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Posted on Sun, Feb 12, 2006 06:58

What constitutes a quirk vs a snag and an issue? How many quirks make a snag or an issue? How many snags make an issue? How many issues will you tolerate, which one(s) would you turn and walk - or run - from?

Assumption: You're still in the dating stage, exclusive relationship but not married.



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Posted on Thu, Apr 06, 2006 22:14

redhead524 write:

Angyson write:
2 quirks = 1 snag
3 snags = 1 issue
1 issue is tolerable
most issues are sufficient to walk away from

Do you stay up nights thinking these things up?


No, but I notice it took you an awful long time to think of an answer!

I do, however, like your logic.


Does seem like a decent system...

6 quirks, 3 snags or 1 issue.


So has anyone ever had a bad night and gotten all 10 in one sitting??? ROFL

I tend to play a baseball like format myself. 3 strikes and they are out. LOL, of course there have been a few that fouled out early. :o)



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Posted on Thu, Apr 06, 2006 18:10

Angyson write:
2 quirks = 1 snag
3 snags = 1 issue
1 issue is tolerable
most issues are sufficient to walk away from

Do you stay up nights thinking these things up?

No, but I notice it took you an awful long time to think of an answer!

I do, however, like your logic.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 15, 2006 16:14

beautynbrains4u write:
rolmao...but ya know what they say..it's not the size of the wand but the magic in it...(more likely the magic between the two though!)

lolol..blah,blah,blah....It's a myth a man made up (on the wand size). Magic takes two...indeed!



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Posted on Wed, Feb 15, 2006 15:12

beautynbrains4u write:
redhead524 write:

beautynbrains4u write:

redhead524 write:
What constitutes a quirk vs a snag and an issue? How many quirks make a snag or an issue? How many snags make an issue? How many issues will you tolerate, which one(s) would you turn and walk - or run - from?

Assumption: You're still in the dating stage, exclusive relationship but not married.


Hi Red,

If he's wearing speedo's I say RUN, cindy, RUN...lol


You betcha, Beauty/Cindy!!!
Speedo's may be a quirk but are a huge sign of an issue!
1. Boxers or boxer briefs
2. Commando
3. Whitey tighties

Teri

Well Teri, the one advantage of speedos.....You'll know if there is a big sign of an issue (or not)...oops there i go again...

roflmao! soooooooooo right! Usually no big sign!....lololol



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Posted on Tue, Feb 14, 2006 16:12

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thegoodlife421 write:
Face it: We're all package deals. We constantly do these little internal cost-benefit analyses, trying to figure out whether or not people are worth our time, energy and devotion. That's why I might tolerate a quirk in one man, but not another.

Quirks or Snags? If it's a neutral quirk you can live with, then it doesn't qualify as a problem. Bad quirks are always snags for me in the long term, though. I can love many people along with their associated bad qualities, but I will NEVER marry them. "Bad" quirks that seem "cute" in the early part of a relationship turn real ugly a few years later!!!! Perhaps that's the REAL reason I am still single!!!!!(writing this while woefully reminiscing on a past relationship with a narcissist . . .)

Anyhoo, my main "quirk" is my shoe addiction.



Goodlife, I have found a man can make a general character assessment based on the number of shoes a woman owns.

Now is it a QUIRK, ISSUE or SNAG when a man has a fetish for your shoes? LOL.

Ah, but if the man wants your shoes, that to me would definitely qualify as an issue...if he just likes them on women....like goodlife said, a gift from heaven!



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Posted on Tue, Feb 14, 2006 16:10

beautynbrains4u write:

redhead524 write:
What constitutes a quirk vs a snag and an issue? How many quirks make a snag or an issue? How many snags make an issue? How many issues will you tolerate, which one(s) would you turn and walk - or run - from?

Assumption: You're still in the dating stage, exclusive relationship but not married.


Hi Red,

If he's wearing speedo's I say RUN, cindy, RUN...lol

You betcha, Beauty/Cindy!!!
Speedo's may be a quirk but are a huge sign of an issue!
1. Boxers or boxer briefs
2. Commando
3. Whitey tighties

Teri



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Posted on Tue, Feb 14, 2006 09:23

It's a gift from heaven! And it's why I stayed with my narcissist love for so long!!!!!!!!!!! Like I said, we're all package deals . . .



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Posted on Tue, Feb 14, 2006 08:41

redhead524 write:
Good to see you, goodlife. Hope all is well in the romance dept.

Completely agree. I think that's why I'm still single as well. And I think it's why many, as devo said, are seemingly intolerant. Our past experiences help shape our
'checklist' of that which is desired, tolerable and that which is not.

I almost hate to tell my quirk...it's kind of "Monkish"...but I swear it's only one, it's not a pattern! My quirk is with food: There are many foods that I don't like touching each other on my plate. I know...lol...Could be just a habit, my mother does it.


Red oh my you do have a QUIRK. I have an ISSUE with it! LOL. My 9 year old boy used to want a separate plate and fork for each serving of his food. I came up with the solution. I made him wash the dishes (no electric dishwasher) for like two weeks. He overcame the QUIRK, yes he still complains about food touching on the same plate. So Quirks can be overcome.

Red, I know what you about to say. You have to wash all the dishes anyway. LMAO



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Posted on Tue, Feb 14, 2006 08:39

thegoodlife421 write:
Face it: We're all package deals. We constantly do these little internal cost-benefit analyses, trying to figure out whether or not people are worth our time, energy and devotion. That's why I might tolerate a quirk in one man, but not another.

Quirks or Snags? If it's a neutral quirk you can live with, then it doesn't qualify as a problem. Bad quirks are always snags for me in the long term, though. I can love many people along with their associated bad qualities, but I will NEVER marry them. "Bad" quirks that seem "cute" in the early part of a relationship turn real ugly a few years later!!!! Perhaps that's the REAL reason I am still single!!!!!(writing this while woefully reminiscing on a past relationship with a narcissist . . .)

Anyhoo, my main "quirk" is my shoe addiction.


Goodlife, I have found a man can make a general character assessment based on the number of shoes a woman owns.

Now is it a QUIRK, ISSUE or SNAG when a man has a fetish for your shoes? LOL.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 13, 2006 15:33

thegoodlife421 write:
Face it: We're all package deals. We constantly do these little internal cost-benefit analyses, trying to figure out whether or not people are worth our time, energy and devotion. That's why I might tolerate a quirk in one man, but not another.

Quirks or Snags? If it's a neutral quirk you can live with, then it doesn't qualify as a problem. Bad quirks are always snags for me in the long term, though. I can love many people along with their associated bad qualities, but I will NEVER marry them. "Bad" quirks that seem "cute" in the early part of a relationship turn real ugly a few years later!!!! Perhaps that's the REAL reason I am still single!!!!!(writing this while woefully reminiscing on a past relationship with a narcissist . . .)

Anyhoo, my main "quirk" is my shoe addiction.

Good to see you, goodlife. Hope all is well in the romance dept.

Completely agree. I think that's why I'm still single as well. And I think it's why many, as devo said, are seemingly intolerant. Our past experiences help shape our
'checklist' of that which is desired, tolerable and that which is not.

I almost hate to tell my quirk...it's kind of "Monkish"...but I swear it's only one, it's not a pattern! My quirk is with food: There are many foods that I don't like touching each other on my plate. I know...lol...Could be just a habit, my mother does it.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 13, 2006 15:19

Devoted2FindingU write:
Red, it is easier to overlook or deal with quirks and issues when you are married. However in the dating world we are not as tolerant of quirks and issues? It does not take to many issues before you stop dating someone. For example if you went out with someone that brought disinfectant wipes with them and used it on your car, door knobs etc. Is this a quirk or issue? It was a SNAG - in my screening process!

I know it is, that's exactly why I put the assumption in...in marriage we've already decided what we're going to live with and in the dating process, we indeed have our checklist. And you're right, I think most people aren't very tolerant of snags or issues. Quirks...well, I guess that depends on the quirk, doesn't it?
Funny, I was thinking of the "Monkish" issue as an example...first it's one quirk, then it's another and another and another until you find yourself saying one day, 'wow, that girl/guy has a real problem!" lol Yet you find it a snag...hmm...



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Posted on Mon, Feb 13, 2006 09:12

Face it: We're all package deals. We constantly do these little internal cost-benefit analyses, trying to figure out whether or not people are worth our time, energy and devotion. That's why I might tolerate a quirk in one man, but not another.

Quirks or Snags? If it's a neutral quirk you can live with, then it doesn't qualify as a problem. Bad quirks are always snags for me in the long term, though. I can love many people along with their associated bad qualities, but I will NEVER marry them. "Bad" quirks that seem "cute" in the early part of a relationship turn real ugly a few years later!!!! Perhaps that's the REAL reason I am still single!!!!!(writing this while woefully reminiscing on a past relationship with a narcissist . . .)

Anyhoo, my main "quirk" is my shoe addiction.



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Posted on Mon, Feb 13, 2006 08:52

Not sure I distinguish on the different leveling...

I simply look at it as "Is this something that I could live with the rest of my life???"

If the answer is YES, then I continue, if the answer is NO, then I hit the NEXT >>> button...



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Posted on Mon, Feb 13, 2006 08:14

Red, it is easier to overlook or deal with quirks and issues when you are married. However in the dating world we are not as tolerant of quirks and issues? It does not take to many issues before you stop dating someone. For example if you went out with someone that brought disinfectant wipes with them and used it on your car, door knobs etc. Is this a quirk or issue? It was a SNAG - in my screening process!



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