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Posted on Tue, Feb 28, 2006 15:58

I posed this question for several reasons First of all, because it never ceases to amaze me how easily Some women are willing to hop on the band-wagon after a man has achieved success. Whatever happened to the days when a man could have a vision and his woman would support him even when he ran out of steam and wanted to quit. Sencondly, I realized that people assume that ever person on here that is not a Millionaire is trying to find a meal ticket. Although that may be true for many, that's not the case for all. Some of us have been up and down on the success ladder and realize that sometimes you have to change your circle if you want to pull Yourself out of the rut. I mean think about it how many Millionaires live in smalltown USA? Who's to say that if you meet one and they take interest in you they won't A) Hire you or B) use there contacts to help you achieve a more lucrative endeavor. Doesn't someone have to help get the work done, or did you think that millionaire did all the work themselves? My third and final reason was to provoke thought in all the judgemental, not so financially together yet, themselves ladies. You know the ladies who'd overlook a man with potential, a vison, a kind heart, and sound family values for a man with money. Even if the money is temporal or can potentially limit the longevity of the relationship(Viiolent Death or Incarceration). For those who may be wondering why I joined I was hoping that if I met a successful Lady maybe she'd appreciate my mind since she didn't have to depend on my wallet to sustain herself. A tidbit that's not in my profile is that I'm well read and I've seen a great deal of the world. I've visited Alaska, Australia, Bahrain, Guam, Hawaii, Japan ,Korea and Thailand. Also Enjoyed my share of domestic scenery as well. That last piece was for the woman who may have assumed that I was some bitter broke dude.

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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 14:56

How do you define a successful man?

Is it just the money he earns or more importantly is it that he is happy with his life?

Success isnt about financial rewards but should be about whether you are enjoying what you are doing....you are not successful if you hate what you do.

There are many ways of being successful and not all of them are materialistic!

To me money means nothing I would rather meet someone who can make me laugh and will respect me and treat me as an equal.

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Posted on Sat, May 20, 2006 23:20

I'm a little late...but that isn't so...lol. I knew what it meant...hahah.



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Posted on Sat, Mar 25, 2006 08:03

I feel that it can go either way. You can be born into a wealthy family but not take advantage of the opportunities you have and end up broke or you can be born in poverty and be inspired to do something with your life and get an education and work towards being wealthy and succesful.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 22, 2006 22:49

Hi Sharp,
Nice to see you back from your cruise and returning to your regular columns of views and opinions.

I guess you are right about age and experience , we learn about ourselves and our needs as we grow and learn from our own mistakes in every aspect of our life. Age , experience , maturity also means we are more set in our ways and more resistant to change.

Do our ideals of a soulmate change as we get older because our needs change?
Are we willing to meet those changes and the expectations of those around us and mainly the sort of men/women who would be attracted to us as potential soulmates?
Are we happy to be independent and live alone if no one comes along to meet our expectations or are we so desperate to jump on the band wagon in finding a soulmate because of our fear of being alone the rest of our lives?
Do we still believe and want to believe that there is true romance and love out there , whatever our age or our circumstance?
Or course I have digressed here from the main topic, which is all about 'success'and whether it is a vital ingredient in a happy union ..but surely success like the old adage, is what you make of your life alone or with your soulmate or others...and at the end of the day it is all about the role of expectations in determining the level of happiness in our life. WE may be happy with little when we have come to expect little. And we may be miserable with much when we have been taught to expect everything.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 22, 2006 22:47

Hi Sharp,
Nice to see you back from your cruise and returning to your regular columns of views and opinions.

I guess you are right about age and experience , we learn about ourselves and our needs as we grow and learn from our own mistakes in every aspect of our life. Age , experience , maturity also means we are more set in our ways and more resistant to change.

Do our ideals of a soulmate change as we get older because our needs change?
Are we willing to meet those changes and the expectations of those around us and mainly the sort of men/women who would be attracted to us as potential soulmates?
Are we happy to be independent and live alone if no one comes along to meet our expectations or are we so desperate to jump on the band wagon in finding a soulmate because of our fear of being alone the rest of our lives?
Do we still believe and want to believe that there is true romance and love out there , whatever our age or our circumstance?
Or course I have digressed here from the main topic, which is all about 'success'and whether it is a vital ingredient in a happy union ..but surely success like the old adage, is what you make of your life alone or with your soulmate or others...and at the end of the day it is all about the role of expectations in determining the level of happiness in our life. WE may be happy with little when we have come to expect little. And we may be miserable with much when we have been taught to expect everything.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 22, 2006 14:40

I firmly believe a good woman may serve as a muse next to her good man, inspiring him to acheive, or inspiring him to live.. woman who latch on after, or at least latch on without feeling like they can be A contribution/or compliment to their man, and only wish to seek the rewards of his hard work..well they have a old slang term for that.."gold digger" those woman usually snag, use, then suck and take the life out of that man...but a lady, or sugar baby will be there next to him to compliment him..does this make sense?



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Posted on Tue, Mar 21, 2006 05:12

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Sharpe1 and Truistic, thank you both so much for sharing that with me. You two along with Cutiepie01 alway's have very good answer's and advice. I love it all. Thanks

Tasha, you're very welcome. I hate to see people who are willing to learn from the experiences of others learn everything the hard way.



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Posted on Mon, Mar 20, 2006 20:18

Sharpe1 and Truistic, thank you both so much for sharing that with me. You two along with Cutiepie01 alway's have very good answer's and advice. I love it all. Thanks

  
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Posted on Mon, Mar 20, 2006 20:15

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Altruisticman write:
I posed this question for several reasons First of all, because it never ceases to amaze me how easily Some women are willing to hop on the band-wagon after a man has achieved success. Whatever happened to the days when a man could have a vision and his woman would support him even when he ran out of steam and wanted to quit. Sencondly, I realized that people assume that ever person on here that is not a Millionaire is trying to find a meal ticket. Although that may be true for many, that's not the case for all. Some of us have been up and down on the success ladder and realize that sometimes you have to change your circle if you want to pull Yourself out of the rut. I mean think about it how many Millionaires live in smalltown USA? Who's to say that if you meet one and they take interest in you they won't A) Hire you or B) use there contacts to help you achieve a more lucrative endeavor. Doesn't someone have to help get the work done, or did you think that millionaire did all the work themselves? My third and final reason was to provoke thought in all the judgemental, not so financially together yet, themselves ladies. You know the ladies who'd overlook a man with potential, a vison, a kind heart, and sound family values for a man with money. Even if the money is temporal or can potentially limit the longevity of the relationship(Viiolent Death or Incarceration). For those who may be wondering why I joined I was hoping that if I met a successful Lady maybe she'd appreciate my mind since she didn't have to depend on my wallet to sustain herself. A tidbit that's not in my profile is that I'm well read and I've seen a great deal of the world. I've visited Alaska, Australia, Bahrain, Guam, Hawaii, Japan ,Korea and Thailand. Also Enjoyed my share of domestic scenery as well. That last piece was for the woman who may have assumed that I was some bitter broke dude.

Altruistic... I might not know about lot's of things... I just want to say, a long time ago, I knew I would never be a millionaire or have all of the nice things everyone wants, even though I feel I was born to have everything. I decided to live my life, pay my bill's take care of my children and enjoy what money I make. I never do without. What's wrong with just being in between? Sure I am alway's striving to be better but it gives me something to do. My biggest problem is being (dragged or drug)down by people. I alway's seem to meet people and congregate with one's who are taker's. I end up loosing out. They are'nt bad people though...A good example is someone in my life now. I alway's pay for everything,anything,I don't want to be cheap. I have done and done and done to the point that I almost hate this person or very much dislike. At the same time I feel this person is trying to sabotage me. I have fixed it to where this person can get back on their feet and do what's right and live and not have to worry. Do I get appreciation? Not any! Not a thank's or Tasha is there anything I can do for you? I'm just worn out. I am moving soon, I will cut this person out of my life and carry on. I'm sure I will do much better. I had to vent out a little. Boy do I feel a little better!


Tasha, I'm glad you feel better. It's not about how much you know/possess it's about what you do with the knowledgepossessions that you do have. You're not the only one to ever be in your position. It's up to you not to let people drag you down. I can tell you from experience, that unless you make a choice not to be used, you'll find someone else to drag you down, even when you move. Just rember that "Parasites can't exist without a host."

Tash I have the same problem with people. There are parasites out there that can track us down like blood hounds, and thats exactly what they want is our blood. I had a roommate that I let move in with me 2 different times because I didnt want her to feel alone in a strange town when her and her husband split up. She met a guy and I never heard from her again until they split up. Then here she came again. I of course opened my door again. The last time I saw or heard from her was the day I came home from work early and she was moving out. I had just started making her pay rent, after 9 months of living here for free. she just found someone else to listen to her sob story about how mean i am to charge her $200 a month rent. They fell for it and now she is their problem. good riddance! what a relief to have my home back.

Oh GOD is'nt it a relief??? I just cleared out my apartment. This is why I think it is good not to have so called friends. I can't stand it. Hell if it is'nt money then it's emotional problems from hell. Have you ever had a friend that could'nt stop whining and complaining? It's enough to drive a crazy person sane.

  
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Posted on Sun, Mar 19, 2006 11:05

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Thanks Bonnie for acknowleging My handle. So far Robtest was the only other person to know what Altruism meant.


Now I know you are not implying the rest of us are illiterate! lol

In the past, there have been so many Trolls/Fake profiles...so I tend to be more wary of new names coming up. I stick to those profiles I know are safe. That doesn't make me a follower...but on MM, just more cautious. Bonnie is a friend, and seeing her post drew my attention to the thread. What can I say? :-)



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Posted on Sun, Mar 19, 2006 10:58

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Altruisticman write:
I posed this question for several reasons First of all, because it never ceases to amaze me how easily Some women are willing to hop on the band-wagon after a man has achieved success. Whatever happened to the days when a man could have a vision and his woman would support him even when he ran out of steam and wanted to quit. Sencondly, I realized that people assume that ever person on here that is not a Millionaire is trying to find a meal ticket. Although that may be true for many, that's not the case for all. Some of us have been up and down on the success ladder and realize that sometimes you have to change your circle if you want to pull Yourself out of the rut. I mean think about it how many Millionaires live in smalltown USA? Who's to say that if you meet one and they take interest in you they won't A) Hire you or B) use there contacts to help you achieve a more lucrative endeavor. Doesn't someone have to help get the work done, or did you think that millionaire did all the work themselves? My third and final reason was to provoke thought in all the judgemental, not so financially together yet, themselves ladies. You know the ladies who'd overlook a man with potential, a vison, a kind heart, and sound family values for a man with money. Even if the money is temporal or can potentially limit the longevity of the relationship(Viiolent Death or Incarceration). For those who may be wondering why I joined I was hoping that if I met a successful Lady maybe she'd appreciate my mind since she didn't have to depend on my wallet to sustain herself. A tidbit that's not in my profile is that I'm well read and I've seen a great deal of the world. I've visited Alaska, Australia, Bahrain, Guam, Hawaii, Japan ,Korea and Thailand. Also Enjoyed my share of domestic scenery as well. That last piece was for the woman who may have assumed that I was some bitter broke dude.

Altruistic... I might not know about lot's of things... I just want to say, a long time ago, I knew I would never be a millionaire or have all of the nice things everyone wants, even though I feel I was born to have everything. I decided to live my life, pay my bill's take care of my children and enjoy what money I make. I never do without. What's wrong with just being in between? Sure I am alway's striving to be better but it gives me something to do. My biggest problem is being (dragged or drug)down by people. I alway's seem to meet people and congregate with one's who are taker's. I end up loosing out. They are'nt bad people though...A good example is someone in my life now. I alway's pay for everything,anything,I don't want to be cheap. I have done and done and done to the point that I almost hate this person or very much dislike. At the same time I feel this person is trying to sabotage me. I have fixed it to where this person can get back on their feet and do what's right and live and not have to worry. Do I get appreciation? Not any! Not a thank's or Tasha is there anything I can do for you? I'm just worn out. I am moving soon, I will cut this person out of my life and carry on. I'm sure I will do much better. I had to vent out a little. Boy do I feel a little better!


Tasha, I'm glad you feel better. It's not about how much you know/possess it's about what you do with the knowledgepossessions that you do have. You're not the only one to ever be in your position. It's up to you not to let people drag you down. I can tell you from experience, that unless you make a choice not to be used, you'll find someone else to drag you down, even when you move. Just rember that "Parasites can't exist without a host."

To quote Altruistic..." It's not about how much you know/possess it's about what you do with the knowledgepossessions that you do have."

So true Tasha.

Altruistic wrote: "Parasites can't exist without a host."

This is true too, but not always. The World is made of different types of people...I'm an A type...it sounds like you are too! There are people with ambition, but no work ethic; people with ambition and a strong work ethic...you may fall into this category...some people in this category will achieve great successes in their career and financially; others less, but enough to maintain a comfortable lifestyle. The fact they are happy is important.
Some people have no ambition, no work ethic; others have no ambition and a strong work ethic.
I have a friend from high school who falls into the latter group, who I've helped out a few times over the years financially. I do not perceive her as a parasite. She is altruistic, and could have gone back to school, but chose not to, because she was afraid she was too stupid. That is a lack of confidence and self-esteem. It doesn't make her a parasite. But her failure to return to school confined her to minimum wage jobs. It's not easy in your late 40's to pay rent, make car payments, vehicle insurance payments, etc. on minimum wage. Yet her material needs in life are few, and she is quite happy with good friends and family.
I would define parasites as those so called 'friends' who want to mooch forever off of whoever is willing to let them, for as long as they are allowed to mooch. These people have no ambitions in life, no work ethic, are lazy, narcissistic, and simply want to live off the efforts of others. It's all about them, and they feel the World owes them something.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 19, 2006 10:40

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So it is almost a natural instinct that men/women wish to surround themselves with people whom they deemed 'successful' and hopefully inspire them with that magic too.


I'm wondering if age factor enters here. In one's early to mid-20's few have achieved success; therefore, should they meet someone they wish to marry and settle with, I doubt either party are considering, "how successful will this person aspire to and financially well off become?" or are they more likely to be considering, "how much they enjoy that persons company...conversation, laughter, fun & loving feeling they inspire in each other." I would think the latter. If the former happened, that would be the unexpected icing on the cake.

Now approaching mid-20's to 30 yrs, there is more maturity, one's individual identity is better known to themselves. One's career path and ambitions are more clear & established. Goals are set to achieve successes. Basically you know what you want, hence you look for a partner with similar goals and aspirations...someone who is an achiever with determination, and a strong work ethic. Intelligence is a given. These are qualities I would define as a successful person...not whether monetarily they have $1M in their bank account.

Coming onto a site such as MM does not guarantee that you will find such a match, but the selection of educated & successful male/female potentials who meet your qualifications may be greater.



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Posted on Sat, Mar 18, 2006 14:46

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I posed this question for several reasons First of all, because it never ceases to amaze me how easily Some women are willing to hop on the band-wagon after a man has achieved success. Whatever happened to the days when a man could have a vision and his woman would support him even when he ran out of steam and wanted to quit. Sencondly, I realized that people assume that ever person on here that is not a Millionaire is trying to find a meal ticket. Although that may be true for many, that's not the case for all. Some of us have been up and down on the success ladder and realize that sometimes you have to change your circle if you want to pull Yourself out of the rut. I mean think about it how many Millionaires live in smalltown USA? Who's to say that if you meet one and they take interest in you they won't A) Hire you or B) use there contacts to help you achieve a more lucrative endeavor. Doesn't someone have to help get the work done, or did you think that millionaire did all the work themselves? My third and final reason was to provoke thought in all the judgemental, not so financially together yet, themselves ladies. You know the ladies who'd overlook a man with potential, a vison, a kind heart, and sound family values for a man with money. Even if the money is temporal or can potentially limit the longevity of the relationship(Viiolent Death or Incarceration). For those who may be wondering why I joined I was hoping that if I met a successful Lady maybe she'd appreciate my mind since she didn't have to depend on my wallet to sustain herself. A tidbit that's not in my profile is that I'm well read and I've seen a great deal of the world. I've visited Alaska, Australia, Bahrain, Guam, Hawaii, Japan ,Korea and Thailand. Also Enjoyed my share of domestic scenery as well. That last piece was for the woman who may have assumed that I was some bitter broke dude.

Altruistic... I might not know about lot's of things... I just want to say, a long time ago, I knew I would never be a millionaire or have all of the nice things everyone wants, even though I feel I was born to have everything. I decided to live my life, pay my bill's take care of my children and enjoy what money I make. I never do without. What's wrong with just being in between? Sure I am alway's striving to be better but it gives me something to do. My biggest problem is being (dragged or drug)down by people. I alway's seem to meet people and congregate with one's who are taker's. I end up loosing out. They are'nt bad people though...A good example is someone in my life now. I alway's pay for everything,anything,I don't want to be cheap. I have done and done and done to the point that I almost hate this person or very much dislike. At the same time I feel this person is trying to sabotage me. I have fixed it to where this person can get back on their feet and do what's right and live and not have to worry. Do I get appreciation? Not any! Not a thank's or Tasha is there anything I can do for you? I'm just worn out. I am moving soon, I will cut this person out of my life and carry on. I'm sure I will do much better. I had to vent out a little. Boy do I feel a little better!


Tasha, I'm glad you feel better. It's not about how much you know/possess it's about what you do with the knowledgepossessions that you do have. You're not the only one to ever be in your position. It's up to you not to let people drag you down. I can tell you from experience, that unless you make a choice not to be used, you'll find someone else to drag you down, even when you move. Just rember that "Parasites can't exist without a host."

Tash I have the same problem with people. There are parasites out there that can track us down like blood hounds, and thats exactly what they want is our blood. I had a roommate that I let move in with me 2 different times because I didnt want her to feel alone in a strange town when her and her husband split up. She met a guy and I never heard from her again until they split up. Then here she came again. I of course opened my door again. The last time I saw or heard from her was the day I came home from work early and she was moving out. I had just started making her pay rent, after 9 months of living here for free. she just found someone else to listen to her sob story about how mean i am to charge her $200 a month rent. They fell for it and now she is their problem. good riddance! what a relief to have my home back.



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Good for you Tasha, get rid of this person that takes and takes, and take care of yourself and your children and meanwhile let them come to you and for once say no I'm not taking care of a man he has to take care of me if he wants me...Stick to your guns!!!Girl

Well, it is'nt exactly a man... it's my "best friend". I don't hate her, just get mad at times because I have always done it by myself... why can't she? It's not impossible, it's not hard. Just do it! But I have noticed she does'nt care how her life ends up or how she lives. There is no hope for her, I feel. I do care about mine though and will alway's make improvement's when I have the chance. She did tell me if I ever came back to Alabama and needed a place to stay, look her up. That's not likely!

I am happy for you I know you did the right thing...



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Posted on Fri, Mar 17, 2006 14:59

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Good for you Tasha, get rid of this person that takes and takes, and take care of yourself and your children and meanwhile let them come to you and for once say no I'm not taking care of a man he has to take care of me if he wants me...Stick to your guns!!!Girl

Well, it is'nt exactly a man... it's my "best friend". I don't hate her, just get mad at times because I have always done it by myself... why can't she? It's not impossible, it's not hard. Just do it! But I have noticed she does'nt care how her life ends up or how she lives. There is no hope for her, I feel. I do care about mine though and will alway's make improvement's when I have the chance. She did tell me if I ever came back to Alabama and needed a place to stay, look her up. That's not likely!

  
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Good for you Tasha, get rid of this person that takes and takes, and take care of yourself and your children and meanwhile let them come to you and for once say no I'm not taking care of a man he has to take care of me if he wants me...Stick to your guns!!!Girl

  


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Posted on Wed, Mar 15, 2006 09:44

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I posed this question for several reasons First of all, because it never ceases to amaze me how easily Some women are willing to hop on the band-wagon after a man has achieved success. Whatever happened to the days when a man could have a vision and his woman would support him even when he ran out of steam and wanted to quit. Sencondly, I realized that people assume that ever person on here that is not a Millionaire is trying to find a meal ticket. Although that may be true for many, that's not the case for all. Some of us have been up and down on the success ladder and realize that sometimes you have to change your circle if you want to pull Yourself out of the rut. I mean think about it how many Millionaires live in smalltown USA? Who's to say that if you meet one and they take interest in you they won't A) Hire you or B) use there contacts to help you achieve a more lucrative endeavor. Doesn't someone have to help get the work done, or did you think that millionaire did all the work themselves? My third and final reason was to provoke thought in all the judgemental, not so financially together yet, themselves ladies. You know the ladies who'd overlook a man with potential, a vison, a kind heart, and sound family values for a man with money. Even if the money is temporal or can potentially limit the longevity of the relationship(Viiolent Death or Incarceration). For those who may be wondering why I joined I was hoping that if I met a successful Lady maybe she'd appreciate my mind since she didn't have to depend on my wallet to sustain herself. A tidbit that's not in my profile is that I'm well read and I've seen a great deal of the world. I've visited Alaska, Australia, Bahrain, Guam, Hawaii, Japan ,Korea and Thailand. Also Enjoyed my share of domestic scenery as well. That last piece was for the woman who may have assumed that I was some bitter broke dude.

Altruistic... I might not know about lot's of things... I just want to say, a long time ago, I knew I would never be a millionaire or have all of the nice things everyone wants, even though I feel I was born to have everything. I decided to live my life, pay my bill's take care of my children and enjoy what money I make. I never do without. What's wrong with just being in between? Sure I am alway's striving to be better but it gives me something to do. My biggest problem is being (dragged or drug)down by people. I alway's seem to meet people and congregate with one's who are taker's. I end up loosing out. They are'nt bad people though...A good example is someone in my life now. I alway's pay for everything,anything,I don't want to be cheap. I have done and done and done to the point that I almost hate this person or very much dislike. At the same time I feel this person is trying to sabotage me. I have fixed it to where this person can get back on their feet and do what's right and live and not have to worry. Do I get appreciation? Not any! Not a thank's or Tasha is there anything I can do for you? I'm just worn out. I am moving soon, I will cut this person out of my life and carry on. I'm sure I will do much better. I had to vent out a little. Boy do I feel a little better!


Tasha, I'm glad you feel better. It's not about how much you know/possess it's about what you do with the knowledgepossessions that you do have. You're not the only one to ever be in your position. It's up to you not to let people drag you down. I can tell you from experience, that unless you make a choice not to be used, you'll find someone else to drag you down, even when you move. Just rember that "Parasites can't exist without a host."



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Posted on Wed, Mar 15, 2006 09:19

Thanks Bonnie for acknowleging My handle. So far Robtest was the only other person to know what Altruism meant.



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I posed this question for several reasons First of all, because it never ceases to amaze me how easily Some women are willing .....

Tru, people who achieve success, win the lottery, become the Mayor, get into Forbes magazine, et al, often (if not ALWAYS) discover they have a heck of a lot more cousins and long lost friends than they can ever recall knowing, BEFORE success smacked them in the eye. And they're not ALL women! Like leeches to blood, some people smell success and want to be near it... or better still - inherit it! LOL

Now, your second reason for composing this thread is easy. "Them's what haves, KEEPS it!" People don't value someone with potential because it isn't proven yet! It's only subjective hearsay. EVERYBODY thinks they have potential! So until someone can back that statement up with tangible evidence, then they really are just like everybody else! Wishing don't make it so.

(Good thing is though, you don't have a ton of boot-licking cousins you never knew you had bugging you until after you "make it"! lol

And lastly, I don't know ANY women who would turn down a good and loving man for a guy who only has money. I mean it. I don't know ANY!

It's my contention that this kind of woman is a myth invented by millionaires who need an excuse not to fall in love. They just blame it on women who are only after them for their treasure. Arrgh!

You aren't the only good and moralistic person who is overlooked in the love department, sweetie. And I'm not being facetious or sarcastic here ... I'm talking from the heart, Altruistic. Everybody HERE is a good person, (well, and then there's the enigmatic Bob who we can't read because he's never himself). We all know where you're coming from, luv. We're there too.

And to answer your question, "Are successful men always born or can they be inspired? I think successful men can be taught. One way to rub a little luck on you, Tru, is to find someone who you admire for their great success, (you'd meet the best success if you picked an accomplished entrepreneur in your home town) and write to that person and ask them if you could meet them and ask them for their ideas on what makes someone successful. I've met many very interesting, successful and wealthy people that way. But the secret is ... NOT to sleep with them or even DATE them but just get the advice and information, shake hands and say goodbye. Maybe write a follow-up "Thank You" letter. But that's ALL! lol

(No sense giving them any fuel for their assumption you might be a gold-digger!) lol

Altruistic, I don't know why you don't get by on just your looks alone! You are quite fine to look at! Have you tried modelling?

Wow! I don't even know how to respond. I started this thread the day I first found MM and it went unnoticed so long that I forgot about it. lol First of all thanks for the compliment and yes I did model when I was younger. I gave it up to be a single parent, plus I'm 1.5 inches too short for runway. Besides that Ohio has a small market for Modeling. In response to you comment about not having relatives and leeches, "been there done that". :)

After reading your comment about not knowing any woman who'd shun a loving man for a man with money I dedcided to move to Canada. lol. All jokes aside, I know that it happens in this country because I've been on both sides of the scenerio. I'm not trying to pass myself off as an angel, or someone who has never been loved. It's just that I'm maturing and need to be loved in a diifferent way. I've never had any problems attracting women especially older or more established. It's just that I've encountered very few who can match my wits or be supportive.

In Bob's defense, he's just protecting himself. I'll probably get kicked out of the man club for this. lol but here goes. Speaking as a reformed womanizer, I can tell you that when men are obnoxious on the outside they're insecure. They've usually been hurt and feel a subconscious need to hide thier true feelings. No matter how many women you date, you still feel lonely at the end of the day or on holidays. You question yourself and wonder if any woman would ever want to know the real you.



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