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Posted on Tue, May 02, 2006 17:35

Today I was going thru my closets...a bit of spring cleaning and found my "folder" of love letters I received from a man whom I loved, will always cherish.

I remember after our relationship ended, about 2 yrs later someone suggested I burn all the letters. Something welled up inside of me and I couldn't. I never laboriously poured over them leaving ink smears caused by rivers of tears...no, I just tucked them away. I always knew they were there, but couldn't bring myself to read them, nor could I dispose of them...too beautiful, too painful.

I don't know why but the last week I've been thinking of the letters and disposing of them...A rite of passage? Perhaps this was the impetus for closet cleaning..Lord knows I need a good one!!

So here I am at my desk, taking a last (perhaps) glimpse. I know it was his letters, the way he could write that melted my heart, wooed me. The letters continued for over years until we moved in together...but I missed them then! There is an art to writing love letters... I think. The ability to romantically express oneself in words is wonderful!! And this guy was a self professed nerd...even had the nerd pack( not that nerds can't be romantic) !! Highly intelligent, nerdish and incrediably romantic! I will share some salutations.

-Beloved angel

-my sweet angel
-my angel, my darling
-anglest of all angels, song of my heart, flower of paradise, loveliest glory of God's creation, one whom I love

-Hi lotus blossom of my enlightenment
-All hail fo thee, beautific glory of orgasmic bliss

-Hi angel bear with thick auburn hair

-dearest gorgeousest, gloriesest angel

Hi angel with the heavenly smile

dearest angelest

Hiya gorgeousissimo, wonderfulissimo angel

well as you can see he called me angel because he said it was the tenderest, most intimate, most loving name he knew, the best and finest he could give me. The content of the letters were so beautiful. Do I dare dispose of such well crafted art...lol??


So have any of you kept photos, love notes, fragments of rememberances tucked safely away in the corner of a closet in a shoebox heaped under piles of clothes you no longer wear??



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Posted on Tue, May 09, 2006 13:07

I left my home and country with two suitcases, a few sentimental 60's CD's and a load of memories, to start a new life over here, I just wish to hell i had a shoe box under the stairs. But rescue was at hand, my Dear daughter and old Mum came up with pics and things id foregotten about, so instead of a shoe box i have a mantle shelf covered in the 'good' memories, its hard being a caring old romantic, soft in the heart and the head.



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Posted on Mon, May 08, 2006 15:45

DanDaring write:
Oh the shoe box under the stairs, it was filled with little mementos, cards, photos, sentimental stuff, but then when you marry, and your partner spring cleans, finds the old shoe box of memories past, which weren't of her, so they were dispatched down the shute , as i was informed, I had no need for those memories. But many years later, now we have parted, id love to have that old shoe box, to bring back my youth, well i know we have to move forward, but items of lost love or memories dear, fade away slowly and blur round the edges, but to have been able to open that box, and reminisce just a bit, would have been ever so nice.

Indeed, dd. But what about the memorbilia from the second wife?



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Posted on Sun, May 07, 2006 10:22

Oh the shoe box under the stairs, it was filled with little mementos, cards, photos, sentimental stuff, but then when you marry, and your partner spring cleans, finds the old shoe box of memories past, which weren't of her, so they were dispatched down the shute , as i was informed, I had no need for those memories. But many years later, now we have parted, id love to have that old shoe box, to bring back my youth, well i know we have to move forward, but items of lost love or memories dear, fade away slowly and blur round the edges, but to have been able to open that box, and reminisce just a bit, would have been ever so nice.



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Posted on Sat, May 06, 2006 14:57

cutiepie01 write:
Oh Red I love your new name! Heck Im so used to seeing your face that I didnt even notice the name change. sorry. It is great tho.

Thanks, cutie. Of all the wonderful names people suggested, sunshine or smile kept popping up - and I liked those - but we already had a sunshine (not that there can't be two but you know). Now time for a new pic, huh?

bnb, our angel of words...they sang to me, felt like me...thanks

Why don't they have a little drinkie-winkie icon?! Cheers!

  


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Posted on Sat, May 06, 2006 11:03

Oh Red I love your new name! Heck Im so used to seeing your face that I didnt even notice the name change. sorry. It is great tho.



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Posted on Sat, May 06, 2006 09:04

beautynbrains4u write:
redhead524 write:
wonderwoman_nc write:
My theory is, if you have to ask if the time is right, it isn't. I've been teaching "Cyrano de Bergerac" to my World Lit classes, and we've been celebrating the art of love letters. My hope is that one of them, one day, will make someone else feel as special by writing a letter as you do when you read yours. Cyrano's final letter to Roxanne is beautiful poetry and always moves me to tears.

Treasure your letters, right to the point when you know it is right to get rid of them.

Absolutly agree, ww. Only one person can tell you when the time is right and that is the individual holding those letters.

bnb, my note doesn't state how long I carried those letters around, but it was a very long time. Some would say far too long. Those who have paid attention may be able to do the math...my son was two when I left his father. I didn't disgard them until about two years ago.

The memory of that love doesn't go away, the symbol of a love lost must, for how can one truly fully love again unless you've let go of the past? Those words -perhaps different but similiar - will come again, only from another's lips.

Love to you, bnb

p.s. ww: Do you teach/make your class actually hand-write notes? The art must go on and it seems you are a carrier. Hooo raaahhh!


Hi Rapturous Red Siren (I Know you were looking for a new name, how do you like it...lol!!)

It's amazing how a great love letter can enthrall, cast a spell upon us and hold us captive!!! Any Cyrano's out there??

Well Red and Devo, I didn't get very far with closet cleaning (yuck)but the excavation of the letters was a fun meandering into the past! And so they will remain entombed in the closet until my next archeological dig!

Rapturous Red Siren! Not sure about the 'Siren" part, but love the RaputurousRed....I knew you'd come up with a good one! Now, how do I change it?! Update: Did it! Imagine that, a button you click that says "change your name"! Who was checkin' for the new chick?! lol

The journey is worthwhile. Treasures are most certainly meant to be discovered, re-discovered and re-examined....

  


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Posted on Thu, May 04, 2006 18:11

wonderwoman_nc write:
My theory is, if you have to ask if the time is right, it isn't. I've been teaching "Cyrano de Bergerac" to my World Lit classes, and we've been celebrating the art of love letters. My hope is that one of them, one day, will make someone else feel as special by writing a letter as you do when you read yours. Cyrano's final letter to Roxanne is beautiful poetry and always moves me to tears.

Treasure your letters, right to the point when you know it is right to get rid of them.

Absolutly agree, ww. Only one person can tell you when the time is right and that is the individual holding those letters.

bnb, my note doesn't state how long I carried those letters around, but it was a very long time. Some would say far too long. Those who have paid attention may be able to do the math...my son was two when I left his father. I didn't disgard them until about two years ago.

The memory of that love doesn't go away, the symbol of a love lost must, for how can one truly fully love again unless you've let go of the past? Those words -perhaps different but similiar - will come again, only from another's lips.

Love to you, bnb

p.s. ww: Do you teach/make your class actually hand-write notes? The art must go on and it seems you are a carrier. Hooo raaahhh!

  


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Posted on Wed, May 03, 2006 15:39

I dont know if there is ever a time to get rid of them. I feel that they are part of history, some day in the future. I would never let them go. For someone to take the time and pour their feelings onto paper, is priceless and if you feel at anytime that you are ready to give them up, then you should ask him if he wants them. Dont just destroy them.



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Posted on Wed, May 03, 2006 14:54

My theory is, if you have to ask if the time is right, it isn't. I've been teaching "Cyrano de Bergerac" to my World Lit classes, and we've been celebrating the art of love letters. My hope is that one of them, one day, will make someone else feel as special by writing a letter as you do when you read yours. Cyrano's final letter to Roxanne is beautiful poetry and always moves me to tears.

Treasure your letters, right to the point when you know it is right to get rid of them.



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Posted on Wed, May 03, 2006 09:16

BnB keep and cherish them. They are a part of you that should never be lost or forgotten! Keep them so they remind you of the art of loving.

Makes me want to say to all, Remember the GOOD times, let go of the bad. You will be a better person for it.



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Posted on Wed, May 03, 2006 02:27

beautynbrains4u write:
Today I was going thru my closets...a bit of spring cleaning and found my "folder" of love letters I received from a man whom I loved, will always cherish.

I remember after our relationship ended, about 2 yrs later someone suggested I burn all the letters. Something welled up inside of me and I couldn't. I never laboriously poured over them leaving ink smears caused by rivers of tears...no, I just tucked them away. I always knew they were there, but couldn't bring myself to read them, nor could I dispose of them...too beautiful, too painful.

I don't know why but the last week I've been thinking of the letters and disposing of them...A rite of passage? Perhaps this was the impetus for closet cleaning..Lord knows I need a good one!!

So here I am at my desk, taking a last (perhaps) glimpse. I know it was his letters, the way he could write that melted my heart, wooed me. The letters continued for over years until we moved in together...but I missed them then! There is an art to writing love letters... I think. The ability to romantically express oneself in words is wonderful!! And this guy was a self professed nerd...even had the nerd pack( not that nerds can't be romantic) !! Highly intelligent, nerdish and incrediably romantic! I will share some salutations.

-Beloved angel

-my sweet angel
-my angel, my darling
-anglest of all angels, song of my heart, flower of paradise, loveliest glory of God's creation, one whom I love

-Hi lotus blossom of my enlightenment
-All hail fo thee, beautific glory of orgasmic bliss

-Hi angel bear with thick auburn hair

-dearest gorgeousest, gloriesest angel

Hi angel with the heavenly smile

dearest angelest

Hiya gorgeousissimo, wonderfulissimo angel

well as you can see he called me angel because he said it was the tenderest, most intimate, most loving name he knew, the best and finest he could give me. The content of the letters were so beautiful. Do I dare dispose of such well crafted art...lol??


So have any of you kept photos, love notes, fragments of rememberances tucked safely away in the corner of a closet in a shoebox heaped under piles of clothes you no longer wear??

I went through something similiar just a couple of years ago during a move, bnb. I found a box full of love letters from my now ex written from when he went away for univ. and I stayed here in Mi. I did go through them. Not all but some. I cannot thoroughly answer here as to why I kept them all those years, through several moves.

Reading the letters was a sentimental journey. One with tears for love and a marriage lost but with favor that even after divorce, we retained a respect, consideration, yes even a friendship (course we have a child, so that contributes)between us. I did take them into the back yard, piled them up and burned them. As your friend suggested, burning away symbols such as those can be cathartic.

All the photo albums from all the years together? Well,I kept those as well but not all because of the relationship aspect. It was my life as well in those pics. The trips, the friends, the holidays and oh my all the trends of the 70's and 80's! I had throughout the years, shared them with my son. It was a way to help him (or so I thought at the time) of staying connected to his dad after we left CA). The last journey through the pics I gave him all the pics of his dad and his dad's side of the family, some to keep, some to give to his dad for his families' historical sake, as sadly both his parents, and an uncle have since passed. He saw his dad and uncles at his age, a nana much younger, a gramma he never knew. We got a great many laughs, he learned more about his dad before he was dad during the teen years and walked away with treasured keepsake of the other side of his family.

He's been the only one I kept such things. The others (with the exceptions of the really good night shirts!) all went shortly after the relationship ended.

There is absolutely an art to writing a love letter. One, I'm afraid is lost. Love notes are good - and are accepted as given - through the heart, but the letter takes time. E-mail love letters? Just not the same as when written by hand.



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