I'm just wondering if there any real men out there looking for real women? I been reading a lot of profiles and find a big percent of the men in my age range 38 to 55 are looking for young girls in their twenties and early thirties and a lot of theses men are flashing their incomes in their faces to attract them. Don't they know theses women are just after their wallets and they are going to drop them as soon as they cut the bank off or when ever something better comes along and it's usually a younger better looking guy. How about putting your bank roll a side for once and look for something better someone that will love them and stick by them in the good times and the bad. Someone who not only be their lover but their best friend too.
I agree they should not use their income to attract younger women, but all are not the same. Unfortunately, men are visual creatures and probably feel they can get visual satisfaction in younger women. I disagree, but all age brackets go through the same. I'm in my mid 30's and men my age want younger (babies). I fall under the younger bracket for your age category. I don't necessarily want an older man either. I'm not a gold digger just looking for a real man!
JDavid2000 write: Pretty Please--- Thank you for your nice comments. I do truly appreciate them.
Auburn Hair--- For me, not responding to a wink, ect, is an easier, softer way, of rejecting someone. No, I suppose it is not very polite, and for that I apologize. I have done it numerous times, and in the future, will endeavor to be more of a gentleman. When I have winked at someone, or written a note, without a reply. I just assume they are not interested. For me, it is ok, as I KNOW I am not for everyone. Due to new health restraints, I am no longer looking for anyone anyway. Just having fun, I hope.
Hello JDavid, I always thought that a lack of response did constitute an easy, cowardly way out. My best friend explained to me one day the same thing that you just have and why she chose that lack of response. I had never considered her reasoning. I just always knew that I would feel much better being told, 'thanks but no thanks' rather than begin totally avoided....I therefore, could never just avoid anyone else. Strange how another person can make us see the other side we never see. She is a most caring person as you seem to be as well. Guess we just all must choose our own way. Yes? Thank the Lord also that we have people to show us the other side! My very best to you and your new lady, and I pray that your health situation finds improvement that you cannot even foresee!
Pretty Please--- Thank you for your nice comments. I do truly appreciate them.
Auburn Hair--- For me, not responding to a wink, ect, is an easier, softer way, of rejecting someone. No, I suppose it is not very polite, and for that I apologize. I have done it numerous times, and in the future, will endeavor to be more of a gentleman. When I have winked at someone, or written a note, without a reply. I just assume they are not interested. For me, it is ok, as I KNOW I am not for everyone.
Due to new health restraints, I am no longer looking for anyone anyway. Just having fun, I hope.
I just joined this site and was browsing the profiles and the forums. As one of the "older" women on here, it did catch my attention that because of my age, I will not even show up in the search of a lot of the men on here because they are looking for younger. That doesn't necessarily bother me because I figure that I wouldn't be interested in a man with a closed attitude about age and life and love anyway. I admire your honesty, JDavid, and am sorry you haven't had more positive experiences with women closer to your own age!
I will not spend time wondering why men choose younger women, but one comment I have on that subject is, maybe their marriage failed due to a lack of interest or adventure in the bedroom from their wife. Some women's sex drive decreases around menopause, but not all women feel that way. I for one prefer a man my age, they are more caring, learned from the past, and open to adventures in and out of the bedroom.
Another comment Id like to make is why when you contact a man they don't even bother replying back if even to say they are not interested. You take the time to write its just common courtesy.
And lastly, to me its not what a man has in his bank account but rather whats in his heart. So any real men out there, a real woman awaits.
Ok, please enlighten me? What constitutes 'real' in the eyes of a woman? I have read this phrase repeatedly, and just wonder what it means?
And, please ladies, do not presume to KNOW what a mature man thinks, wants, needs, and desires for him? You just flat do NOT know, and will never know, as you are NOT a man. If I would be so bold as to say what a woman thinks, needs, wants, desires, ect, you would be HIGHLY offended. I have NO clue, hence the differences in sexes.
The younger woman I see once in a while, is pretty, exciting, delightful to be around, non opinionated, adventurous, and fun. As I have written elsewhere on this site, when I remarked people had said a few things to me about having a trophy on my arm?--- she stated " It's ok David, trophies are for winners". Nice touch.
She looks for a man near her age. I look for a woman near mine. Neither has been successful in our search. In the interim, she delightfully kills spare hours in my life, and evidently I do the same for her. We hold no illusions about our future together. When I find a 'mature' woman that is half as much fun as she is, I will gladly trade her in for an older model. Until that time comes, SHE " gets it ". The more 'mature' women I have met, do not.
I am not in the habit of dating an older, meaner, more opinionated, vindictive, less attractive woman, simply because other, catty, women think I should. I do NOT live my life by what others say, do , or think. This thread, is but another example of why 'real' men look elsewhere for happiness. While older, more mature women bemoan men dating other, younger women, and call him foolish for 'arm candy, trophy women, ect', I am having fun while you sit home and complain about the lack of men flocking to your door. Ten little words for everyone--- if it is to be, it is up to me .
I do wish all of you well, and hope you find the man that you deserve.
What is the definition of REAL anyway? No fake nails, boobs, or funky hair colors? No manipulation of a man just to get what she wants? How about a woman self-less enough to be supportive and giving even when she doesn't feel like it because he has done it for her? Someone who honestly wants to connect with what is inside a man's heart instead of his wallet? That doesn't mean younger women can't do this...but I sometimes think that many just have not learned yet. Some of us "older" gals have a lot of wisdom and have finally figured out that a lot of that game playing is a waste of everyone's time in the long run. Here's to real women!
Let them have the youngsters, they are going to dump them when they get bored with them anyway. Those aren't the men you want to waste your time with. There are plenty of 'real' men. Don't judge them all by the ones on this site, i mean it's the nature of the beast... MM...money causes many to lose sight of what is real, ...everything's relative. Not all millionaires want eye candy, and a sex kitten either. There are some very real men who a want a real woman... not to say that flaunting a younger woman, is not 'real', again it's all relative. Give some of these guys credit tho... just as much i 'lust' for brilliance, there are men who do also. Some men crave a unique intelligent woman who isnt hung up on being something she's not. They want a real woman, just like you want a real man.