Well, you can be friends and still not know how to communicate properly. Communication, acceptance of each other, willingness to work things out and a desire to keep peace between each other is key. You can love each other, have peace in your home and still agree to disagree on a matter.
I think that if we as people learn better interpersonal communication skills there would be less divorces.
The way I see it, It is the attitude of people in society today, going into any relationship,that if things do not work out the way we want them to or when times get rough, "we can always get a divorce", "I can always dump em", etc... Instead of sitting down and talking about the problems that are creating a strain on the relationship.
Another thing that also causes problems in relationships is the interference from friends and family. Sometimes this interference is good intended and other times it is not.
Like someone else had said, the marriage vows are not taken as seriously as they once were. Now they are only just words people recite and have no meaning. They nead to have meaning for both people.
Another area where a relationship fails is not looking for advice and counsel. Then not following the advice and counsel given. There is one place that should be look to for advice on lifes issues that would help, but many peolpe do not because of its religious background. And that is The Bible. Yes, The Bible has lots of advice and counsel on everyday issues that would help, but people do not read it because of its religious background. The following are a couple of examples.
Colossians 3:19-21 19) You husbands, keep on loving [your] wives and do not be bitterly angry with them. 20) You children, be obedient to [your] parents in everything for this is well-pleasing in [the] Lord. 21) You fathers, do not be exasperating your children, so that they do not become downhearted.
2 Timothy 3:16-17 16) All Scripture is inspired of God and beneficial for teaching, for reproving, for setting things straight, for disciplining in righteousness, 17) that the man of God may be fully competent, completely equipped for every good work.
It is easier to dissolve the "partnership" than to do the "work" in order to nurture and keep the marriage alive. It is easy to become complacent and stale...boredom can often sit in and one, or both, partners think the grass may be greener on the other side of the fence. Taking each other for granted and not sharing the load of every day tasks, etc., is often a problem it seems.
The vows taken are only empty words to some. Other times I believe people marry for the wrong reasons, i.e., fear of being alone, money, etc.
Lastly, but certainly not least...Lack of communication between the two partners.
Someone once said: 'Man marry the woman hoping she will not change and woman marry the man hoping he will change.' Therein lies the great disparity between expectations of the sexes.
It could be the main cause of broken marriages. The twain shall never meet. The 25% who recognise their shortcomings are the ones who are lucky to hold on to their marriages.
Marriage is a symbiotic relationship, that catalyses each to achieve the optimum ,that which could never be done alone. Marriage nourishes and nurtures real growth. It means taking risk and we reap what we sow. There is nothing more rewarding than to enjoy that harvest with the one who loves and inspires you.
It completes your metamorphosis in life.