EXCUSE ALL CAP'S. I'M NOT YELLING
NEW TO THIS "FORUM AND 2 WKS NEW TO THE WEBSITE.
MY QUESTION - AFTER HAVING A VERY LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP - IS IT TRULY POSSIBLE TO FIND ANOTHER , WELL, MAYBE NOT SOUL-MATE, BUT A "COMFORABLE COMPANION? OR IS EVERYONE "OUT THERE" LOOKING TO REGAIN THEIR YOUTH (GOOD LUCK) AND TRYING TO GET LAID?
I'M VERY INTERESTED IN YOUR FEEDBACK.
I hope not all the men on here are looking for the young sexy thing just for the show. I'm 45 and was hoping to atleast find a friend and go from there. I seen some of the profiles on here of the young ones and I can't compare to that...lol...Can't help but try and see what happens...I wish us all the best in finding what we are looking for, Jacki
It was said very well above, no, you are not too old and it's not too late. If you don"t try, then it certainly is.
I think that in general it is true that older men desire the younger women. For myself, I think that the greater the age difference the greater the possibility for incompatability.
Someone, male or female, closer to your age has a greater understanding of where you have come from, what you grew up with. I think that this has some importance.
I also think that age does mellow us, does wear off the jagged edges in our personalities.
I am a bit surprised by the number of younger women [younger by 8-10 years] that seem to be a match for me. Could they be on a sugardaddy? This site might encourage such.
I am about to turn 41 and, yet, I feel this way sometimes myself. I prefer someone 37 - 47, but most want younger women to have children with. I am not attracted to many men in their late 40's or older. Many young men 19 - 30 are interested in me for some reason (it is not money), but I think that they are too immature as a whole. Nonetheless, I know that the only way that I am going to find a man is to be out there either in real life or online. I wish you all success.
How sad we feel this way at our age! I am ONLY 57 years old and I still look good! My problem is that I have always liked older men. Even as a teen ager I was attracted to the older guy. But, here I am at 57 and I find the older man wants the way younger girl! I'm attracted to the guy in his late 60's early 70's and they want the women in their 30's. Unfair! (It was great when I was 30-hehe).
I, like many divorced women, had devoted my life to my children, ensuring they had a good education, were prepared (as much as possible) to enter the big wide world, and being both Mother and Father to them - baseball games, volleyball, cheerleading, softball, school functions, driving them to and from. I dated a few times, but, it just didn't work, for one reason or another.
At age 55 ,when I came to the cyber world and began my search for that illusive man, ..... I was too old for the 50's/early 60's men, yet, perfect for the 30/s early 40's men (if I was a Cougar) and had money. Most divorced men in my age group had grown children out of the house and were free to just go and do. I still had mine with me, for the most part.
At 58 I was a good choice for some mid 60's if I was foot loose and fancy free for a casual relationship (but only if I told them how much I loved giving oral - there was a clue as to my receiving intimate attentions), or had money to support myself because they were paying alimony and child support for the 30 something wife they had just divorced that had a young child.
At age 60, I am back in the desirable Cougar class, but, alas, I lack the mega funds to entertain the desiring 30 year and 20 year old class of which they are quite truthful about what they want. But, I am, AGAIN, too old for my own age group , BUT, a highly sought choice for men that are over 70. Age is relative, yes, and for some a prerequsite or preference. I like to leave my options quite open, yet, I realize that an age difference is sometimes a cultural things, not years. It all depends on the man.
Then, there is the "label" being placed on me, not being the slim, petite, athletic type 90% of the men say they want, that I don't "take care of myself" or "have let my feminity go". Hmmmmmm
Many women, young and older alike, view the singles world as a competition because they feel they lack something. So, they enter into the world of the chameleon lizard syndrome, ie, changing themselves to meet others expectations in order to "compete". I found myself in this exact position not long ago. Then, I realized I am me, just as I am. Being happy with myself is, in no way a ego thing, but is, in all ways, a psychological thing. Can you expect a man to be happy with you when you are not happy with yourself??? I am 60. I am comfortable with who I am. I don't need to compete because I, truely, want this special man to love me just the way I am. Besides, just like the men, we women all have our likes and dislikes, our desires and limits, and our preferences. No, not all men will like you. No, you will not be a match for many of them. But, you may be beautiful to many more than you think. It's a matter of self perspective.
Too old??? Is it too late?? Absolutely not, and don't let ANYONE tell you that you are. Besides, we "older" women have a lot to offer that special man, and, he has a lot to offer us. My children's greatgrandfather found the love of his heart at age 70. He had been widowed for 15 years. He met his Mary at the postoffice when the stamp machine jammed.
If we are fortunate, love will enter into our lives. It isn't a matter of age. There are plenty of men and women of different ages that feel they will never find love, or find it again. Negative searching produces one thing ...... nothing.
So, here I am, happy me, swimming through the ocean of possibilities. I love viewing profiles. Just think, if someone thinks they know what they want and limit their viewing to only that, then, you come along just browsing, they see you have viewed them, and they look at you and say WOW .... where has she/he been hiding ....... Hope is an illusive flying kite. The trick is ..... wrap the string firmly in your fingers!!! Eventually you gain control.
True love is like gold, or diamonds, we all love to have it, but sadly there isn't enough to go around. I'm not even going to bother looking for love. Since the happy pretty ones get it and fall out of it hurt, and I'm ugly and sad so basically no hope.
I'm feeling you, I've been so busy raising and putting two brothers, a young mentor, then my own two through college. Wow you look up at you'll now almost 55 years of age? Can't even remember the last time you have been ask out? Hey! Hold on I'm not bad on the eye (smile). So you are only one of many that has awaking to find that us loyal and one in a million lady are being look over. I say hang touch, it's what's got us safely here, this considering all the stds out there. And Girl friend it's not coming from us OG's (Oldies But Goodies). Stay hopeful, a change is bound to come. And let those that desire to pass us by, oh well, honey it's there lost. Never say never, we got it going on girl!