Ladies make yourself a list of ten questions you ask every guy on here. If he can't answer your questions to your satisfaction move on. Don't waste your time. If he isn't willing to travel to you to meet then let him go. If he doesn't have a job he is done with you. But make your questions ones you would use if you really wanted a longterm relationship to work. If you are just here for shortterm fun then you really shouldn't be complaining. You are part of the problem you have with men. Suggestions
I also had an experience with a tall black man. chased me for months, then all the red flags came up and i didn't want to look. he is charming, an artist, and a con man. he will take your heart and take your money too if offered. always something bad happening, need $800 to get my car fixed, need rent money, need this need that. excuse me buddy, i need too.
Hardly calls and when he does, complains about his life.
Watch out women, lives in Ft. Lauderdale on 15th st.
He contacted me. He wanted me to give him my phone number right away. Like "hi call me xxxx". I always ask to exchange a few emails first, if they're really interested, a few emails won't hurt (do they hurt, guys??). Then I didn't like the way he answered to me, and I didn't give my phone number. Great. My guts worked... Thanks for the warning!
That is so sad. After you got injected by red flag you automaticly start thinking about the next one who come across you. I met so many scamers with the picture of really handsome man but as soon as we start to talk and I ask what is your skype name or let's talk on the phone they keep telling me that they are on a business trip, then I locate their IP email and I find out they live in Africa. The I got really mad :(
I realize that there are many men who have less than pure motives but that is also true of women. The rub lies in finding someone worthwhile before becoming jaded to the point that no one gets in . Resist and beleive . To do otherwise is to admit defeat.
They like the chase/challenge. Its kinda like the hunter who admits the best part of the game is the search. Just be smarter and respect yourself. If your gut says somethings wrong, something is wrong and run the other way.
Hope that helps.
Thank you so much for the warning! Unfortunately given the nature of cyber dating sites, there is the great risk of attracting a fair amount of players. I have read fascinating books on people with personality disorders to sociopathy. Not at all to diss the good and sincere men here as I remain hopeful. However we must remain vigilant and trust our intuition! Stay safe you lovely women!
It's unfortunate that there are some men who make it difficult for others. Women, I believe, have to face many challenges. There are some men on this site pure to add up scores, there are some looking for love, there are some that just aren't sure what they want. It is a mix. Women, sadly, have to figure out who is the scammer and who is the genuine person. Best of luck!