy on the eyes is good, too).
I just don't know how relationships work (or don't work) if there's a huge gap between my net worth and the guy I'd like to date. I'm very low key about it with regards to my lifestyle, however, I do like to stay at nice places when I travel and go to nice restaurants. I don't have a problem with paying more, but realize that men probably aren't used to this or comfortable with it.
I'd like to hear from other men (and women) if you've experienced this situation or if you can just imagine how you'd feel about it, I'd like to hear your comments. Thanks.
It's hard but it can work. There are boundaries that need to be made and expectations that need to be set. Even though I don't have a great success story as I was the one who made more than my ex did, I still believe it can work. It just depends on the maturity level of the two people and if they are truly in love for all the right reasons.
I'm not usre what your age is, so that makes a difference in how to respond to your concerns. I do have experience in this are as I am financialy blessed and always have been.
In my opinion, yes! I think that wealthy women tend to be stonger in general and my experience is that men try to compete with you if they are not both emotionally and financially secure.
I have dated 2 women who were multimillionaires all had a higher net worth than I have.
I was not intimidated at all.
I did not need their money, had no interest in how much they had.
The reason I was not intimidated was I have all the money I need to last me the rest of my life.
It's not likely that any man would feel intimidated by a womans wealth, he may feel inadequate but not intimidated.
As far as a man feeling inadequate, I think that depends on how you treat him, what respect is shown and how you communicate about the issues.
I dated a woman on here who earns about $35 million a year, owns her own Gulfstream, condos in Aspen, Malibu, Manhatten etc and a 140' yacht. She was the most judgmental woman I have ever met. She was fine as long as you pushed back at her attitude but that gets old after awhile.
On the other hand, I have a buddy who is dating a woman with a $100 million net worth and they get along famously.
Personally, I would be more concerned about all the other issues and not about how much $$$ she has in the bank.
I only joined this site because of this post lol, personally I would love it. I couldnt care less if I earned 10% of what my partner earned. It is so nice to be on the other foot and not having to pay for everything, and its very special when a woman wants to treat you to things. There is a reason why she would be earning so much so good luck to her and well deserved as well. Relationships are two way things and if money is taken care of through my partner I would make up for it in other areas.
I've been with very wealthy women, and I've been with women who live paycheck-to-paycheck. I'm not intimidated by what you make or what you're worth, as long as you don't make me feel inferior because of it.
I actually prefer ladies with some net worth. Lets me know that a prenup agreement is not an insult. I also find that while the ladies are more cautious with their money not throwing it away to impress the neighbors. Many ladies that are not high net worth, just do not act well in the environment.
The solution is simple- make it clear in initial points of contact that your financial advisor has "locked up" most of your Net Worth and has you on a budget.
Having worked 30 plus years in the securities industry I have seen some interesting corporate/personal structures that prevent someone from being able to make claim against your assets. You should put such structures in place now rather later and stick to keeping your assets separate.
I have found that I am somehow much less attractive when the fact that my Net Worth is impaired.
I'm not intimidated by a weathy woman or a beautiful woman. I think if you feel confident in youself it doesn't matter about the other person's weathy, beauty, etc. I find we all have our problems, insecurities, and foibles no matter what we have to offer. None of us are perfect. I figure wealthy or beautiful women are no different than other people once we look inside.
here's a line I have used....and it never EVER fails.
When it comes time for the bill or check; and YOU know it's easier for you to pay, and it is no big deal...pick it up and say, succintly, innocently but to the point-
"I'll get this and if you don't let me, well then when it comes time for the sex, then I'll have to insist on abstinence."
I have had a sheepish grin and the check handed to me immediately. I have had their hand pulled away ASAP. I have had a huge LMAO; but I still paid. I have had an embarrased pause with nothing to say. I have had a "it's all yours." "whatever you say." "whatever makes you happy." "not a problem."
And all of the like---but not once have I ever had a man insist on paying after that. And using the right tone and inflection of voice it seems to come off without any intimidation factors. it just seems to take the male ego on money right off the table.