This is simplicity itself, in my opinion. And it is the same reason a wealthy woman might want a wealthy man. It takes money out of the equation as a motivating factor. When I'm with a woman who has her own wealth, I know she is there for me. Just as I am there for her, since I have my own money. A superb relationship eclipses all monetary considerations, OF COURSE.
But when one has wealth, the issue can get cloudy. It's not so much a matter of trust as it is just a practical issue. When a woman of wealth wants to spend time with me, I'm certain she's there for me, and not my money. She can likewise be certain of the same about me, since I have my own money and am not there with her BECAUSE of her money. This mutual certainty on this sometimes cloudy point, is a very very good thing if one is wealthy and seeking a truly rewarding and deep relationship, independent of monetary considerations.

My opinion only, of course.

I have tried it the other way and been sorely disappointed, so my viewpoint is of course clouded.

My personable bias aside, I do believe there is this point.

I don't think most older men care about having someone to show off. I won't say all, because obviously there are some guys out there that only want a young woman to use as a trophy. Some guys just like the look and vibrance of a hot young body though and are genuinely attracted to it

Every research I have read points to the fact that we are attracted to people like us.  So, if it is money, hobbies, looks, personality, or whatever, most people will gravitate towards that person.

You know this makes sense.  Kind of the old birds of a feather flock togeth thingy!

@ Hawaii0001 - I think you stated it clearly. I am here for all the same reasons. But having read a number of postings throughout the forum clearly written by men and women who are NOT wealthy... I have some concerns about this website.

Best of luck to you!

Truth be told...Most wealthy men care more about young hot chicks. They like to think people who see them together will think how lucky he is...in reality most just ask...wonder what she is costing for the night and look at that old geezer with that gold digger.

Just look at the age many men seek...come on...a 55 yr old or 60 yr old man seeking females between 18 and 30???? Creepy when they care to date some gal thier daughter adn grand daughter's age.

Wealth does not mean intelligence...the ego must be stroked but really intelligent wealthy men know that game and yes they will prefer an attractive gal that has made something of herself....most likely she will not be in it for the money and she will not spend his money as much as she will care about investing it or saving it or making wise bargain purchases rather than wasteful spending.

The latter however is much more of a RARE find. I do not know where they hide.

I'd have to say I agree. People may call it shallow to look for someone in the same financial bracket, but it gives a sense of emotional security for BOTH partners. These days wealthier women are as plagued by men who want 'sugar mommas' as men are by women looking to... marry up. I believe that love exists outside of monetary boundaries but compatibility need take such boundaries into account. I dearly loved someone who would never make anywhere near what I will. If I were ever to fall ill and we had children, he would be unable to maintain a similar standard of living.

hahaah thats what you think? absolutely wrong? I like the line when you said.. i am with him because i adore him, this is the man i cant live without. I look for what you got and what you can do for me. I look for your inside heart not your package.
A short story of mine:
I was in this site, guys lining up for dates. honestly im giving them and telling them my schedule. Im very honest that im in search for a partner. I have an awesone story dating guys from this site. Im so lucky enough to get to know them. I knew that many guys out here thought that woman would come to them because of the profiles,a woman knows what you got and what you can provide for them. But here comes ME - first in line - mr atty -he was fun to be with,i enjoy his company but i did not see myself to be with him for long. 2nd ,mr dentist - We dine in , a little drink and playing billiards, he showed me what he got, everything that you can think of woman, i knew he can provide me of everything i want but he cant provide my need and my satisfaction, theres no connection but we had fun. He asked for 2nd date and third date - i told him honestly. Im looking for genuine and connectivity. 3rd guy- a doctor - coffee and talk then dinner to pool- once again i enjoy the fun, he got sense of humor. I dont pretend that i am not, i act as exactly who i am everyday. I told him what im looking for and he do the same. Asked for 2nd date - No thank you i enjoy your show, you were a good person, wish you luck. finally 4th guy - he got a job, decent person, who enjoy sport and love to cook. he pampered me for food and stuff, We got a connection, i can myself to him, for a month we dated but surprise - he left me. no emails and no phone calls. I know he will come back. I was sad and i stop this internet dating. .. After 7months - he came back and tell me the SORRY story. but i told him ... too late! i dont need you. I wasnt in need anymore. but anyways for short story i told myself .. BE PATIENT, GOD NEVER LEAVE US ALONE, HE WILL PROVIDE YOU WITH A MAN OF YOUR DREAMS. GOD DOESNT WANT A MAN TO BE ALONE, SO A WOMAN HAS A SPACE FOR EVERY MAN IN THIS WORLD.

Financial security is nice and I am secure, but I also have a different wealth...one that includes honesty, loyalty and laughter. That wealth is more important in a lasting relationship, dont you think?

Oh? And what of all of those stories we grew up in where the Princess marries the peasant?

Or wait... it's the OTHER way around.
The prince is the one who married Cinderella to rescue her from her life of abject poverty.

I can answer that question.
It's not because they believe in love, but they believe in their own motivated self-interests.

They may trick themselves into believing that they're in love... but it's a doubt.
They're just securing their wealth is all and to me... that's nothing worth admiring.

It's just self-motivated hypocrisy commonly seen amongst the upper-middle to upper class.

*laughs*

Please, this here is hell.
True LOVE doesn't exist save for maybe
in a fairy tale or two.

Enigma,

It's an unfortunate story. Did you have a thought or a comment about it? Or just relating it as unfortunate? Not sure I followed your train of thought .. obtuse of me probably ...

Ladydocm,

Thanks for the comment. Prenups and background checks!!! Whew .... what we go through to find simplicity sometimes ... it's quite amazing!

Isn't it?

A girl friend of mine got hit with a $10,000 federal tax lien that incurred prior to her marriage to her husband. It was his debt. The feds took it directly out of her checking account after they married. She's an attorney!

Enigma252

It is common knowledge that people who have similar interests go together.. whether it is wealthy people or poor.