Have you compared the cultural traits of Italian men to that of those raised in other countries. Always exceptions, either way, but I don't find men from other cultures so spoiled by their mothers. Even when a few generations removed from the 'old country' here, it is a joke that It. men (they never consider themselves Americans) never want to marry until their mothers have passed away. Especially the younger ones in families. It. men consider themselves somehow superior over all other ethnic groups of men...I've reminded a few as a joke 'Did you know the Roman Empire FELL several centuries ago?...now just the 'roaming men empire' is left.
Just because an Italian may be serious, intelligent, educated, good looking and financially secure does not necessarily mean that they have any connections with the mafia. I live in Italy and know some people that are successful, well-educated, financially stable, all-around great people and ALL of them have no connections with the mafia.
But then again, why narrow your search just to one nationality? Today more than ever the world has become a smaller place, in part thanks to the internet, where it is possible to know and meet people from all over the world, literally. Each person having something different to offer.