Dating Scams Dating Tips and Advices

  • View author's info Author posted on Jun 23, 2009 12:12

    I was just recently messaged by an individual on this site who was from LA and lived with his daughter. I only messaged him a few times but he seemed "very good looking" and a family man who's wife had died seven years before. He was very interested in IM, so we could get a lot closer. I won't mention how, but I came to realize that he is from Nigeria and works in a cyber cafe....says he is a CHRISTIAN AND FAMILY MAN....... gets very close "falls in love" with women and finds himself and his daughter stranded in Nigeria, where he asks the woman to wire him money to get him home. He may also send a bogus money order and the woman puts it in her bank and wires him the money. Of course, never to be heard from again. This is very common on dating sites and it is important that women and men be cautious about relationships. If money is asked for "please" let it be a red flag and never say that something like this could never happen to me. There are so many scammers and they do it well. We must all be careful of this. If anyone has any comments about this or if they have had an experience please let everyone know. It may seem embarrassing but......we are all human and most of us are looking for someone special in our lives.
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  • View author's info posted on Nov 12, 2013 09:41

    BlueEyes & Zibeline, I understand it must be frustrating to deal with. However, There are some men here who are Genuine in their search for beautiful loving women like you both seem. I can also assure us men go through the same thing as the women do. I get emails and winks from beautiful women ranging from 20 to 30 years younger than me. Trust me when I tell you, I have 0 interest in a women my kids age.


    So as we all sift through the profiles searching for our match, please try to stay positive.  There is a genuine and loving man just as eager as you are to fall in love and live a great life from now on.

  • View author's info posted on Jun 29, 2013 16:53

    Every time I see a profile with a very handsome man who is a widower, I am careful.  I was, too, contacted by a couple of these scammers that asked me to go on IM and after almost immediately proclaiming their love for me.  I asked one guy to chat with me on FB and he got blocked within 1 day so that is a sign, too, that he was on the black list.  I found one picture under several profiles, too.  Another indication is that they are not looking for a specific type of woman and that their profile shows the sentences ending with a period with an "i" following without a space and not in caps.  Usually, the headline has spelling or grammatical errors in it but the profile sounds almost too perfect or very romantic.
    I hope this helps catching "a preditor before he strikes" :-)
  • View author's info posted on Jun 23, 2013 20:24

    Something needs to be done about the Scammers. Legal eagle 1219 is most definitely a scammer! Not a lawyer by any stretch of the imagination. He says he owns a health care company and practices law. He does marketing ( or did, he is gone) for a healthcare company. Lives in a furnished rental and I believe he is married. I was only interested in him professionally. If he is this dishonest on a professional level, I can only imagine what he is like romantically.
  • View author's info Recommended posted on Jun 10, 2013 06:47

    I think this dating site should make a few changes in order to prepare men/women for the scammers out there.  As part of joining this site a window should pop up with all the signs of spotting a scammer.  The MMCounselor has posted a very detailed blog on how to spot them......a must read for everyone!!!
    You will find scammers on ALL dating sites but MM is really good at removing them once reported.   Listen to your gut......if it is too good to be true it is NOT.
    Sometimes you just need to weed out the scum to find the good so do not give up hope of finding that special person in your life.
    Sharing your experiences is a good way to teach safe my friends and welcome to the forums.
  • View author's info posted on Jun 09, 2013 00:52

    I can't understand why are you sending money to people and don't ask them:why you don't go at the bank and ask for a credit card?
  • View author's info posted on Oct 15, 2010 07:00

    I am also considering terminating my membership. I don't have time to worry about being taken in by someone so unless I can figure out a sure, fail proof way of knowing someone is legit, I think I will throw in the towel.

  • View author's info posted on Aug 30, 2010 13:42


    I think you are not right, it has nothing to do with whether you have money or not, because they always ask for small amounts, 1000€ 1500€ (I am from Europe), amounts that every one can afford. In my opinion, they are easy to detect. As someone already said, do not send money to anyone you don't know.

    Would you dare to borrow money from someone you've known online for a few days?
  • View author's info posted on Jul 13, 2010 02:38

    Quoting Smileblondie:

    OMG!  the same guy contacted me, only he had a son and asked for money since he could not pay his hotel bill after purchasing "antiques" for his store in Texas!  Cyber dating is scary and I am tired of all the BS when I am honest and sincere about meeting someone!

    Hi Smileblondie,
    I just viewed your profile with curiosity, why this scammer contacted you. You are like me “Less than $150,000”. But differences are; your education is higher and your occupation is better about you. Education and occupation on My Match / Friend - An Outline is limited and with higher level. And you stated “ I enjoy traveling to new and different places. I have traveled throughout the USA, abroad to Italy and France, Aruba and bareboated a sailboat in the Virgin Islands which was the best vacation ever! “ on about me. These make me think that you have money. Maybe that’s why he contacted you. Sorry, this is just my opinion.
  • View author's info posted on May 06, 2010 00:04

    Hello my sweet Thomas,

    How are you doing and how is everything going on at the moment and hope all has been going on fine with you there lately, am glad to read from you again, how has work been going on there, i miss you and i wished we could be together someday soon, my dear please i don't know how you might feel  about this if you'll be willing to assist me with some little bucks at the moment Collins suddenly develop a little sickness couple of nights ago and since then its been developing to something bigger, first i thought it was a little flu or something but now needed to be admitted in the hospital for proper treatment and i know know if you can kindly assist me with about 300 pounds, I remain grateful and glad if you can give your supporting hands at the moment and please don't feel abit discourage that am asking you for help without even meeting yet, kindly get back to me as soon as possible.

    Your Sweet Angel,


    this is an actual letter I got from a woman in the UK I have been emailing with for a few weeks. This is email#6/7. Right on time asking for money. 300pounds is what $500US ??

    Posted for a example of a small time scammer.


  • View author's info posted on Mar 06, 2010 02:54

    This scam has been going on for about 10 years and I am surprised that this site has allowed it to continue.

    I lived in Africa and if you ever saw the living conditions of Nigeria, you'd understand why they want out!

    But in the meantime, I am so glad that no one has fallen for this.




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  • View author's info posted on Jan 12, 2010 13:53

    I was approached by a lady just two days ago. All of you on this thread are on the right track. Her "blond" picture just didn't "fit" her language. Her profile said she lived 6 miles from me. When I asked to meet down the street and she replied with I'm in "West Africa," my mental alarm system immediately went off and I reported her. MM replied the next day she was off the site.

    BTW...I'm an ex IT guy, 18 years worth. When someone wants to start IMing you from another provider right away (Yahoo, MSN, etc. etc) BEWARE. There are ways to "tunnel" into your PC and either start some identity theft on you or use your PC as a zombie (use your PC to be a server and send out spam)

    Not trying to push panic buttons, but as always, use your best judgement.

    "When it's to good to be true, it probably isn't true, right?"..... :-)




  • View author's info posted on Dec 29, 2009 14:00

    Just a few words on scams, false profiles and controls. It seems the problem is not just here on this site, but also on others such as meetic. I am not a native English speaker, but some of those profiles read so funny, are plenty of spelling and grammatical errors and the descriptions are repeated in several profiles. If the webmasters do not find any appropriate tool just to analyse and eliminate the false profiles, I am afraid that members will become less and less. Not everyone of us is able to detect immediately those scams, but after the exchange of some emails, it becomes mostly evident and before all when those "nice" gentlemen (I assume that also men do complain about being approached by female scammers) ask you for ..... money. Best regards from old Germany - Liette

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  • View author's info posted on Dec 28, 2009 11:14

    Thank -you for the site I'm still searching but cautious maybe sitting at home reading and hanging out with my dogs isn't so borning after all.


  • View author's info posted on Dec 28, 2009 11:08

    Im sad to say I almost felll victim to someone I started communication with on this site.  First I found it so odd he did not want to meet living so close to my town.  Then he had to leave the country and communication continued.  Then a big business deal went down. We were talking back and forth while he was overseas.  Said he was coming home for Christmas and wanted me to pick him up at airport.  I was real leary because I had never met him.  Then the clincher came he needed money to finish his big deal overseas.  As soon as money came up in conversations red flags flew up and I just put closure to it.  I felt foolish it wasn't about the big money he so called was making but I was forming a friendship that I thought had a possibility of moving forward

  • View author's info posted on Dec 22, 2009 17:50

    How do you know if a photo is fake? Do you mean that it's not really the photo of the person that is using the profile? Did you find out after you actually met, or were there other clues?
  • View author's info posted on Oct 31, 2009 23:29

    I've just come across a scammer on MM too and was shocked to see that there are quite a few profile photos on here who are fake.

    Here's a good site to check out, it also shows photos used by scammers:

    It includes 'email messages' sent out to numerous people, fake email addresses that people give out as well as photos used by scammers.

    Good luck and safe searching! :)


  • View author's info posted on Jul 31, 2009 23:29

    This is not a new thing and surely not exclusive to this site. I just posted a Blog titled Seven Steps to Smart and Safe Online Dating and the first step was Understand there are all kinds of people online and they can tell you anything and they do. You have to really subscribe t that paradigm when trying to meet people online.
  • View author's info posted on Jul 03, 2009 06:58

    MM apparently still doesn't control the scammers. That's why I terminated my membership as a certified millionaire a couple of years ago.
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