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Posted on Tue, Jul 28, 2009 19:27

If I have sex with a guy during our first date, would he call me back?

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Posted on Sun, Oct 02, 2011 19:03

If he is one of the rare ones who could mentally captivate me into WANTING to get naked on the first date, then yes, I would, and yes, he's always wanted to continue things after that. Mind you, online meeting does give the advantage of really getting to know someone very well before even seeing them in person, so there's a whole, connective history already in place - he is NOT a stranger. Likely I've known him several months (in one case nearly a year) before actually meeting in person, and have chatted and emailed frequently beforehand. In the last year, my needs have changed. I used to wait a minimum of 6 mos before going 'there', but now, what I need is different, and he doesn't need to meet a 'potential forever' criteria, so the excessive waiting is rather pointless. Now, he needs to be respectful, honest, caring, my friend, and someone whose mind intrigues me, and humor engages me, and I know well enough to trust and care about BEFORE we meet in person. I've NO interest in racking up a lot of meaningless sexual partners, but a select few who are truly worth the adventure is never a bad thing...no matter how many dates come before getting more physical. I know him. I'm not going to meet someone online and have sex with them this weekend...we've probably had 10 or more online 'dates' first, usually 20 or 30. When it's right, and schedules align, we meet, and what's right will be right. Granted, there have been very few who ever made it to the physical stage, but if he does, I trust myself enough to know he's not 'that guy' who wouldn't call me again if our chemistry was so off the charts that something happened on the first date. That is not mediocre stuff there.



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Posted on Tue, Jul 12, 2011 08:02

I think if you want to go for it, I personally think that sex should only occurred between two people who are in love.



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Posted on Fri, Jul 01, 2011 04:50

Of course I'd call you back. Remember, in this medium we've probably had emails, IMs and phone calls. So the first date is probably the third or forth date!
It's all about the moment and the chemistry.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 19, 2011 10:10

I woul definately call her back, the more you know about that woman the better it'll get. Com' on lets face it we are in A new century.



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Posted on Fri, Jan 07, 2011 10:03

You have to ask yourself Do I want a real long lasting relationship and know we both can trust eachother and stay faithful to eachother?

Or am I just having fun, living fast and don't care where the relationship goes cause there are others who would gladly take his place?

If you are on a revolving door of relationships, dating and sex, have fun and don't worry about whether he calls you cause he is thinking the same thing about you. Am I just another guy this week for her? Wait? How many other guys has she had this week?

ooor... Are you serious about him and really want something more than just sex to satisfy your passion to know him. If you are sincere then Never give in to your passions at the start. Make him work for it.

But if you are letting him work for it by buying you expensive dinners or dates than you are setting yourself up to have sex on the first or second date. Cause most men will seek a return earlier if they are investing more sooner. Make a choice and be fine with it.

In any real relationship the sex is usually the result of a loving and sincere passion that will have longlasting benefits. Otherwise you may end up here looking again or reading posts on a forum ...lol



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Posted on Sun, Jan 02, 2011 10:40

i would...



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Posted on Mon, Dec 20, 2010 18:14

Wow- my question is...if both parties are adults, what is wrong with sex on any date.



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Posted on Fri, Nov 26, 2010 15:40

Quoting HappyUSGal:

Depends on whether you want a second date or not. Many men don't go on a second date with an "easy" girl. How do you know whether he's this kind of man or not? You don't. So if you don't care whether a second date happens, go ahead if you like.

When a woman has sex, her body generates a number of chemicles that mimic the sensation of falling in love. If the bloke she's with turns out to be a "bad boy", bam! now she's stuck feeling loved up with a cretin. So an arguement for waiting is to ensure that you've create those sensations with someone worth feeling loved up about.

golden words



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Posted on Tue, Nov 02, 2010 20:07

I'm guilty of doing it (literally). Honestly, it has never worked out for me. Men can be pretty superficial and it's pretty hurtful.



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Posted on Tue, Nov 02, 2010 02:02

Depends on whether you want a second date or not. Many men don't go on a second date with an "easy" girl. How do you know whether he's this kind of man or not? You don't. So if you don't care whether a second date happens, go ahead if you like.

When a woman has sex, her body generates a number of chemicles that mimic the sensation of falling in love. If the bloke she's with turns out to be a "bad boy", bam! now she's stuck feeling loved up with a cretin. So an arguement for waiting is to ensure that you've create those sensations with someone worth feeling loved up about.



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Posted on Sat, Oct 30, 2010 08:52

Quoting xoxoxo2004:

I think with your looks he may but how can a man respect or trust a woman if she would do something like that? I think we need to respect ourselves first Know matter what. How can anyone expect others to respect them if they dont respect their self.



Bonita,

I agree 100% with xoxoxo2004 !
Never do it.



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Posted on Thu, Oct 28, 2010 21:44

Oh come on, really?



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Posted on Sat, Jul 17, 2010 10:03

I've never had sex on the first date nor do I desire to.  I understand others who would and I don't judge you for it.  However, the act of sex is very intimate and I'd prefer to save that for someone I care about deeply.  My philosophy is sex when there is commitment and monogomy. 



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Posted on Fri, Jul 09, 2010 13:02

Why not?



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Posted on Wed, Jul 07, 2010 15:02

Of course i would, we are both grown adults, we should be able to disguise between chemisty and sex.



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Posted on Mon, Jul 05, 2010 19:21

I think with your looks he may but how can a man respect or trust a woman if she would do something like that? I think we need to respect ourselves first Know matter what. How can anyone expect others to respect them if they dont respect their self.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 14, 2010 17:14

I WOULD MARRY YOU



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Posted on Sat, Jun 12, 2010 13:31

It depends on the guy. I personally would take my time and let something special happen over time.



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Posted on Thu, Jun 10, 2010 10:09

Okay, this is going to irk many of the traditionalists...but, it doesn't matter. It just doesn't matter. Rules are simply a replacement for conscious thought. Social conditioning (not your emotions, not biology, not evolution) tells women that they are WRONG for their physical desires. Most of the harsh judgements came from OTHER WOMEN. Feel free to reread the posts if you missed it. So, in order to satisfy this social conditioning (which is enforced by other women as a threat to her most valuable asset to a potential mate...her reputation), she comes up with RULES like no sex on a first date.
Okay, kiddies, what if she has sex on the second date? Does that make her any more or less valuable? What about the third? In either case, it is totally meaningless from the standpoint of objective reality. Completely meaningless.
Her health, you argue? Having sex with 10 partners on first dates poses no greater risk than 10 partners on second or third dates. Make sense...?
No long term potential? Well, I've had several multi-year relationships with women I slept with immediately (first night). Every woman is aware of the "It Just Happened" clause.
What a woman understands with me is I just don't care either way. I'm not going to pass judgement whether it happens today, tomorrow, or next week...as long as it's authentic, what she truly feels in her heart of hearts. If I get the impression that she is just following some outside rule/muddled intent (like only on the 3rd date or what would her friends think, etc), then I'm gone. To me those behaviors (outside rules) represent manipulation and game playing. If she has not reached the point where she can think for herself and make decisions based on what SHE feels is best for her, then she is to be recycled for further development. I have too many options to tolerate immaturity.



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