I was just recently messaged by an individual on this site who was from LA and lived with his daughter. I only messaged him a few times but he seemed "very good looking" and a family man who's wife had died seven years before. He was very interested in IM, so we could get a lot closer. I won't mention how, but I came to realize that he is from Nigeria and works in a cyber cafe....says he is a CHRISTIAN AND FAMILY MAN....... gets very close "falls in love" with women and finds himself and his daughter stranded in Nigeria, where he asks the woman to wire him money to get him home. He may also send a bogus money order and the woman puts it in her bank and wires him the money. Of course, never to be heard from again. This is very common on dating sites and it is important that women and men be cautious about relationships. If money is asked for "please" let it be a red flag and never say that something like this could never happen to me. There are so many scammers and they do it well. We must all be careful of this. If anyone has any comments about this or if they have had an experience please let everyone know. It may seem embarrassing but......we are all human and most of us are looking for someone special in our lives.
I would say that I've apparently been lucky not to come across these scammers( thank god) but instead I seem to attract men with somewhat psychopathic tendencies, those are the most dangerous ones.
If in any help, I look for transparency in the ones I connect with, how easy or willing they give up identity information, google there names, look for verified logo in here exc. but be still aware that some men steal public figures identity, so ask for Skype meeting, also get them on Facebook perhaps.
BlueEyes & Zibeline, I understand it must be frustrating to deal with. However, There are some men here who are Genuine in their search for beautiful loving women like you both seem. I can also assure us men go through the same thing as the women do. I get emails and winks from beautiful women ranging from 20 to 30 years younger than me. Trust me when I tell you, I have 0 interest in a women my kids age.
So as we all sift through the profiles searching for our match, please try to stay positive. There is a genuine and loving man just as eager as you are to fall in love and live a great life from now on.
Every time I see a profile with a very handsome man who is a widower, I am careful. I was, too, contacted by a couple of these scammers that asked me to go on IM and after almost immediately proclaiming their love for me. I asked one guy to chat with me on FB and he got blocked within 1 day so that is a sign, too, that he was on the black list. I found one picture under several profiles, too. Another indication is that they are not looking for a specific type of woman and that their profile shows the sentences ending with a period with an "i" following without a space and not in caps. Usually, the headline has spelling or grammatical errors in it but the profile sounds almost too perfect or very romantic.
I hope this helps catching "a preditor before he strikes" :-)
Something needs to be done about the Scammers. Legal eagle 1219 is most definitely a scammer! Not a lawyer by any stretch of the imagination. He says he owns a health care company and practices law. He does marketing ( or did, he is gone) for a healthcare company. Lives in a furnished rental and I believe he is married. I was only interested in him professionally. If he is this dishonest on a professional level, I can only imagine what he is like romantically.
I think this dating site should make a few changes in order to prepare men/women for the scammers out there. As part of joining this site a window should pop up with all the signs of spotting a scammer. The MMCounselor has posted a very detailed blog on how to spot them......a must read for everyone!!! You will find scammers on ALL dating sites but MM is really good at removing them once reported. Listen to your gut......if it is too good to be true it is NOT. Sometimes you just need to weed out the scum to find the good so do not give up hope of finding that special person in your life. Sharing your experiences is a good way to teach others.......be safe my friends and welcome to the forums.
I am also considering terminating my membership. I don't have time to worry about being taken in by someone so unless I can figure out a sure, fail proof way of knowing someone is legit, I think I will throw in the towel.
I think you are not right, it has nothing to do with whether you have money or not, because they always ask for small amounts, 1000€ 1500€ (I am from Europe), amounts that every one can afford. In my opinion, they are easy to detect. As someone already said, do not send money to anyone you don't know.
Would you dare to borrow money from someone you've known online for a few days?
OMG! the same guy contacted me, only he had a son and asked for money since he could not pay his hotel bill after purchasing "antiques" for his store in Texas! Cyber dating is scary and I am tired of all the BS when I am honest and sincere about meeting someone!
I just viewed your profile with curiosity, why this scammer contacted you. You are like me “Less than $150,000”. But differences are; your education is higher and your occupation is better about you. Education and occupation on My Match / Friend - An Outline is limited and with higher level. And you stated “ I enjoy traveling to new and different places. I have traveled throughout the USA, abroad to Italy and France, Aruba and bareboated a sailboat in the Virgin Islands which was the best vacation ever! “ on about me. These make me think that you have money. Maybe that’s why he contacted you. Sorry, this is just my opinion.
How are you doing and how is everything going on at the moment and hope all has been going on fine with you there lately, am glad to read from you again, how has work been going on there, i miss you and i wished we could be together someday soon, my dear please i don't know how you might feel about this if you'll be willing to assist me with some little bucks at the moment Collins suddenly develop a little sickness couple of nights ago and since then its been developing to something bigger, first i thought it was a little flu or something but now needed to be admitted in the hospital for proper treatment and i know know if you can kindly assist me with about 300 pounds, I remain grateful and glad if you can give your supporting hands at the moment and please don't feel abit discourage that am asking you for help without even meeting yet, kindly get back to me as soon as possible.
Your Sweet Angel,
this is an actual letter I got from a woman in the UK I have been emailing with for a few weeks. This is email#6/7. Right on time asking for money. 300pounds is what $500US ??
I was approached by a lady just two days ago. All of you on this thread are on the right track. Her "blond" picture just didn't "fit" her language. Her profile said she lived 6 miles from me. When I asked to meet down the street and she replied with I'm in "West Africa," my mental alarm system immediately went off and I reported her. MM replied the next day she was off the site.
BTW...I'm an ex IT guy, 18 years worth. When someone wants to start IMing you from another provider right away (Yahoo, MSN, etc. etc) BEWARE. There are ways to "tunnel" into your PC and either start some identity theft on you or use your PC as a zombie (use your PC to be a server and send out spam)
Not trying to push panic buttons, but as always, use your best judgement.
"When it's to good to be true, it probably isn't true, right?"..... :-)
Just a few words on scams, false profiles and controls. It seems the problem is not just here on this site, but also on others such as meetic. I am not a native English speaker, but some of those profiles read so funny, are plenty of spelling and grammatical errors and the descriptions are repeated in several profiles. If the webmasters do not find any appropriate tool just to analyse and eliminate the false profiles, I am afraid that members will become less and less. Not everyone of us is able to detect immediately those scams, but after the exchange of some emails, it becomes mostly evident and before all when those "nice" gentlemen (I assume that also men do complain about being approached by female scammers) ask you for ..... money. Best regards from old Germany - Liette
Im sad to say I almost felll victim to someone I started communication with on this site. First I found it so odd he did not want to meet living so close to my town. Then he had to leave the country and communication continued. Then a big business deal went down. We were talking back and forth while he was overseas. Said he was coming home for Christmas and wanted me to pick him up at airport. I was real leary because I had never met him. Then the clincher came he needed money to finish his big deal overseas. As soon as money came up in conversations red flags flew up and I just put closure to it. I felt foolish it wasn't about the big money he so called was making but I was forming a friendship that I thought had a possibility of moving forward
This is not a new thing and surely not exclusive to this site. I just posted a Blog titled Seven Steps to Smart and Safe Online Dating and the first step was Understand there are all kinds of people online and they can tell you anything and they do. You have to really subscribe t that paradigm when trying to meet people online.