Profile Criteria - Yours & Theirs Message Board

  • View author's info Author Posted on Jan 18, 2006 at 05:14 AM


    Do you adhere to the criteria stated in your own profile? I say I don't respond to those without photos, and every time I break this rule, it seems to backfire. Don't know if they don't read my profile or whether they figure they'll give it a try, but it sure eliminates rejection after a photo has been provided and there's no attraction.

    If a man's profile states a certain age, body type, etc. I now pay attention & eliminate myself if I don't match his criteria. Saves a lot of time and frustration.

    I've also gotten to a point where I don't even consider a member who is not preferred. I feel if you're truly interested, you'll somehow find the $20.00 per month.

    Spelling is a pet peeve of mine & if they can't be bothered to make sure their profile is spelled correctly, to me it's an indication of how serious they are & how intelligent they are too.

    Would like to hear your thoughts & opinions.
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  • View author's info Posted on Feb 04, 2006 at 06:14 PM


    bobsthename write:
    well if it does all you have to do is just SPANK that MONKEY!

    Yeah Yeah Bob!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 04, 2006 at 11:52 AM


    well if it does all you have to do is just SPANK that MONKEY!
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 04, 2006 at 10:15 AM


    Devoted2FindingU write:
    What makes the monkey dance.........?

    Swinging from tree to tree
    Only stopping to let someone
    Pick the fleas off ME!

    You never know. What tree will you find your monkey dancing in.

    .

    Hey, as long as the damned monkey doesn't PEE on me!!! hehehe
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 02, 2006 at 06:23 PM


    What makes the monkey dance.........?

    Swinging from tree to tree
    Only stopping to let someone
    Pick the fleas off ME!

    You never know. What tree will you find your monkey dancing in.

    .
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 01, 2006 at 06:27 PM


    beautynbrains4u write:
    I want to know if someone is brave enough to go were love dares go....and that is way beyond photos ...for me it's personality first and whether or not I'm feeling that magic. He doesnt have to be a brad pitt look alike.

    would you love me
    with my booties on,
    curlers in my hair?
    Flannel jammies buttoned to the top,
    Waist high underwear...

    I know he will

    I'm not looking for Brad Pitt, but I'm not looking for QuasiMoto either. I would love to fall in love with someone I can actually look at while we're making love.....or someone that I can actually see myself kissing. There has to be some connection and not just on the "looks" level, but the whole package! He doesn't have to be a muscleman, but I'm not attracted to overweight either. It's just a combination of elements, ya know????????
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 01, 2006 at 06:06 PM


    so since I look like Brad Pitt I guess I am out!
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 01, 2006 at 03:45 PM


    robtest write:

    TallBlonde50 write:
    Actually Dawn, I GASPED....inwardly, of course. We sat and chatted over coffee for a short time....a VERY short time, and I came home. On the way home, I thought GEEZ, what a schmuck! He basically lied about everything in his profile. Why would he do that, when EVENTUALLY, he is gonna meet someone. Well, it was me he met, and he's damned lucky I didn't head for the hills....while laghing my azz off!!!




    Perhaps if you had reacted that way he might have caught a clue! But then again, perhaps not... ROFL

    I'm guessin' ....NOT!!! LOL
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 01, 2006 at 03:22 PM


    TallBlonde50 write:
    Actually Dawn, I GASPED....inwardly, of course. We sat and chatted over coffee for a short time....a VERY short time, and I came home. On the way home, I thought GEEZ, what a schmuck! He basically lied about everything in his profile. Why would he do that, when EVENTUALLY, he is gonna meet someone. Well, it was me he met, and he's damned lucky I didn't head for the hills....while laghing my azz off!!!



    Perhaps if you had reacted that way he might have caught a clue! But then again, perhaps not... ROFL
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 01, 2006 at 02:32 PM


    statuesque4u write:
    Ready a great topic and discussion here. Rob mention being "picky" I think at this point most of us are relatively/very picky and i wonder why. We have all learned with this internet dating what to look for because of so much duplicity. Ready on the pics i agree 100%. No pic no respnse. Now occasionally curiosity will get the best of me and i'll ask him to send one. You know what on several occasions they don't. Ahhhh the tell tale sign. If they wait to send one and i don't like it i simply will say sorry i don't see it... Sure it hurts their feelings and i really hate to do it but they are putting themselves in that spot. We are not. Etiquette is something i wished everyone learned in school. If they are not going to put a pic up then when they write send one with his email. That would be the ideal situation. One of my favorites is IM's or email several back to back and then the question. What are you wearing... OMG i have a field day on those. It usually will be something like i have my donald duck boxers on with my tweety bird slippers and my minnie mouse tee shirt. A more unflattering description i can't think of. I always get a laugh out of it. Eventually they go away.
    But i am in agreement with all. Send the neccessay things to get started and go from there.....

    Tomi i nearly feel off the chair with your descriptions(2 inches, pot belly and toupe) now did you smother a laugh or did you present the lady that you are with proper etiquette and run don't walk before you busted our with song...?

    Actually Dawn, I GASPED....inwardly, of course. We sat and chatted over coffee for a short time....a VERY short time, and I came home. On the way home, I thought GEEZ, what a schmuck! He basically lied about everything in his profile. Why would he do that, when EVENTUALLY, he is gonna meet someone. Well, it was me he met, and he's damned lucky I didn't head for the hills....while laghing my azz off!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 01, 2006 at 01:01 PM


    WOW!!!! After having read all these posts about 1. Men don't read profiles 2. Men only scan for the word sex somewheres near the top of a ladies profile and if they don't find it they move on...and 3. Men are only looking for sex...

    All I got to say, is I've always knew I was a little weird...ok make that medium...er...OK LOTS...but this now takes da' cakes...

    I actually have FUNNNNN reading the ladies profiles. Some really try to describe who they are, others spew cliches about love, or offer their views on the subject, which is fine!

    BUT to know that I, da' FOX, is the only menzs on planet earth in a personals website with a full paid-type membership who (LAWD FORBIDS) actually READS wiimenzs profiles without looking for the "sex word" is a strike to the heart of my weirdness.

    As far as looking for sex, I guess I'm doin' that too, but it never enters my pea-sized 3 cell brain that just gettin' contacted by a lady means I'm gonna get it! AND I certainly deserve it! In fact, it's been soooo long since when that if SEX were OIL I'd be about a QUART LOW!

    BEAM ME UP SCOTTIES, you've beamed me down to somebody elses planet!!!

    Scuze me ladies and gents...I gotta go read me some more profiles for entertainment till Scotties activates the transport switch...!
    C' Ya!
    James
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 31, 2006 at 12:00 PM


    Ready a great topic and discussion here. Rob mention being "picky" I think at this point most of us are relatively/very picky and i wonder why. We have all learned with this internet dating what to look for because of so much duplicity. Ready on the pics i agree 100%. No pic no respnse. Now occasionally curiosity will get the best of me and i'll ask him to send one. You know what on several occasions they don't. Ahhhh the tell tale sign. If they wait to send one and i don't like it i simply will say sorry i don't see it... Sure it hurts their feelings and i really hate to do it but they are putting themselves in that spot. We are not. Etiquette is something i wished everyone learned in school. If they are not going to put a pic up then when they write send one with his email. That would be the ideal situation. One of my favorites is IM's or email several back to back and then the question. What are you wearing... OMG i have a field day on those. It usually will be something like i have my donald duck boxers on with my tweety bird slippers and my minnie mouse tee shirt. A more unflattering description i can't think of. I always get a laugh out of it. Eventually they go away.
    But i am in agreement with all. Send the neccessay things to get started and go from there.....

    Tomi i nearly feel off the chair with your descriptions(2 inches, pot belly and toupe) now did you smother a laugh or did you present the lady that you are with proper etiquette and run don't walk before you busted our with song...?
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 31, 2006 at 11:09 AM


    with regards to photo's, better to put it up like it is. get rid of the glamour shots that hide the real you unless you have other shots of the real you. I go on date after date, the photo's are usually way better than what is real... I can tell you the three best looking dates I have been on, didn't have photo's...and these girls were ALL real head turners. There is a girl on MM here who has absolutely gorgeous photo's who has been hitting on me, but she is 35 and her photo's are clearly from 10 years earlier. If she thinks I'm going to fly her out to see me without a current photo, NOT A CHANCE. Another girl on here, 40, had great photo's of her face and when I met her tried to focus all attention on her face. She had a pretty face, but she was huge. I don't know how you put it to someone...but there is no way a fat woman is going to fit into my lifestyle or the crowd I run with. So when you deceive someone about your appearance, you are mostly going to be hurting yourself if you become attracted to the other person. Better off to join weight watchers, start exercising, get to the beauty salon and get a life first...and don't get discouraged, be persistent. Every woman is beautiful, they just have to work at it. Just like a rich man's wealth didn't come by laying around deceiving people. And I don't want yesterday's beauty queen telling me how great she used to look...just like you don't want yesterdays millionaire telling you how great he was making his millions while he is now a retired lard ass. I will never retire. And the woman I fall in love with, will never stop being beautiful.

    Also it's better to show up in person looking better than the photo's so that expectations are exceeded. I went out on a date recently with a woman who sent me all her glamour shots from 5 years ago and she kept telling me how beautiful she was. My expectations were set to meet J Lo. I was totally disappointed, she didn't look as good as the "worst" picture she had sent me. Also, head shots and no body shots generally mean BIG and/or no self confidence.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 31, 2006 at 04:20 AM


    Hi CutiePie!

    No, I didn't know any of them, but do read the Mississauga News which is a local newspaper. Have you ever been to Mississauga, which is a suburb of Toronto? I've been to Florida a number of times, Fort Myers, Orlando, Florida Keys, but never Sebring. How did you know these guys?
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 30, 2006 at 03:43 PM


    READY502 write:
    Why not put your best foot forward? I feel we're all on here for one reason or another, it's marketing or advertising yourself in hopes of connecting with someone.

    The photos leave a lot to be desired in many cases, those with sunglasses don't let you see what their face looks like, the phone snaps always look bad because of the flash or angle, and it's always better to have more than one shot.

    The profile titles are often mispelled & yet it's your first impression. If you get past the photo & title, and into the person's profile & they've got poor language or spelling it's a big turnoff for me. There's no excuse for it now that there's spellcheck!

    Take a little time putting your profile together, give a little detail as to your likes & dislikes, hobbies, etc. to interest a potential partner. If it's not worth your effort, why would someone else be interested?


    LIE folks Lie. I was honest in my profile and now everyone hates me. Even my deceased mother gets hate mail about me.

    lol
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 30, 2006 at 11:41 AM


    Why not put your best foot forward? I feel we're all on here for one reason or another, it's marketing or advertising yourself in hopes of connecting with someone.

    The photos leave a lot to be desired in many cases, those with sunglasses don't let you see what their face looks like, the phone snaps always look bad because of the flash or angle, and it's always better to have more than one shot.

    The profile titles are often mispelled & yet it's your first impression. If you get past the photo & title, and into the person's profile & they've got poor language or spelling it's a big turnoff for me. There's no excuse for it now that there's spellcheck!

    Take a little time putting your profile together, give a little detail as to your likes & dislikes, hobbies, etc. to interest a potential partner. If it's not worth your effort, why would someone else be interested?
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 23, 2006 at 07:42 PM



    cutiepie01 write:
    All bald men please, flaunt that beautiful bald head! Its so much sexier. I personally think totally bald is very sexy. The vanity tends to ruin the whole package. I have seen many men that did the side swoop thing that looks ridiculous or the toupee. Someone finally convinced them to flaunt it and oh my, what a difference. At first its kinda different to see after they've covered it up and looked foolish for years. Once everyone gets used to it, its normal and its sexy. Shave it all off! Tyra has a segment called "fix it or flaunt it", I say please flaunt it!!!



    TallBlonde50 write: I have to agree with you there cutie. Bald men are sexy....well some of them anyway. I have seen a few who should ALWAYS have hair!!! LOL That comb-over is a complete turnoff....as is a bad toupee!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 23, 2006 at 01:28 PM


    cutiepie01 write:
    TallBlonde50 write:
    cutiepie01 write:
    Tallblonde are you sure he wasnt a sumo wrestler? ya never know! they arent always asian ya know.

    TallBlonde50 write:
    I've said it before, and I'll say it again... HONESTY in your profile should be arequirement. Example....I had IMs from 2 different guys the other day. One was from TX, the other CA. Both had photos posted. I talked with each one for a short time, only to find out BOTH was from AFRICA... Yep, Africa, but neither had that info in their profile. They had the state where their mothers live/lived. Personally, I think that is pretty damned sneaky and I told them both that if they live in Africa, they should have that in their profile.

    I also had a invitation for coffee from a guy from another site. In his profile, he said he was 5'10" and athletic build. We met and he was about 2" shorter than me and had a huge potbelly. I didn't know that was considered athletic!!! He also had a pic posted, but the pic didn't look anything like him. I am to the point iof giving up on these sites. The dishonesty is driving me crazy!!! LOL



    HAHAHAHAHAHA cutie.. Never thought about that. He was wearing a toupee....and an ugly one at that!!! LOL

    hey Tallblonde! in his profile did it say he was bald? if not then the bad toupee was a very bad lie too. under hair on the profile they should add bald with toupee. LMAO


    No cutie. In his profile, he had brown hair! OH, it was brown alright,but the toupee was not the same color as his real hair....or what's left of his real hair!!!
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 23, 2006 at 01:05 PM


    robtest write:


    I had a misguided friend that has a 9 year relationship with a married woman. Eventually, she got divorced and then they broke up. But I guess that does prove that you can have an LTR with a married person. ROFLMAO...

    LOL Rob!

    That most definitely does prove it out, I had not thought of that angle, but think we covered that in the infidelity thread. My sister-in-law had an affair with a married man at her work for about 6 yrs., she was number 7 or 8 at work, but felt she was unique & different & he'd leave his wife for her. It was totally destructive for her, changed her personality & eventually both he & she got fired. She got fired first, told him & he being such a sensitive soul, freaked that he might be next. She said "excuse me, but could we deal with the fact that I have actually been fired" - oh the signs we ignore lol! Eventually once they weren't working together, things ended.

    Don't know why anyone would get involved with someone who is married, unless they want a no strings attached relationship, but then someone always goes & changes the rules. It's the don't do unto others rule, I wouldn't want it so why do it to someone else.

    Each to their own, but I definitely move right on by if I see it on a profile.

    I think the common denominator throughout this thread is we'd all really like honesty - saves a lot of time & frustration & you always get found out in the long run anyhow.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 23, 2006 at 11:43 AM


    READY502 write:
    Thanks everyone for all your great comments!

    What baffles me is when a man's profile says he is looking for LTR or marriage & then his match requirements include married women?

    What's up with that??? Another good indicator to pass on by is my take on it.


    I had a misguided friend that has a 9 year relationship with a married woman. Eventually, she got divorced and then they broke up. But I guess that does prove that you can have an LTR with a married person. ROFLMAO...
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