I can't believe that in this day and age you haven't learned by now to use a condom. Meet the man in public during the DAY for coffee or whatever you choose to drink just not ALCOHOL.For the first meeting don't meet for a meal it's a long meal if you don't like the guy. If you do like each other than you can eat. Pay attention to your intuition (that little voice that says RUN) you will hear it loud and clear the minute you see him. If there isn't chemistry tell him politely, get up and leave. Be careful where you park your car. If he drinks alcohol then get him really drunk...the true person comes out when they are drunk. Its like truth serum. I love it. (this is the same for women as well) Good Luck be smart be safe
Besides meeting people in a public place, how about making sure that a friend or neighbor knows where you are going. tell them that you will give them a call at a certain time. Or have them call you. Just so everyone knows that there is someone who is expecting to hear from you. Also, if you have any question at all about the person you are meeting, ask them if they will share their home or work number. Then call it. Make sure they are who they say they are. I know. Sounds paranoid. But it is safer to check.
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In having worked in the arena of assisting people with HIV and other STD's I think that "using a condom" of course is the very best safety tips that someone can have. But I think that there are other issues that we must consider.
I think for example when meeting someone for the first time that it is imparative to meet them in a place where there are others around. I prefer a book stores coffee shop and sometimes when I really get to know someone via E Mail or phone conversation a bar for a drink.
We meet someone through E Mailing and connect, then we talk on the phone and connect......but I find that it is very hard to find that person "when we meet them" that we will have that special chemestry with. There are only a few that I have sense being on this line but I do know that when meeting someone for the first time there needs to be an escape rout that will not be rude or insensitive. That is why a short meeting at first is advised.
It is a shame but some people do not represent themselves honestly in a site like this......and to commit to a full evenning or week end can be insanity to spend with someone that is not honest or that we are not compatable with. I have made mistakes in meeting people but I think that safety is a very important issue.