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Posted on Thu, May 04, 2006 15:43

well,, i guy i met less than a week on the site want to drive to Houston to meet me up,,he live four hour away from me.yes we do have a great connection over the phone and MNS.We do webcam,,his 16 years older than me ,i really dont mind his age i love older men.but the issue here is that i dont think its okey for him to come,,am afraid ,,i think its too fast,,at the same time i want to see him, i guess am confuse,,also does he stay in a Hotel or i let him stay at my couch,,i dont know how this work,,, i dont want to seem easy or play tooooo hard to get coz i never had good luck with that,,, can someone how to go with this,,,



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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2006 06:57

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mishu23 write:
Thanks,,for ur advise,when i ask him if i can come there instead ,i thought he would say no,,but he was okey with it,,but things didnt turn out well,,we have zero connection in person,,he cannoct communicate well in person,,he is one of those older guys who thinks younger girl want free rid from them,,which i dont,,i dont need to be taken care of ,,what i want is a man not money,,anyway thanks ,,i think its better that way ,,he dont know where i live,,ill keep you posted on my next adventure,,

Good for you for setting the boundaries, mishu! As for the experience, it doesn't sound like it was a horrid one, just one that didn't work out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, nothing lost.


If at first you don't succeed, try try again. Finding the allusive chemistry is not an easy task. My personal theory is that it is a 5:90:5 ratio, meaning that 5% of the people you meet will make an interesting "internet dating war story" to tell later (hopefully not too dangerous though), 90% of the people will just be people who might make decent buddies, and perhaps 5% will be people that you find chemistry with and are interested in dating...

Good Luck in Your Search !!!



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Posted on Wed, May 10, 2006 02:00

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Thanks,,for ur advise,when i ask him if i can come there instead ,i thought he would say no,,but he was okey with it,,but things didnt turn out well,,we have zero connection in person,,he cannoct communicate well in person,,he is one of those older guys who thinks younger girl want free rid from them,,which i dont,,i dont need to be taken care of ,,what i want is a man not money,,anyway thanks ,,i think its better that way ,,he dont know where i live,,ill keep you posted on my next adventure,,

Good for you for setting the boundaries, mishu! As for the experience, it doesn't sound like it was a horrid one, just one that didn't work out. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, nothing lost.



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Posted on Tue, May 09, 2006 21:51

Thanks,,for ur advise,when i ask him if i can come there instead ,i thought he would say no,,but he was okey with it,,but things didnt turn out well,,we have zero connection in person,,he cannoct communicate well in person,,he is one of those older guys who thinks younger girl want free rid from them,,which i dont,,i dont need to be taken care of ,,what i want is a man not money,,anyway thanks ,,i think its better that way ,,he dont know where i live,,ill keep you posted on my next adventure,,



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Posted on Fri, May 05, 2006 15:13

mishu23 write:
well,, i guy i met less than a week on the site want to drive to Houston to meet me up,,he live four hour away from me.yes we do have a great connection over the phone and MNS.We do webcam,,his 16 years older than me ,i really dont mind his age i love older men.but the issue here is that i dont think its okey for him to come,,am afraid ,,i think its too fast,,at the same time i want to see him, i guess am confuse,,also does he stay in a Hotel or i let him stay at my couch,,i dont know how this work,,, i dont want to seem easy or play tooooo hard to get coz i never had good luck with that,,, can someone how to go with this,,,

Too early is only defined between the two people. Couple of items to keep in mind before you decide:

Rule#1. Always trust your instincts. If I could bold this I would!

If you feel it's too soon, don't do it. If you want to ensure safety, of course he should plan to stay at a hotel. If it seems odd that he should want to come to you (vs you going there) - absolutely a red flag in my opinion, because most men will want you in their "den"/territory.

Rule#2: You set the ground rules.
Tell him (via phone, not computer) you'd prefer to go there....tons of info from the response. Tell him your boundaries, limits. It is your right, your safety is the issue and the good man will know and respect that.
When you know all these things, revert to Rule#1.

Let us know what you decide, okay? Curious minds always want to know.

Be well!



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