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  • View author's info posted on Aug 24, 2006 15:54


    My heart goes out for you and I wish you wonderful new adventures, Sharp
    I've been where you are....it is an extremely difficult time and will be for some time to come.

    I wished I'd had the means to do as you are doing now when my son left just a wee bit sooner than he was supposed to. It is exactly what is needed at this time.

    You're a wonderful woman and I wish you peace in your heart and joy in your new adventures.

    xo,
    Teri
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  • View author's info posted on Aug 24, 2006 07:11


    Damn...you're old enough to have a daughter that old? I always thought you were like 25. *wink*

    Sharon...tis not a time to weep!! It's time to rejoice! Your daughter is grown up and ready to experience everything in life that it has to offer her. You don't need to go into seclusion because of it! Sure it's hard for the first week, my parents went through it but damn 15 years later you'd swear they were dating one another again...THEY LOVE IT! You will too.

    Also, this is not a time to "redefine" you but to REFINE yourself! There is no reason to change. Refine those attributes about yourself that you take pride in. Refine what it means to be SHARON.

    As always, best of luck to you my friend. Keep in touch, you know how.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 23, 2006 20:57


    One of my favorite song lyrics is that "every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end" ...

    She will take the lessons in life that she has learned with you and go and implement her life. But you will always be her mother and she will always be your daughter. That will never change.

    It will be difficult adjustments for both of you, but in the end, the new found freedoms will offer great opportunities.

    I wish you both good fortune in making the best of them!!! :o)
  • View author's info posted on Aug 22, 2006 22:11


    Sharon

    You are a remarkable woman and fabulous Mom. You have always provided such love to all those that are your kindred souls. As well as to many others that have been fortunate to be part of your life.

    Your daughter is one lucky Lass to have your support and love for her to experience and explore the world. She will forever be changed in a positive way.

    Cheers
  • View author's info Photo Verified posted on Aug 22, 2006 07:10


    Hey Sharp!

    I'm sorry you're hurting so much, but as I've said before, you've got to let her fly and she will fly back to you when finished. This is an opportunity of a lifetime for her, a chance to see the world in such a unique way, a chance to form friendships that will remain for a lifetime and a chance for her to spread her wings and grow in ways that are yet to be seen.

    It's good you're keeping yourself busy, enjoy the travelling, but when you get back please remember I'm always here to listen if you need it.

    It's a hard thing I imagine having your child leave home, I still have a few years before experiencing that. It's so true what you said that you've always viewed yourself as their mom and knew exactly what position you played, but now it's your time girl! Your daughter will come back home an enlightened woman, and will appreciate you all the more. A relationship like yours with your daughter will stand the test of time.

    My heart goes out to you and all my best wishes too.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 22, 2006 00:48


    If you disappear I will track you down. You are not going to skip/disappear and leave me stranded with that weird bunch of folks you mentioned. sheeee

    Have fun, travel, etc. for a while, but then you will find something meaningful to do, trust me. I have been so busy since I retired that I don't know how I was ever able to have a day job.

    till then

    wwww
  • View author's info posted on Aug 22, 2006 00:07


    Sharon, my sincerest sympathies go out to you and I don't mean it jokingly. My daughter and I lived for 19 years together and all of a sudden, she moved out of our house and in with friends. And to avoid the guilt of "abandoning me" so to speak, she convinced herself that I was a bad mother all her life and now she won't talk to me anymore and is rude and disrespectful when she does. It's like night and day.

    It's a hollow sorrow that can't be fixed with Tylenol or even tequila. No matter what the reason, when our children leave, it's more heartbreaking than they'll ever know, because we won't tell them for fear of stiffling their right and their zeal to fly.

    It's something they and others may never understand. You live years with a young person who is dependent on you being a survivor, keeping her fed, nurturing her soul and self-esteem, teaching, sacrificing, sharing and loving them unconditionally. A mother would jump in front of a train to save her child.

    I share your hurt and hope yours fades eventually. It's unbearable at first, I know. I wish I could ease your pain, Sharon, but it's a loss that can't be replaced with an alternate object, dog or person.

    Please call me anytime you want to talk. Many of us here know what you're going through. We all have ears and cyber-shoulders.

    Come and visit me in TO if you like and we'll do something fun to take each other's minds off it. Maybe when you get back from overseas. YOU can afford it better than I can. LOL

    I give you big motherly hugs Sharon. Sorry ... didn't mean to make you all soppy-faced.

    Luv and keep in touch,
    Katherine
  • View author's info posted on Aug 21, 2006 23:46


    Aww Sharp,

    Tho I am not a mother, I think I can imagine the heartship. Letting go is a hard job, but take pride in the fact you managed to raise an individual who's ready to take on the big bad world!
    I wish you the very best, stay brave and enjoy all the things you've planned for yourself!

    Take care!

    Aimee.
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