Well, I'm relatively discouraged. Are there ANY men alive who are looking for something more substantive than the proverbial eye/arm candy kind of woman? Given that there is no short supply of young, nubile females on this site, I guess I can't blame you all. Why opt for a 47 year old when there are plenty of 20-somethings with bodies that just don't quit. Guess maturity, intelligence, and the ability to articulate two complete sentences in a row just can't compete with great legs.
It's a sad fact, but our eyes all fail, or bosoms don't sit as high and proud, our skin is no longer flawless, and the men -- well apparently they just join MM and start searching for the next youngest age group with a pretty face and still firm body.
My face and body, while certainly not perfect, has the wonderful beauty of real life etched on it, and who I truly am radiates from within with a warm glow.
Pity that seemingly matters not.
Former Hard Body Who Had a Few Birthdays and a Couple Children, Worked Too Many Hours, Got Not Enough Sleep, And Ended Up Looking Like This.
Well, I'm relatively discouraged. Are there ANY men alive who are looking for something more substantive than the proverbial eye/arm candy kind of woman? Given that there is no short supply of young, nubile females on this site, I guess I can't blame you all. Why opt for a 47 year old when there are plenty of 20Well-somethings with bodies that just don't quit. Guess maturity, intelligence, and the ability to articulate two complete sentences in a row just can't compete with great legs.
Well Darlin' let me help you out here... looks have absolutely nothing to do with ones ability to string words together.
What you are saying is that because a woman is beautiful she must be stupid and that no more accurate than saying that all ugly women are smart.
There are tons of women older than you who do just fine on this site.
Perhaps... just perhaps it has more to do with your attitude than it does your looks?
yourgrue write: I can understand the eyecandy thing with men. Some work long ours and at the end of the day their brain is just tired. They dont want to discuss any heavy (highly intelligent) topics just want something nice too look at... we girls have the soap operas to do the trick....lol
Ummmm...I never watch soap operas, and rarely watch TV. Sometimes my days are incredibly busy and filled with just as many stress filled issues that require my attention, leaving me feeling a little brain dead...but business is one thing, and conversation for pleasure is another. I can separate the two. It comes down to personality types. My personality derives energy from interaction with people. Other personality types are drained of their energy when they must converse with people all day, hence want to sit in silence at the end of the day.
In view of the fact that all the Scots lassies who come to visit me are family I will refrain from comment except to say they are all interesting conversationalists, well read, well traveled, keep immaculate homes and boy are their husbands lucky.
I have met many beautiful older women of many races and ethnic backgrounds that 20 year olds would cry to have their body.
You miss the main point regarding beauty and that is that outer beauty may fade (if you let it) but inner beauty lasts a lifetime.
Anyone can improve outer beauty at the plastic surgeon or gym but inner beauty is the real you and that is what a real man is searching for.
Funny thing though I have always found that women with inner beauty have no problem attracting men to them for the long term.Eye candy however normally, though not always, has a problem keeping their men long term.
Young lassie from Edinburgh, never bring business home, and if i want something nice to look at I'll hang up some pictures. I want to come home to someone who looks good but has the brains to know how to relax and unwind her man, who can converse in a witty , knowledgeable way, knows her way round her kitchen, and yes i enjoy helping in that department, cooking can be quite good fun. and knows her way around the boudoir to.But then i like a sharing caring relationship where both partners are equal, why should a man expect to be pampered when he gets home , his girl might feel like a bit of pampering to. So kick the kids out and pamper the hell out of each other.
If I had an easier time dating I wouldn't be on this web site. Actually I'm tired of men treating me like eye candy just because of the way I look. I just hope I don't go around bashing beautiful women when I'm 47. Assuming they are all beautiful empty shells.
Thanks, You have proven my point.
The terms eye candy or arm candy are very negative portrayls of women in general. I have dated women that stop traffic and others you would walk past unnoticed in the grocery store.
What is important to me is the smile on her face each time we meet and greet each other. The thought process of others is of no interest to me. If a lady is beautiful it is demeaning to call her eye candy. However if she or he is a gold digger then call a spade a spade.
Beauty truly is in the eyes of the beholder. What is eye candy to one may be a eyesore to another.
It doesn't matter what your age, size, shape, etc. is, just find the person who likes what you have. Beauty is only a fleeting superficial thing anyway, and while it may attract, it will never keep anyone around long unless there is substance behind it.
Substance definition used
That which is solid and practical in character, quality, or importance
DanDaring write: I think eye candy is for they young American guy, he wants to impress his friends with a shapely dolly who musn't open her mouth. But as one gets older and wiser this requirement fades, one needs a supportive . cooperative wife, whose going to be good in bed and around the discussion table. then as retirement looms, one realizes that one wants an equal partner a sharer, an explorer, a lover, a whore. a companion. a friend , an equal, a true loving woman the real clever guys are the ones that realize this when they marry the first one
Not true. Many men of every age who are single, especially those who are wealthy want the eye candy. The difference is real men who live everday lives are realistic to what women are. Those who are wealthy are usually arrogant and expect the eye candy because they can buy it. They can't buy love though and are some of the most emotionally starved I have ever seen. I have many who I work with and who are friends and they have the eye candy who takes every dime they can and neither has any feelings for the other except financial. But to say it's young guys is highly inaccurate in every way whether they will admit it or not! Even the wealthy men who are not that attractive sport their candy cane because they buy it. Otherwise, you know the women would have nothing to do with them. I came to this site because I expected it to have more educated people and it appeared to be safer then others. Sadly, a piece of paper does not make them intelligent and I have received several offers from men ages 36-67 who want to buy my affection and how beneficial it would be for me. It's all they know how to do. Not really love someone...
Lombard write: RR Platonic only started to mean non-sexual in the 19th century. Plato's dialouges are full of references to sex. To Plato, sexual relations were part of the natural consequences of having an intellectual relationship. Of course, the question was whether the intellectual relationship between a man and a woman could ever approach the relationship between two men. Yuck. Now, following along this line of reasoning, you get the origin of the word Lesbian. Because women did not get the kind of education that men did, a woman named Sappho, on the island of Lesbos, set up a Gymnasia (Greek school), to educate women with the same 7 subjects that Greek gentlemen received. By the same logical thought progression, the only true romantic partners for these educated women were other like educated women, hence, Lesbian, from Lesbos, and the adjective Sapphic, from Sappho. So, when you hear right wingers say that marraige has always been netween a man and a woman, it is historically not accurate. In fact, the fiercest Greek warriors, the Spartans, clearly thought that women were only for breeding, and they were kept in the communal breeding pile. The only true romance was between two men. You fought together, ate together, didn't take baths together (Spartans thought bathing more than twice a year softened you) and examined each other where the sun don't shine. Aggghhhhhh. So, RR, when I called you Platonic perfection, it had nothing to do with no sex. It is a philosophical metaphysical term (metaphysics is another word that the ill-educated products of our public schools, and yes, I'm one of them) don't understand. Platonic perfection means that you are such an ideal, that we mere mortals can not hope to attain you. If you condescend to be with one of us, it is because you have descended form Olympus to bless us with your immortal presence.
Thank you for enlightening me on your perspective, L.