TripleS write: Pettrainer, Perhaps you need to give yourself a break and a little time to process your grief and loss.
I can give you a thousand platitudes, but what I want you to know is that everything happens for a reason, you are blessed in a thousand ways and you will be deliriously happy again.
We are so lucky to find someone who we can love and who loves us back. If you love someone, you wish for his or her happiness and find that if it is not with you, then hopefully he or she will find that person who will melt their biscuit.
So, do what we all do: put one foot in front of the other and a smile on your beautiful face. Your heart may be breaking, but it will pass and you will be stronger for it. Any day you are sucking air is a good day and the pain just reminds us that we are alive.
Take care and be well.
This was very touching and profound, Annie-poo. Who did you get to write it for you?
OOPS! Just kidding! LOL (I stick my tongue out and run away.....)
Love and loss is like childbirth, Pet. After about a year, you forget how bad the pain was and only remember the best parts. It's a trick Mother Nature plays on us so we'll be stupid and go back and give it another go. LOL
I loved a man passionately up until November of last year when our relationship crashed like a 747. I was looking through some old emails the other day and came across one from him that I had not sent to my trash bin in a fit of crushing sorrow and desperate longing to set things right and get back together with him.
It was a bittersweet heart-tug I felt at that instant. I didn't open it and read it again but I smiled wisely and I said to myself, "I used to love you so much."
I can honestly say I'm still here because I really want to give my heart to a man who won't bruise it, a man who will cherish it like a rose bud. The pain is gone, regret is still there, but my love is open for business again.
(And I don't want any of you boys giving me a hard time about "soliciting" or how much I charge for certain "services!" I don't meant THAT!)
I feel for you Pet. Take as much time as you need to recover. But then, get your water-wings back on.
pettrainer --- Some women seem so amazingly beautiful, gifted, educated, smart, connected, and ambitious here that I imagine they are probably the type of person(s) who snatched up someone I met serendipitously and prayed to marry (who happened to have all the stuff that everyone on this board is looking for and then some).
People have three kinds of assets.
1. those that they were born with and did nothing for.
2. Things that they worked to achieve 3. Higher level traits of good human beings. -- things that make you a "good" person/human.
Many people that have the first two don't have the third, thus are not really worth anything. However if you have a lot of the third, you are worth a lot.