One nighters or all nighters?? Message Board

  • View author's info posted on Feb 08, 2006 at 23:45


    beautynbrains4u write:
    katiegrl write:
    TallBlonde50 write:
    I'd have to agree. Sex is just sex one the first date. No feelings, no real connection.....just hopping in the sack for a little gratification.
    It normally doesn't take me very long to "size up" my date, and if the sex issue comes up, it is squelched very quickly....


    I went on an online blind date a short while ago. Over coffee, the guy kept holding my hand and telling me how great I was and nudging me with his foot under the table. We'd just met!

    He talked about how successful he was and talked about his property, his accomplishments and touched on other topics, I believe, in an effort to convince me he was worldly and clever. He asked me, maybe, three questions about myself.

    I thought, "This guy wants to get laid SOOOOO BAAAAAD! He's not interested in ME one bit."

    Soon after, he asked the million dollar question. "Do you like to have sex?"

    Well .......... who doesn't? But it wasn't very subtle. After that I thought, "I suppose a relationship is out of the question now!"

    Which was okay with me because I'm still holding out for Cancun Man.

    lol

    Katie,
    Sounds like an awful date. Ya should have kicked him in the shin when he started playing under the table footsies...and then said" oh I'm sorry I suffer from restless leg syndrome"
    I would have walked out and left him eating alone, and high and dry!
    LOL


    Oh Katie i am so LMAo on that one. Don't think i have ever had someone just come out and say that on a date. Many on the IM/email. But i am sorry i would have had a field day with that one that day......lololololol
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  • View author's info posted on Feb 08, 2006 at 23:20


    beautynbrains4u write:
    katiegrl write:
    TallBlonde50 write:
    I'd have to agree. Sex is just sex one the first date. No feelings, no real connection.....just hopping in the sack for a little gratification.
    It normally doesn't take me very long to "size up" my date, and if the sex issue comes up, it is squelched very quickly....


    I went on an online blind date a short while ago. Over coffee, the guy kept holding my hand and telling me how great I was and nudging me with his foot under the table. We'd just met!

    He talked about how successful he was and talked about his property, his accomplishments and touched on other topics, I believe, in an effort to convince me he was worldly and clever. He asked me, maybe, three questions about myself.

    I thought, "This guy wants to get laid SOOOOO BAAAAAD! He's not interested in ME one bit."

    Soon after, he asked the million dollar question. "Do you like to have sex?"

    Well .......... who doesn't? But it wasn't very subtle. After that I thought, "I suppose a relationship is out of the question now!"

    Which was okay with me because I'm still holding out for Cancun Man.

    lol

    Katie,
    Sounds like an awful date. Ya should have kicked him in the shin when he started playing under the table footsies...and then said" oh I'm sorry I suffer from restless leg syndrome"
    I would have walked out and left him eating alone, and high and dry!
    LOL


    Well, here's the age old trouble I had with that solution, Beauty..... I was afraid of hurting his feelings. Stupid, but VERY female.

    Sometimes guys call women "game-players" for doing that when they don't realize, we don't see that we're playing games. We just hem and haw sometimes in an effort not to ruin a male ego. Gets us in trouble at times too!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 07, 2006 at 23:10


    TallBlonde50 write:
    I'd have to agree. Sex is just sex one the first date. No feelings, no real connection.....just hopping in the sack for a little gratification.
    It normally doesn't take me very long to "size up" my date, and if the sex issue comes up, it is squelched very quickly....


    I went on an online blind date a short while ago. Over coffee, the guy kept holding my hand and telling me how great I was and nudging me with his foot under the table. We'd just met!

    He talked about how successful he was and talked about his property, his accomplishments and touched on other topics, I believe, in an effort to convince me he was worldly and clever. He asked me, maybe, three questions about myself.

    I thought, "This guy wants to get laid SOOOOO BAAAAAD! He's not interested in ME one bit."

    Soon after, he asked the million dollar question. "Do you like to have sex?"

    Well .......... who doesn't? But it wasn't very subtle. After that I thought, "I suppose a relationship is out of the question now!"

    Which was okay with me because I'm still holding out for Cancun Man.

    lol
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 16:14


    oh you poor guys being used and abused by women. I bet if they asked you to have a de ja vous with them you wouldnt back down. thats a threesome right?
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 14:58


    hondo1952 write:

    beautynbrains4u write:
    " I lost control at the miracle mile,
    he had nice hair and an innocent smile.
    Like a kid on a jungle gym I..."

    What do you really think of a man/woman who "connect" on the first date? I'm really curious...not being licentious...nor am I admitting infringement of propriety(or promiscuity) (Just need your advice before I hit the town tonight...LOL). I'm curious about this age old question, and your thoughts.



    I have another question along these same lines. I have dated women that have a number rule. Sex on second date, third date etc. That gives me all kinds of ideas and most of them are not good. I guess my morality is outdated these days. I thought you had to care about someone not care about a number.


    I hate when they get like that. They complain that all we want is sex, and then treat us like a piece of meat. :o(

    Fight the good fight Hondo, and stay the course. Don't let them pressure you into having sex before you are ready! IMHO, making love is so much better than just the pure physicality of the act, not that this isn't a good thing every now and again in an established relationship.

    Of course, you do realize that when you tell them that it might be too early in the relationship, it becomes a challenge to them, and they just come on harder and harder.

    Geeeze, did their mother's never teach them that "No, means NO, not maybe" ???
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 14:58


    oh no Bob...no...no...no...ohhhh..no..oh... yes...yes...yes...OH YES BOB!!!!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 14:57


    How many times did I hear no in my life and keep on pushing to get the touchdown? 50% of the time No means No.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 11:28


    hondo1952 write:

    beautynbrains4u write:
    " I lost control at the miracle mile,
    he had nice hair and an innocent smile.
    Like a kid on a jungle gym I..."

    What do you really think of a man/woman who "connect" on the first date? I'm really curious...not being licentious...nor am I admitting infringement of propriety(or promiscuity) (Just need your advice before I hit the town tonight...LOL). I'm curious about this age old question, and your thoughts.



    I have another question along these same lines. I have dated women that have a number rule. Sex on second date, third date etc. That gives me all kinds of ideas and most of them are not good. I guess my morality is outdated these days. I thought you had to care about someone not care about a number.


    You are right on, Hondo, and don't let anyone tell you differently. You make an excellent point and that is what makes you a sincere gentleman all the way around!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 10:54


    beautynbrains4u write:
    " I lost control at the miracle mile,
    he had nice hair and an innocent smile.
    Like a kid on a jungle gym I..."

    What do you really think of a man/woman who "connect" on the first date? I'm really curious...not being licentious...nor am I admitting infringement of propriety(or promiscuity) (Just need your advice before I hit the town tonight...LOL). I'm curious about this age old question, and your thoughts.


    I have another question along these same lines. I have dated women that have a number rule. Sex on second date, third date etc. That gives me all kinds of ideas and most of them are not good. I guess my morality is outdated these days. I thought you had to care about someone not care about a number.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 10:25


    Mandalay207 write:
    "One night in Bangkok makes a hard man humble"


    LMAO!!

    That takes me back... great song from a great musical
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 10:21


    READY502 write:

    cutiepie01 write:
    How do you spell menage e tois? thats what you say when you feel like youve already done this, right? or is it a french pastry? I love those. hehehe. No really I feel like Ive already had this conversation today.



    Hi Cutiepie!

    I think you mean "deja vu" - the feeling you've already seen or heard something before. LOL

    French wasn't a favourite subject of mine back in school... but it is now!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 06, 2006 at 07:00


    cutiepie01 write:
    How do you spell menage e tois? thats what you say when you feel like youve already done this, right? or is it a french pastry? I love those. hehehe. No really I feel like Ive already had this conversation today.


    Hi Cutiepie!

    I think you mean "deja vu" - the feeling you've already seen or heard something before. LOL
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 21:25


    How do you spell menage e tois? thats what you say when you feel like youve already done this, right? or is it a french pastry? I love those. hehehe. No really I feel like Ive already had this conversation today.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 17:37


    beautynbrains4u write:

    robtest write:

    beautynbrains4u write:

    robtest write:
    .... you end up with odd situations of never hearing from them again because of their embarassment.



    Or yours




    No emarassment here... If I wasn't sure, I wouldn't do it in the first place...

    And Goodlife, I guess you have just insured that if you ever get on IM that you will be flooded with cybersex requests... What kinda signals are you sending out BEFORE the first date???

    Sometimes the chemistry does boil over though, but I would tend to agree on the anticipation...



    Rob...I was being risque...do you get it???


    No, but I do now! LOL, only had that happen once, while in college, with the stress of final exams my junior years! Becoming 45 in a couple weeks though, I do fear the day is coming... Or not coming, pardon the pun...
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 16:51


    Mandalay207 write:
    "One night in Bangkok makes a hard man humble"


    LMAO!!


    You got that right. R & R capital of the world.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 16:45


    uhhh. what was this thread about again?
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 16:02


    beautynbrains4u write:

    robtest write:
    .... you end up with odd situations of never hearing from them again because of their embarassment.



    Or yours



    No emarassment here... If I wasn't sure, I wouldn't do it in the first place...

    And Goodlife, I guess you have just insured that if you ever get on IM that you will be flooded with cybersex requests... What kinda signals are you sending out BEFORE the first date???

    Sometimes the chemistry does boil over though, but I would tend to agree on the anticipation...
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 15:45


    "One night in Bangkok makes a hard man humble"


    LMAO!!

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  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 15:23


    Does what happens in college count?

    ;-)

    I slept with my (now-ex) husband BEFORE the first date! He drove me home from school one day and NEVER LEFT. Six months later I told him to buy his own toothbrush and start paying rent! We got married a week after graduation . . .

    In one other instance I slept with a man BEFORE the first date (pure chemistry!), were lovers for many years, off-and-on, and are still friendly today - - - 20 years later!!!

    All the same, when it comes to online dating, it's best to wait as long as you can stand it. I love the passion build-up anyway and it's a good test of both parties to see if they're in for the long haul.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 05, 2006 at 10:58


    I'd have to agree. Sex is just sex one the first date. No feelings, no real connection.....just hopping in the sack for a little gratification.
    It normally doesn't take me very long to "size up" my date, and if the sex issue comes up, it is squelched very quickly....
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