If you send greeting cards to some one and a encouragement letter to up lift them in hard times & they tell the pastor that your scaring them & they are not intrested in men friends and the pastor tells you to stay away from them and do not look there way or smile at them but they try to find a way to come up to you and socialize with you and her friends are watching you and being nice to you & she is not running away from you when she see you.But she smiles at you. What do you do?I know what I need to do I just want to see what others would say or do.
I work part time for the church and I can come in from the back door or what ever door I would like to come in.
If she is waiting at the front door she will be waiting for a long time.
When I do come in I sit in the back by the back door you need a key to come in that door and she doesn't have one so I am safe there you can go out that door but not come in with out a key.
She sits in the middle or up front of the service.
Until Alpha starts up in March of 2007 I will be able to avoid her in service. Alpha is a class that you can talk or ask questions about any thing you want to and she is a leader & its on Tuesdays one of the nights that I work. Any way I like all your comments & suggestions.
Seems that she likes the pastor as a go between. I would follow suit and speak with th epastor about conflicting messages that you seem to be getting and see if maybe the pastor can get to the bottom of it.
Or the next time she smiles at you, you could just walk up to her and say "How are you?" and see where it goes...
Go to the Pastor and say "shes scaring me". No seriously, you really should go back to the Pastor and tell him that you have been following his direction, but she is giving you mixed messages. That is, unless her mixed messages have told you to stay away from her. I might perhaps be embarrassed after being approached by the pastor, and not want anything to do with that person. It just depends on where you are emotionally, as to what the correct approach would be. But if you choose to approach, do it with a witness and definately make sure the pastor knows the situation.
Perhaps he could set up a meeting with her to get this out in the open, and maybe he can set her straight about getting him involved with her childish games.