Quirks, Snags & Issues Romance

  • View author's info Author posted on Feb 12, 2006 06:58


    What constitutes a quirk vs a snag and an issue? How many quirks make a snag or an issue? How many snags make an issue? How many issues will you tolerate, which one(s) would you turn and walk - or run - from?

    Assumption: You're still in the dating stage, exclusive relationship but not married.
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  • View author's info posted on Apr 06, 2006 22:14


    redhead524 write:

    Angyson write:
    2 quirks = 1 snag
    3 snags = 1 issue
    1 issue is tolerable
    most issues are sufficient to walk away from

    Do you stay up nights thinking these things up?


    No, but I notice it took you an awful long time to think of an answer!

    I do, however, like your logic.


    Does seem like a decent system...

    6 quirks, 3 snags or 1 issue.


    So has anyone ever had a bad night and gotten all 10 in one sitting??? ROFL

    I tend to play a baseball like format myself. 3 strikes and they are out. LOL, of course there have been a few that fouled out early. :o)
  • View author's info posted on Apr 06, 2006 18:10


    Angyson write:
    2 quirks = 1 snag
    3 snags = 1 issue
    1 issue is tolerable
    most issues are sufficient to walk away from

    Do you stay up nights thinking these things up?

    No, but I notice it took you an awful long time to think of an answer!

    I do, however, like your logic.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 15, 2006 16:14


    beautynbrains4u write:
    rolmao...but ya know what they say..it's not the size of the wand but the magic in it...(more likely the magic between the two though!)

    lolol..blah,blah,blah....It's a myth a man made up (on the wand size). Magic takes two...indeed!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 15, 2006 15:12


    beautynbrains4u write:
    redhead524 write:

    beautynbrains4u write:

    redhead524 write:
    What constitutes a quirk vs a snag and an issue? How many quirks make a snag or an issue? How many snags make an issue? How many issues will you tolerate, which one(s) would you turn and walk - or run - from?

    Assumption: You're still in the dating stage, exclusive relationship but not married.


    Hi Red,

    If he's wearing speedo's I say RUN, cindy, RUN...lol


    You betcha, Beauty/Cindy!!!
    Speedo's may be a quirk but are a huge sign of an issue!
    1. Boxers or boxer briefs
    2. Commando
    3. Whitey tighties

    Teri

    Well Teri, the one advantage of speedos.....You'll know if there is a big sign of an issue (or not)...oops there i go again...

    roflmao! soooooooooo right! Usually no big sign!....lololol
  • View author's info posted on Feb 14, 2006 16:12


    Devoted2FindingU write:

    thegoodlife421 write:
    Face it: We're all package deals. We constantly do these little internal cost-benefit analyses, trying to figure out whether or not people are worth our time, energy and devotion. That's why I might tolerate a quirk in one man, but not another.

    Quirks or Snags? If it's a neutral quirk you can live with, then it doesn't qualify as a problem. Bad quirks are always snags for me in the long term, though. I can love many people along with their associated bad qualities, but I will NEVER marry them. "Bad" quirks that seem "cute" in the early part of a relationship turn real ugly a few years later!!!! Perhaps that's the REAL reason I am still single!!!!!(writing this while woefully reminiscing on a past relationship with a narcissist . . .)

    Anyhoo, my main "quirk" is my shoe addiction.



    Goodlife, I have found a man can make a general character assessment based on the number of shoes a woman owns.

    Now is it a QUIRK, ISSUE or SNAG when a man has a fetish for your shoes? LOL.

    Ah, but if the man wants your shoes, that to me would definitely qualify as an issue...if he just likes them on women....like goodlife said, a gift from heaven!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 14, 2006 16:10


    beautynbrains4u write:

    redhead524 write:
    What constitutes a quirk vs a snag and an issue? How many quirks make a snag or an issue? How many snags make an issue? How many issues will you tolerate, which one(s) would you turn and walk - or run - from?

    Assumption: You're still in the dating stage, exclusive relationship but not married.


    Hi Red,

    If he's wearing speedo's I say RUN, cindy, RUN...lol

    You betcha, Beauty/Cindy!!!
    Speedo's may be a quirk but are a huge sign of an issue!
    1. Boxers or boxer briefs
    2. Commando
    3. Whitey tighties

    Teri
  • View author's info posted on Feb 13, 2006 15:33


    thegoodlife421 write:
    Face it: We're all package deals. We constantly do these little internal cost-benefit analyses, trying to figure out whether or not people are worth our time, energy and devotion. That's why I might tolerate a quirk in one man, but not another.

    Quirks or Snags? If it's a neutral quirk you can live with, then it doesn't qualify as a problem. Bad quirks are always snags for me in the long term, though. I can love many people along with their associated bad qualities, but I will NEVER marry them. "Bad" quirks that seem "cute" in the early part of a relationship turn real ugly a few years later!!!! Perhaps that's the REAL reason I am still single!!!!!(writing this while woefully reminiscing on a past relationship with a narcissist . . .)

    Anyhoo, my main "quirk" is my shoe addiction.

    Good to see you, goodlife. Hope all is well in the romance dept.

    Completely agree. I think that's why I'm still single as well. And I think it's why many, as devo said, are seemingly intolerant. Our past experiences help shape our
    'checklist' of that which is desired, tolerable and that which is not.

    I almost hate to tell my quirk...it's kind of "Monkish"...but I swear it's only one, it's not a pattern! My quirk is with food: There are many foods that I don't like touching each other on my plate. I know...lol...Could be just a habit, my mother does it.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 13, 2006 15:19


    Devoted2FindingU write:
    Red, it is easier to overlook or deal with quirks and issues when you are married. However in the dating world we are not as tolerant of quirks and issues? It does not take to many issues before you stop dating someone. For example if you went out with someone that brought disinfectant wipes with them and used it on your car, door knobs etc. Is this a quirk or issue? It was a SNAG - in my screening process!

    I know it is, that's exactly why I put the assumption in...in marriage we've already decided what we're going to live with and in the dating process, we indeed have our checklist. And you're right, I think most people aren't very tolerant of snags or issues. Quirks...well, I guess that depends on the quirk, doesn't it?
    Funny, I was thinking of the "Monkish" issue as an example...first it's one quirk, then it's another and another and another until you find yourself saying one day, 'wow, that girl/guy has a real problem!" lol Yet you find it a snag...hmm...
  • View author's info posted on Feb 13, 2006 08:52


    Not sure I distinguish on the different leveling...

    I simply look at it as "Is this something that I could live with the rest of my life???"

    If the answer is YES, then I continue, if the answer is NO, then I hit the NEXT >>> button...
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