Newcomer Advice From A MM Has Been Newcomer Introduction Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Jan 03, 2009 at 04:10 PM

    I feel compelled to share my past MM story with all newcomers and current members. MY reasons for doing so is to prevent another member from thinking they way I did the 1st time around.

    We all know what dating is the ?normal? way, have been in relationships both successful and not so successful. It?s VERY important to NOT think posting a profile online is anything different. Meeting people online whether its ? emailing, IMing, texting, phone calling or even meeting in person is no different than a bar, frozen peas section of the grocery store or through a friend. Both people with Good intentions and Bad intentions are here as they are everywhere else.

    Don?t get hung up on a man/woman that communicates well in emails and writes sweet nothings telling you everything you want to hear! Sitting alone late at night waiting in front of the computer for someone to pay attention to you is addicting and a very lonely experience. So when he/she does contact you ? don?t assume your world just got brighter and lose all sense of common sense. Instead, imagine him/her standing in front of you communicating with you in any normalized venue outside the home and ask yourself, is this person for real? If it sounds too good to be true, it is.

    Remember - there are people here too busy in their lives to visit socializing locations to meet people. There are people here too shy to step out and say here I am. There are people hear looking for someone to support them and pay their bills. There are people here looking for love and friendship. There are people here looking for a mommy or a daddy. There are people hear looking to further their career. There are people here seeking validation and acceptance. There are people here wanting to learn about people and their cultures.

    My point is ? don?t allow this sort of meet and greet venue to sidetrack you from who you are, what you seek in life and what validates your identity. Online dating can be a great or a miserable experience. Keep your head on straight and keep your feet on the ground. And if it doesn?t work here, try something else.

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  • View author's info Posted on Aug 29, 2013 at 10:39 AM

    Thanks to all of you for your comments. I appreciate all the advice I can get. I am new to this as well. I thought I would try this website, because I am tired of supporting every man I have met. It would be nice to meet someone who is an equal for a change. I guess not every person on here is honest and I will have to be careful.  Thanks again.

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 20, 2013 at 09:42 PM

    It's like this. I'm on here. I'm new. I scared to death of this. Can't believe that i am here. Have no idea what this is all about.  How can people trust totla strangers ? I don't get it. Especially today. This is not the 1950's Console me or someone at least humor me !!
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 19, 2011 at 02:28 AM

    To both the ladies that have comment on the whole dating online and there experiences. First of all that is great advise to those of us who are new to this site and online dating. It is tough to meet people as it is, other wise most of us would not be here searching for a possible relationship. Be it, the possibilities of new friends or that next great love. In the times we live in it is scary out here trying to take a chance on some one you have never scene or meet before except via a website. So to hear about the scams and how criminal minded men are out here trying to steel peoples home and scam them for large amounts of money, when all along you are hoping to find love. This is just not right to prey on the emotions of others. This is the biggest reason I have been leery of these type of sites. Although I know first hand through close friends that sometimes great relationships have come about from dating sites. I am still on the fence about all of this website dating. But I guess it wouldn't hurt to check it out. But I will be extra careful for the men that are trying to scam. Again Ladies Thank you again for your honesty and for warnings.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 14, 2009 at 07:09 PM

    Cappie, I like what you had to say, and think it's a great warning to newcomers both male and female alike. I came on the site in the early Spring of '08, and was suspicious from the start of men who commented on my looks only, and rarely on my Profile. I deleted most of them right away. In mid-December, however, someone caught my attention w/a very clever remark that I had "won a contest on Millionaire," so I checked out his Profile, liked it and began a friendship. To his credit, I don't think I ever heard such nice things said to me in all my life, especially at a time when I was going thru a medical crisis. I got scared and ended the relationship when this nice fellow became hostile when I didn't go along with his requests for personal info, or his offers to take care of me or call him. As an intelligent, mature, divorcee, I would recommend always being able to read between the lines and separate fantasy from reality. If someone professes to love you and you've never met, you may be entering into a danger zone.

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