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Posted on Fri, Mar 24, 2006 14:29

The following statement made by Rob is the reason that I stared this thread.

"Some things people just need to experience for themselves. You can't consider yourself a vetran of internet dating until you have some good war stories!

Maybe we could start a more positive thread about Truthful, Honest, Fun Lovers that we had in the past!!! I want to spend my time shooting for that 7.5 years bonus time." :o)

Well Rob this is as close as I could come to satisfying that request. I hope everyone enjoys it.

LOVE......................when your eyes meet across a crowded room.
LUST.......................when your tongues meet across a crowded room.
MARRIAGE............when your belt won't meet around your waist, and you don't care.

LOVE......................when intercourse is called making love.
LUST.......................all other times.
MARRIAGE............what's intercourse?

LOVE......................when you argue over how many children to have.
LUST.......................when you argue over who gets the wet spot.
MARRIAGE............when you argue over money.

LOVE......................when you share everything you own.
LUST.......................when you think twice about giving your partner bus money.
MARRIAGE............when the bank owns everything.

LOVE......................when it doesn't matter if you don't climax.
LUST.......................when the relationship is over if you don't climax.
MARRIAGE............what's a climax?

LOVE......................when you phone each other just to say "G'day".
LUST.......................when you phone each other just to organize sex.
MARRIAGE............when you phone each other to find out what time your son's game starts.

LOVE......................when you write poems about your partner.
LUST.......................when all you write is your phone number.
MARRIAGE............when all you write is checks.

LOVE......................when you show concern for your partners' feelings.
LUST.......................when you couldn't give a sh*t.
MARRIAGE............when your only concern is what's on TV.

LOVE......................when your farewell is "I love you darling ..."
LUST.......................when your farewell is "So, same time next week?"
MARRIAGE............when your farewell is silent.

LOVE......................when you are proud to be seen in public with your partner.
LUST.......................when you only ever see each other in the bedroom.
MARRIAGE............when you never see each other awake.

LOVE......................when your heart flutters every time you see them.
LUST.......................when your groin twitches every time you see them.
MARRIAGE............when your wallet empties every time you see them.

LOVE......................when nobody else matters.
LUST.......................when nobody else knows.
MARRIAGE............when everybody else matters and you don't care who knows.

LOVE......................when all the songs on the radio describe exactly how you feel.
LUST.......................when it's just the same mushy old sh*t.
MARRIAGE............when you never listen to music.

LOVE......................when breaking up is something you try not to think about.
LUST.......................when staying together is something you try not to think about.
MARRIAGE............when just getting through today is your only thought.

LOVE......................when you're interested in everything your partner does.
LUST.......................when you're only interested in one thing.
MARRIAGE............when you're not interested in what your partner does and the one thing you're interested in is your golf score.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 07, 2006 15:57

Altruisticman write:
Sware 2, I apologize for offending your delicate, self-righteous sensibilities. I had no intention of debating whether or not I had ever experienced true love. I wouldn't have even been so irritated by your post if it weren't for the fact that it was posted after I had already explained to red my intentions and she replied. I hate to sound cynical but you really sound as if you have your head in the clouds. It has been my experience that no matter how much you love one another there's always gonna be disagreements. Obviously you aren't aware that even when things seem great one of the mate's may have been unhappy at times. So are you suggesting that you and your husband have had the only perfect marriage in the history of the world?With that being said, I'm glad that you were in a perfect marriage, but I would find it easier to believe if your husband would have been able to post his views as well.

Psych 101,Dr. Ruth, and Dr phil teaches us that it is better to make your partner aware of your discomfort as opposed to pretending that it doesn't exist. There are no perfect people and it is inevitable that the one you love the most will have a mannerism or two that will irritate you. People who suppress their disdain usually have hypertention or other stress related illnesses and have even been known to die at early ages. You said that you were married for twenty years. Where is your husband now?

If you read my post, you know I agree....you just spent a bit more time to be more eloquent.... As you (and I) suspected, I checked her profile. She is indeed widowed. I'm very sorry for your loss, sware2, but it still isn't right to judge people you don't know about what they do or do not know about love (at least based on this thread).

And angyson...did you stay up all night answering every forum or what?! You've posted nearly everywhere on old stuff? What's up? The nympho never return?! (smile)



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Posted on Fri, Apr 07, 2006 08:18

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Wow, married at 18 or under, I wish I was that lucky :)

mzchiquita it may seem exciting to you now, but believe me that if you wait awhile longer you'll be glad that you did. Although some people are ready for marriage at young ages, most aren't. Marriage is a wonderful thing when both parties are willing to make it's sucess a priority, but with the pressures of today's society; careers, possessions, and notariety are priorities that seem to outweigh and even crush marriage. My advise is to wait at least until you have your career on track, because some careers require extensive travel or even education which can leave a spouse feeling lonely and neglected due to your lack of time and availability.



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Posted on Thu, Apr 06, 2006 01:11

Sware 2, I apologize for offending your delicate, self-righteous sensibilities. I had no intention of debating whether or not I had ever experienced true love. I wouldn't have even been so irritated by your post if it weren't for the fact that it was posted after I had already explained to red my intentions and she replied. I hate to sound cynical but you really sound as if you have your head in the clouds. It has been my experience that no matter how much you love one another there's always gonna be disagreements. Obviously you aren't aware that even when things seem great one of the mate's may have been unhappy at times. So are you suggesting that you and your husband have had the only perfect marriage in the history of the world?With that being said, I'm glad that you were in a perfect marriage, but I would find it easier to believe if your husband would have been able to post his views as well.

Psych 101,Dr. Ruth, and Dr phil teaches us that it is better to make your partner aware of your discomfort as opposed to pretending that it doesn't exist. There are no perfect people and it is inevitable that the one you love the most will have a mannerism or two that will irritate you. People who suppress their disdain usually have hypertention or other stress related illnesses and have even been known to die at early ages. You said that you were married for twenty years. Where is your husband now?



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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 14:01

sware_2 write:
Obviously most if not all of you have never really known what a true love filled marriage can be. I was married for 20 years to the most wonderful man God could have ever sent me. It was love at first meeting..by the end of the evening I did not want to leave him.. we talked and talked.. and sex was not even involved at that point.. married him two months later.. and I can say in that 20 yrs.. we never argued.. we agreed to disagree.. I respected him and he did me..

The secret to ANY good relationship is you both are Givers .. If both are more concerned on making the other happier than they have made you. both are winners and everyone is happy.

In todays society there are so many Takers and people wonder why they can't find that "ONE" partner.. you can't see someone good and someone special if you don't look beyond the end of your own nose.


I do believe that you might have missed the point that the original list was just a joke!!!! But your points are well taken on a more serious note. :o)



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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 11:28

Altruisticman write:
The following statement made by Rob is the reason that I stared this thread.

"Some things people just need to experience for themselves. You can't consider yourself a vetran of internet dating until you have some good war stories!

Maybe we could start a more positive thread about Truthful, Honest, Fun Lovers that we had in the past!!! I want to spend my time shooting for that 7.5 years bonus time." :o)

Well Rob this is as close as I could come to satisfying that request. I hope everyone enjoys it.

LOVE......................when your eyes meet across a crowded room.
LUST.......................when your tongues meet across a crowded room.
MARRIAGE............when your belt won't meet around your waist, and you don't care.

LOVE......................when intercourse is called making love.
LUST.......................all other times.
MARRIAGE............what's intercourse?

LOVE......................when you argue over how many children to have.
LUST.......................when you argue over who gets the wet spot.
MARRIAGE............when you argue over money.

LOVE......................when you share everything you own.
LUST.......................when you think twice about giving your partner bus money.
MARRIAGE............when the bank owns everything.

LOVE......................when it doesn't matter if you don't climax.
LUST.......................when the relationship is over if you don't climax.
MARRIAGE............what's a climax?

LOVE......................when you phone each other just to say "G'day".
LUST.......................when you phone each other just to organize sex.
MARRIAGE............when you phone each other to find out what time your son's game starts.

LOVE......................when you write poems about your partner.
LUST.......................when all you write is your phone number.
MARRIAGE............when all you write is checks.

LOVE......................when you show concern for your partners' feelings.
LUST.......................when you couldn't give a sh*t.
MARRIAGE............when your only concern is what's on TV.

LOVE......................when your farewell is "I love you darling ..."
LUST.......................when your farewell is "So, same time next week?"
MARRIAGE............when your farewell is silent.

LOVE......................when you are proud to be seen in public with your partner.
LUST.......................when you only ever see each other in the bedroom.
MARRIAGE............when you never see each other awake.

LOVE......................when your heart flutters every time you see them.
LUST.......................when your groin twitches every time you see them.
MARRIAGE............when your wallet empties every time you see them.

LOVE......................when nobody else matters.
LUST.......................when nobody else knows.
MARRIAGE............when everybody else matters and you don't care who knows.

LOVE......................when all the songs on the radio describe exactly how you feel.
LUST.......................when it's just the same mushy old sh*t.
MARRIAGE............when you never listen to music.

LOVE......................when breaking up is something you try not to think about.
LUST.......................when staying together is something you try not to think about.
MARRIAGE............when just getting through today is your only thought.

LOVE......................when you're interested in everything your partner does.
LUST.......................when you're only interested in one thing.
MARRIAGE............when you're not interested in what your partner does and the one thing you're interested in is your golf score.

YUMMY TO ALL, LUST A BIG PLUS....



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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 10:05

sware_2 write:
Obviously most if not all of you have never really known what a true love filled marriage can be. I was married for 20 years to the most wonderful man God could have ever sent me. It was love at first meeting..by the end of the evening I did not want to leave him.. we talked and talked.. and sex was not even involved at that point.. married him two months later.. and I can say in that 20 yrs.. we never argued.. we agreed to disagree.. I respected him and he did me..

The secret to ANY good relationship is you both are Givers .. If both are more concerned on making the other happier than they have made you. both are winners and everyone is happy.

In todays society there are so many Takers and people wonder why they can't find that "ONE" partner.. you can't see someone good and someone special if you don't look beyond the end of your own nose.


Wow, married at 18 or under, I wish I was that lucky :)



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Posted on Mon, Apr 03, 2006 03:06

sware_2 write:
Obviously most if not all of you have never really known what a true love filled marriage can be. I was married for 20 years to the most wonderful man God could have ever sent me. It was love at first meeting..by the end of the evening I did not want to leave him.. we talked and talked.. and sex was not even involved at that point.. married him two months later.. and I can say in that 20 yrs.. we never argued.. we agreed to disagree.. I respected him and he did me..

The secret to ANY good relationship is you both are Givers .. If both are more concerned on making the other happier than they have made you. both are winners and everyone is happy.

In todays society there are so many Takers and people wonder why they can't find that "ONE" partner.. you can't see someone good and someone special if you don't look beyond the end of your own nose.

While your love story is thoughtful and I also agree about giving being a key ingredient to success, how can you make such a sweeping negative judgement of those of us about whom you have no personal knowledge of our experiences? And how is this so "obvious" to you?

Arguing can be good for any relationship - if done constructively. To suggest that no arguements is a measure of true love in a marriage is inaccurate. I couldn't disagree more. In fact, agreeing to disagree can be as damaging as the worst arguement. How does a problem get resolved if both just say, okay, let's just let it go?

Let's keep the scenario simple:
You say, "Honey, it really bothers me when you leave the toilet seat up. I fell into the toilet last night." He says, "Well, it's inconvenient for me to have to lift it every time I want to use the toilet." Do you both just say okay, we'll agree to disagree and therefore both end up doing something annoying to the other? Do you not come to a compromise or does one give away to another? Which is the better solution?



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Posted on Sun, Apr 02, 2006 09:27

Obviously most if not all of you have never really known what a true love filled marriage can be. I was married for 20 years to the most wonderful man God could have ever sent me. It was love at first meeting..by the end of the evening I did not want to leave him.. we talked and talked.. and sex was not even involved at that point.. married him two months later.. and I can say in that 20 yrs.. we never argued.. we agreed to disagree.. I respected him and he did me..

The secret to ANY good relationship is you both are Givers .. If both are more concerned on making the other happier than they have made you. both are winners and everyone is happy.

In todays society there are so many Takers and people wonder why they can't find that "ONE" partner.. you can't see someone good and someone special if you don't look beyond the end of your own nose.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 11:56

Altruisticman write:
redhead524 write:
As what's his name from Laugh In (okay,yes, I'm really dating myself!):
Very in te res ting!

I must say, though, I didn't know you had such a dismal view/vision of marriage.

Red, at the time that I started this thread I just wanted to distract form the other drama filled threads. The items listed here are what I see around me but don't necessarily reflect my own personal behavior in marriage. I hoped that those of us who had gotten the short end of the stick in previous marriages could laugh and relate so that we could release. Lack of release is the reason why we have so many threads on the forum that express how fed up people are with chasing the ever elusive "true love"


Actually, depending on how you look at it, LUST ain't ranking up there so good either. ROFLMAO...



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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 09:35

READY502 write:
Hi Altruisticman!

I for one truly appreciate your efforts on distracting from the ugliness that has been so prevalent lately in the forums. Your post is very funny!

I actually have in my profile that I want someone to love, lust and respect me as I will them. I still believe in the concept of marriage, but it takes real effort on both parties to keep it alive and growing.

Thanks ready, I too still believe in the concept of marriage, and am eagerly awaiting the day to partake of it's rewards.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 08:09

Hi Altruisticman!

I for one truly appreciate your efforts on distracting from the ugliness that has been so prevalent lately in the forums. Your post is very funny!

I actually have in my profile that I want someone to love, lust and respect me as I will them. I still believe in the concept of marriage, but it takes real effort on both parties to keep it alive and growing.



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Posted on Sat, Apr 01, 2006 05:14

Altruisticman write:
redhead524 write:
As what's his name from Laugh In (okay,yes, I'm really dating myself!):
Very in te res ting!

I must say, though, I didn't know you had such a dismal view/vision of marriage.

Red, at the time that I started this thread I just wanted to distract form the other drama filled threads. The items listed here are what I see around me but don't necessarily reflect my own personal behavior in marriage. I hoped that those of us who had gotten the short end of the stick in previous marriages could laugh and relate so that we could release. Lack of release is the reason why we have so many threads on the forum that express how fed up people are with chasing the ever elusive "true love"

Glad to hear that, Altru. I can see how (sorry, but men in particular) who have gotten "the short end of the stick" would lol on the views on marriage. I just hope there aren't too many who cling to such cynical views too long. Just ain't healthy!

And I do think lack of release is the core of much of the frustration, anger and drama we've seen lately.



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Posted on Fri, Mar 31, 2006 13:42

redhead524 write:
As what's his name from Laugh In (okay,yes, I'm really dating myself!):
Very in te res ting!

I must say, though, I didn't know you had such a dismal view/vision of marriage.

Red, at the time that I started this thread I just wanted to distract form the other drama filled threads. The items listed here are what I see around me but don't necessarily reflect my own personal behavior in marriage. I hoped that those of us who had gotten the short end of the stick in previous marriages could laugh and relate so that we could release. Lack of release is the reason why we have so many threads on the forum that express how fed up people are with chasing the ever elusive "true love"



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Posted on Thu, Mar 30, 2006 18:23

This was very well done. Sad to see how things change but those of us that have dealt with divorce can relate to much of this.

Still, I refuse to believe that true love isn't possible. I just think that both people have to be at the same stage in their lives. I also believe that it is important that people are themselves. Too often people put on a facade and then they wonder why their partner stops being interested in them when they show their true self.

Honesty, integrity, trust, no hidden agendas, all lead to having a good foundation for a long and loving relationship.

Love should help each person rise to be their best. When you have unconditional love and feel supported, sex becomes amazing as a natural extension of that love.

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Posted on Thu, Mar 30, 2006 15:52

As what's his name from Laugh In (okay,yes, I'm really dating myself!):
Very in te res ting!

I must say, though, I didn't know you had such a dismal view/vision of marriage.



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