In some way I feel you are insulting the people who believe in romance and soul mate by telling they are dumb.
Not all the women like the beach boy or maybe they like it but when they read the profile that is not enough to make a life and trust me they stop being interested when they read profiles. And is not like you like someone that is not of your like. While I was living in Europe I've got quite surprised to realize that what is considered beautiful in my country there was not. Just look the most handsome men in France, England or Germany according to their standards and ask a mexican and she will tell you: "no ,impossible". Eventhough what is beautiful for mexicans foreigners tells us no.
It is not about being beautiful is more deep, its a thing of connection with the person. As I remember I was interested once of a man who had the worst teeth and the ugliest smile and laugh. Eventhough I still remember that, like the most beautiful smile I've ever seen. Because he was expressing his joy, happiness and well being. To see your beloved ones happy provides a beauty that trascends everything. Under no circumstance I would accept him to do cirgury for his teeth or to practice a smile that massive communications require as approvable. I prefer uniqueness, sincerity and joy. In old times to have a scar was a thing of pride and beauty, it was showing that the man struggled in fight in war. It was the sample of someone who dares to live, someone with courage and intelligence. Now magazines and movies show "perfect" men like dolls, you also see in TV programs men who go into cirgury. I would rather prefer him to invest that same money to learn to play an instrument or learn to do poetry.
It depends some times you feel interested in a person who is not attractive to others but it is to you. Hope you have the wisdom to realize that in the right moment ;) and that you can listen to yourself.
no...having a dream of connecting deeply to another human being isn't dumb, prostitution is in the eye of the beholder, everyone is looking for something..personally I am searching for someone who hasnt money issues and is open to a relationship with someone who believes in soul mate romance and destiny....dumb is...relating on the surface with too much to lose so they are already "lost" so to speak...gone!
Shazzie2 write: You're a piece of work... I may be older than you, but I can tell you're probably just a sphincter muscle.. as big as your ego!
... And so the old woman's mindset reverts back to that of a child.
Don't tell me you've resorted to childish name calling.
I warn you, throughout my life I've been called almost everything your tiny little mind could imagine...
so putting too much effort into it could very well be a waste of your time.
Or maybe they don't have careers because nowadays it truly doesn't pay to work for anyone?
Not to mention to pay for the mortgage, the bills, food, as well as health insurance, car insurance, and still having slightly enough to invest in an IRA?
Perhaps these people don't have jobs or careers because their parents were the lazy ones and were often burdened with shouldering many things at an early age that wasn't necessary at all.
You see, for every successful man out there... someone "great", there is 100 of me... maybe a 1,000 with parents who were too stupid to know the difference between an apple and an orange.
So, to compensate for their lack of motivation they instead thought it wiser to spend their money they saved up for their son's college fund on partying.
You know, I actually tried thinking positive once and all it did was slow me down. Then... he moves out of his house at the age of 16 and gets a place to stay... balances work and high school.
Well, let's put into consideration the cost of college, the Pell grant as well as some Loans.
The interest rates on those things are so high, it tends to KEEP people stuck on a spartan lifestyle.
And if there is anything -I- ever learned, is that just because you have a DEGREE it doesn't guarantee you a JOB.
So, you know what? Screw your second husband, he most likely had parents and home to support him until he was 20 something years of age.
Me? Well, after a ton of hardships and countless lessons I was forced to learn at my expense as well as having to fight hard to get someone else's scraps to survive... it turned me into the noble, upstanding man you see before you.
Tch... lazy, lack motivation, and are immature.
Ha, that'd be a laugh if it wasn't a cry.
You may have given up on many things in exchange for peace of mind... or whatever you want to call whatever lies you're feeding yourself.
I, on the other hand, see no need for compromise nor do I buy into any of these excuses.
You see... I have standards and as simple as they are, they're also pure.
The fault is not my own if many of the women today cannot fit those standards.
I refuse to encourage this cycle of hand-me-down women.
I want a virgin. Plain and simple.
I can't get one? Well that's tough luck for me, right? But at least there is comfort in knowing that I stood by my standards and suffered by them like a real man.
There's also comfort in knowing that though I may not get what I want, I didn't fold like a cheap deck of cards under pressure.
These are my standards today and will be tomorrow and for years to come until the day I die.
I only ask for that one thing in life and if I can't get it... well, I'm pleased in knowing that I stood by what I believed. No matter how foolish it seems to everybody else.
You may have sacrificed some shreds of your dignity for a moments piece of mind... but I sacrifice nothing and I will compromise nothing.
I will -not- change my attitude, nor will I put up a mask to cover what lies underneath the skin. That's a "players" job. Me? I grew up once I graduated high school so I have no need to play those games.
But for you to actually believe that your way of thinking is original for it's time...embers..
Not tryin' to knock your hustle or anythin' but...
That itself is a joke all of it's own and you're the punchline behind it.
Now, if there isn't anything else you'd like to add?
Because your sorry attempts at wit only grate at the reader's mind I assure you.
Ignorance is bliss and if you'd rather stick your head in the sand... by all means!
Truth of the matter is you're getting older and it's only going to get that much harder.
After all, you're only going to be stuck with someone else's damaged goods.
I don't you think you care though.
Pity, perhaps with all of the men your "soul mate" might've been with she could chalk it up for experience.
Don't worry, I'm sure you'll get your turn on the merry-go-round soon enough.