I'm 18 and black, smart and I consider myself attractive but I'm never approached by any white men and that's who I'm particularly interested in dating so my question is..."Are there any white males here interested in dating me"?
Well I like to date out of my race because it different. And fun. I love my self and every part of my beautiful brown skin. But when we make love I like to see my brown skin pressed agent a lighter color it's sexy to me. Like a oreo. Lol;-)
I think some black women feel a complex about dating black men because they don't have any confidence about their own self worthiness. History have taught them that they can do better outside of their race and they can be more successful if they dated outside of their own race.
In the time of slavery, the house master have taught the black women that they can achieve more in society if they address and pampher him more (the house master).
Hence: "The Willy Lynch Law." Slavery had devided the race in a way to allow the families of blacks to not find the confidence to sustain any kind of relationship among each other. We were often seperated, devided and often killed to satisfy our masters.
The "Masters" often seduced their black slave women to the degree where their white women wanted to seduce the black men, out of jealousy. The Slave masters disrepected the Black men to the degree where our black women felt that we could not protect them physically, financialy or mentally. Todays economy is a factor. Money speaks to them(women) today. They have no faith in their own kind or their own self. So they look for the white man to assist in their needs. Color doesn't make a difference. But don't deny us, for money reason. There are alot of us "good ones" out here.
I love my black women. In my past, I heard a black woman say she did not want a man darker than her, because she did not want a child to be dark. Black, White, Latino and etc... is beautiful. But, we seem to not recognize that.
I'm rich, but I don't think many of my sisters, understand or acknowledge what I am saying. GREEN, is their color, at least to some. When we find each other in trouble, at times that are bad, we can't stick by each other. I am a strong black man, when I'm down will you help? Will you be there? In my experience, I say, no. Black women, would rather run, at least those I'd became to know.
I rather have a white woman, because my sisters do not appreciate their "Black." The Darkman.
Brownskin91 concentrating on your education may be the best advice you can receive. Your idea for dating should not be centered around a person race. Their are good and bad in every race. You should look for that special someone that will love you for yourself. Take care of your body it's the only place you have to live .If you are looking for love make sure it's no infatuation. Many women on this site are looking for companionship. Check out their age you will see many are past your age. I'm not saying you should wait until you are old. Have something to fall back on like your education the world needs doctors you may make a great one.
Alilshyee is right go for what doesn't come to you instead of waiting. The more you wait the more the frustration...so start connecting,reach out and the returns might be greater than the expectations.Goodluck.