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Posted on Mon, Jan 11, 2010 07:16

How many men today are being told how to live, what to wear and where to go....alot..
If you want to have a real man in your life you must give him his freedom...Not to run with other woman, but to be himself..

What do you think?/?



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Posted on Tue, Jul 03, 2012 21:09

Quoting easymantolove:

If you want to have a real man in your life you must give him his freedom...
There are soooo many wrongs in the entire premise of your comment that I'm not even sure I know where to start!!!

First: Give him his freedom? How in the heck is HIS freedom yours to give or take? That's a pretty arrogant statement!

Second, women haven't taken anything from men. Some (most?) "men" have surrendered their own power of their own free will and that has nothing to do with you.

Third, if he is a REAL man (as you call it), you will never come close to taking or giving his freedom... he will be his own man at all times.

I thought I was the only one that had noticed that easymantolove!  lol, I can't add a thing to your statement.  You covered it all very well.



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Posted on Fri, Jun 22, 2012 09:15

Quoting Blondie2100:

How many men today are being told how to live, what to wear and where to go....alot..
If you want to have a real man in your life you must give him his freedom...Not to run with other woman, but to be himself..

What do you think?/?

I agree.  Make a man feel valued and affirm him daily. Men love it and will respond in your favor if they are smart men. Women can not change men but they can influence them and give them the qualities men desire such as appreciation, support , encouragement and acknowledgement.

Make them fell valued and they will not desire the vices men are known for.  They will want to be with the drug (her) that makes them feel valued and appreciated. They will blow her mind by doing chores and tasks without being asked or nagged. Cause they know they can not find her anywhere else. They want more of it. This is  real and possible but not understood in the dating and marraige circles. Only those who seek it out find the skills to keep a relationship strong and drawing for love and emotional and physical desires.

Couples who  get it enjoy the longterm growth of their marriage or relationship. Ask a longterm couple sometime and they will share their story with similar results.



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Posted on Sat, May 26, 2012 10:25

Where is this man, I'd like to meet him...;-)  Very well done Danny.



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Posted on Wed, May 04, 2011 15:00

Woman with substance shouldn't expect a man to make the effort? but where does it go then? Woman of your desire just being grateful and quite about you don't serve by your actions? When you will start appriciate her?



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Posted on Wed, Mar 30, 2011 08:19

I tend to rebel against a woman who will try to control me by telling me what to do.  I have been on dates where the woman wants to tell me everything I should do--where to eat, what to order, etc.  It was annoying.  I'm not a macho man.  I'm a gentleman and I enjoy ordering for a woman and planning the date.  Often I give them 3 choices to pick from.  Howver, if they come on strong on the date and lose site of their femininity, it is usually the last date, unfortunately.



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Posted on Tue, Feb 22, 2011 22:59

Quoting dannyspl:

Women who prefer to be in a long lasting relationship with a man should

1 Find a man who brings out the best in you
2 Find a man who values, appreciates, acknowledges,supports and affirms you often
3 Find a man whom you do not desire to change or mold to your expectations but has his own way of meeting them.
4 Find a man who can't wait to be involved with you and do the things you enjoy or need help with.
5 Find a man who understands the power you hold for just being a woman in his presence.
6 Find a man who will never raise his voice or lay a finger on you for any reason.
7 Find a man who does not do vices...Or feels he has a private life you can not be a part of.
8 Find a man who can cry in front of you and be able to handle his insecurities and vulnerabilities while keeping you in awe and on a pedistal to be cherished.

Try talking to a man who has been in a longterm relationship or marraige and see if he falls under these areas. He most likely will.



wow i agree



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Posted on Wed, Jan 26, 2011 17:48

Quoting dannyspl:

Newone the magic is this. While you may hope to find a man who is all these things or even some of them. That man is also looking for a certain type and style and character of a woman with substance of his desires and expectations. If you both happen to cross paths and sync up the magic begins. Just because you found him doesnt mean he may have found you too. That is why once you think you found him, Don't let him come to a conclusion that you think he is there to serve you or expect him to make all the effort. That kills it for him. He wants to serve you but doesn't want you to know it or expect it. You will know he wants to serve you by his actions. Show him you appreciate his efforts and value him for it. If he doesn't show it through his actions keep looking. He is not for you.
In my divorce groups this is the most common complaint men have.



I agree completely,, great job Danny !



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Posted on Tue, Jan 25, 2011 18:09

Newone the magic is this. While you may hope to find a man who is all these things or even some of them. That man is also looking for a certain type and style and character of a woman with substance of his desires and expectations. If you both happen to cross paths and sync up the magic begins. Just because you found him doesnt mean he may have found you too. That is why once you think you found him, Don't let him come to a conclusion that you think he is there to serve you or expect him to make all the effort. That kills it for him. He wants to serve you but doesn't want you to know it or expect it. You will know he wants to serve you by his actions. Show him you appreciate his efforts and value him for it. If he doesn't show it through his actions keep looking. He is not for you.
In my divorce groups this is the most common complaint men have.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 17, 2011 16:15

I agree dannyspl...however, where, pray tell, does this man live? ...lol I think it would be awesome to find someone who does that. It's all I ask for anyway because I am like that...I don't infringe and his family will always be his family and lot's of other good stuff but the reality is if you are like that then you end up here....lol



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Posted on Thu, Jan 06, 2011 01:14

Women who prefer to be in a long lasting relationship with a man should

1 Find a man who brings out the best in you
2 Find a man who values, appreciates, acknowledges,supports and affirms you often
3 Find a man whom you do not desire to change or mold to your expectations but has his own way of meeting them.
4 Find a man who can't wait to be involved with you and do the things you enjoy or need help with.
5 Find a man who understands the power you hold for just being a woman in his presence.
6 Find a man who will never raise his voice or lay a finger on you for any reason.
7 Find a man who does not do vices...Or feels he has a private life you can not be a part of.
8 Find a man who can cry in front of you and be able to handle his insecurities and vulnerabilities while keeping you in awe and on a pedistal to be cherished.

Try talking to a man who has been in a longterm relationship or marraige and see if he falls under these areas. He most likely will.



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Posted on Mon, Nov 29, 2010 20:19

Thank you! i do agree with your wisdom words completly



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Posted on Sun, Nov 28, 2010 04:40

I think that kind of Man lives in MEXICO
HAHAHAHAHA!!! :)

but seriously... it's good to have a MAN but not a Macho Man lol
and yes i think both Men & Women should be free to do and be who they are/ we were all born FREE<3



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Posted on Sat, Nov 13, 2010 11:21

If you have to tell a man what to wear, when to do chores, and to get a job then he's not your man.. he's your child...as I found out in my last relationship of almost 4 yrs.. he didn't want to work.. was an alcoholic.. didn't put his children or loved ones first.. cared more about his fantasy football and partying at concerts.. and he is 43... as you can tell, Im looking for that "real man" :)



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Posted on Wed, Mar 10, 2010 21:59

I thought ALL men already had their freedom. Maybe a definition of freedom would be in order. By freedom do you mean the ability to think for yourself and be your own person? If so I agree because we do not lose ourselves just because we enter into a relationship with another. By living and experiencing on a daily basis, we come back together with a more enriched life to share with the one we love. How boring it would be to be with my duplicate. Building trust with someone is so valuable and when a woman feels secure in her relationship with a man there are NO FREEDOM issues because each wants to give and receive without issues of who infringes on whose space. Love can be a beautiful give and take time in life. Just relax and enjoy!!!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 15, 2010 09:00

I am in agreement with easymantolove: A man's freedom is not yours to give.
If you don't feel like you can trust your man then you are not with the right man for you.
Trust and honesty is the most important thing in a relationship in my opinion

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Posted on Tue, Jan 26, 2010 00:05

A real man to me is a person who is confident and secure in his own right. He is head of his own house hold but showing loving consideration for his wife. It is a two way street. The man takes the lead and lovingly cares for the wife and she is submissive to him. This way there is no conflict as both are working for the love they have for each other.



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Posted on Sun, Jan 24, 2010 12:31

If you want to have a real man in your life you must give him his freedom...
There are soooo many wrongs in the entire premise of your comment that I'm not even sure I know where to start!!!

First: Give him his freedom? How in the heck is HIS freedom yours to give or take? That's a pretty arrogant statement!

Second, women haven't taken anything from men. Some (most?) "men" have surrendered their own power of their own free will and that has nothing to do with you.

Third, if he is a REAL man (as you call it), you will never come close to taking or giving his freedom... he will be his own man at all times.



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Posted on Tue, Jan 12, 2010 15:41

I have to agree with savvyguy4u.  It you have to instructed a man on dressing, and so forth then he's is n't the guy for you.  I also believe that when you meet each and get serious you have excepted each other for who they are and how you feel about each other.  When you try to change or improve another person then you never really cared for them in the first place.



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Posted on Tue, Jan 12, 2010 13:38

If you have to tell a man how to live, what to wear, and where to go, you have the wrong man!



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