Question for the men, Flowers or no flowers? Message Board

  • View author's info Author posted on Jan 14, 2006 06:33


    Most of my first dates arrived with flowers for me so I am wondering if this is the norm. It's not that I expect it but it is a thoughtful gesture. How many of you men show up on first dates bearing flowers? Why, why not?
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  • View author's info posted on Mar 05, 2006 11:09


    GeminiDi write:

    1SloDancin write:
    GeminiDi write:
    Angyson write:
    Over 90% of women said they preferred chocolate over sex.


    Who was doing this poll, Angyson? Hershey's??? LO
    Don't believe it, honey!

    LOL

    Gem


    Hey, I have to agree.... Hersheys kisses, melted and then dripped in interesting places can be very nice....:)



    Slo,

    Sounds delicious ;-)



    Hershey's kisses

    What power in a small package

    makes a believer out of many

    All hail the born again chocoholics !!!

    ROFLMAO

    And a whole bag cost much less than a dozen roses!!! What a bargain. :o)
  • View author's info posted on Mar 05, 2006 10:11


    Yes, I generally tend to show up for the first date with flowers or a plant. Only after inquiring about certain things like a woman's favorite color, favorite flower, allergies(RE:the good life) and whether or not she likes to nurture.

    I feel that the gesture shows that you have traditional values and that you are chivalrous. Flowers also indicate your willingness to showcase your class and good taste.

    I personally, don't just pick up the phone and order them. I like to go and pick them myself and I typically only give one. Just to show that I put some thought into it and create a curiosity. She may assume by that gesture, that I'm cheap, that is until I splurge the rest of the date and she discovers that I just don't want to do what other men have done. I like to stand out in her memory forever.

    On the other hand I have also shown up with a fruit basket, candles, or even stuffed animals. One time I even showed up with a bottle of tequila, because that's what she liked.

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  • View author's info posted on Feb 26, 2006 08:25


    GeminiDi write:
    Yes, Sarasota has a reputation for ballroom dancing! I haven't been ballroom dancing in such a long time due to the lack of a partner. (Guys are SO intimidated by those two words.) I'm afraid I've forgotten more than I even learned (if that's possible)! LOL Do they make steel-toed ballroom dance shoes?

    Gem


    Hi Gem,I was going to PM you..but I see your profile is hidden..

    If You love ballroom dancing...DON'T let lack of a partner stop you. I've had partners and have gone solo many times, sometimes even a been the third wheel. I have never had a problem finding someone to dance with. You will not either!! Take lessons at a reputable dance studio...they usually have dance social's where you can meet other singles. So many of my women friends won't go because lack of a partner...meanwhile I'm going to NYC by myself to the copacabana club or if I'm in the mood for smooth ballroom to other dance studio's. If your ever in NY let me know, we'll get together, sweep up our hair into french braids, and donn our dancing shoes...
  • View author's info posted on Feb 20, 2006 06:35


    redhead524 write:
    I don't think it's the norm anymore, but once was (long ago, in a land far, far away...!). It's still a lovely gesture and bill, your idea, delivered, (before the date presumed) is very romantic. It still doesn't guarantee bob's desired outcome, but is highly likely to get you a lips-on-lips kiss upon door opening! (oh, is that just me?!) The sweetness/depth of the kiss, however, is still dependent on the connection.....


    redhead524 write:
    I don't think it's the norm anymore, but once was (long ago, in a land far, far away...!). It's still a lovely gesture and bill, your idea, delivered, (before the date presumed) is very romantic.

    It is what I think so too...it is an art lost in time and it is a lovely gesture, anyway I think it is. ha!

    You wrote :

    The sweetness/depth of the kiss, however, is still dependent on the connection.....

    I believe the men think about this also..you can tell by the kiss if she is into you vice versa..it will be in the eyes.

    BQ
  • View author's info posted on Feb 20, 2006 00:08


    Hey my Precious Gem, it shows your the last one to post. However we know you are a ghost poster as nothing appears...lol

    I am so looking forward to hearing from you on the threads as you have been a very busy lady this weekend...WINK

    Care to fill us in? Come on give us a details...lol. Did he give you lots of flowers?
  • View author's info posted on Feb 15, 2006 18:49


    ha ha ha

    Bob you are something else.

    I adore flowers and if a man sends me flowers then he is definatly in my good books however I have to like him first as a general rule and no man ever gets laid on the first date with me because I have more self respect and I dont care if he is Mr universe he still isnt getting laid. I believe in make love to my mind before you make love to my body and even a pint of beer and a packet or crisps (chips for usa residents lol) isnt going to temp me.

    I love romance and being genuinly who you are.

    But flowers are a must and many women enjoy the thought and Bob may I say that I have read many of your posts on my first day here and you seem like you have the money, dont like to spend it and if you do spend it, it comes with an alterior motiff and thats a very unattractive thing in a man and you try and hide it because you feel that having money as much as you enjoy it, it hinders your need for true love because you always think women want you for just one thing and not who you are.

    Are you lonely?

    Maybe you need to start being yourself babe

    Good luck anyway :-)

    Teresa xxx and ps

    why are the handom men in the US or Canada? I need to move from the UK I think.
  • View author's info posted on Feb 15, 2006 09:52


    bobsthename write:
    slodancin, good lines there. and they really do work. Maybe we had the same teacher?

    Oh I change my mine Bob put a pink rose in your mouth....Looks better than a sock....
  • View author's info posted on Feb 14, 2006 10:22


    beautynbrains4u write:
    BQ write:
    I have tried it different ways, some with one Red Rose,some with 1 dozen Red Roses, Pink Roses, White Roses, Purple like Roses, Yellow Roses and no Roses..the one with the Roses had a better response but I didn't bring Roses on the first date to get laid. As I don't believe in that.

    It was taught by my relatives it is a positive gesture to say you stand out among all the ladies that there is in this town and this was to show my appreciation in having a date with this lady and to say you have a special interest in my heart.

    BQ

    very nice BQ..I have also given flowers to men...nice to both give and receive.


    beautynbrains4u,

    I have never received flowers from women as being single but as a married couple yes, it would probably make me feel gay a bit if I were to receive flowers from a woman..just my thoughts of course..but an honest one ha!

    BQ
  • View author's info posted on Feb 14, 2006 10:11


    beautynbrains4u write:
    BQ write:

    beautynbrains4u write:
    BQ,
    I agree, flowers, or a nice bottle of wine is always appropriate!!




    beautynbrains4u,

    Do you think a nice cologne adds to the moment?

    BQ


    To be sure...I like Cartier...


    beautynbrains4u,

    Never heard of Cartier...should have as I am French..ha! A bottle of wine...boy !!! that can get things hot lol..

    BQ
  • View author's info posted on Feb 03, 2006 15:59


    bobsthename write:
    slodancin, good lines there. and they really do work. Maybe we had the same teacher?

    Bob be nice to the man, its bad enough you pick on us woman now you are starting with the guys.....god put your sock in your mouth...
  • View author's info posted on Feb 03, 2006 14:16


    beautynbrains4u write:
    BQ,
    I agree, flowers, or a nice bottle of wine is always appropriate!!


    beautynbrains4u,

    Do you think a nice cologne adds to the moment?

    BQ
  • View author's info posted on Feb 02, 2006 16:23


    beautynbrains4u write:
    BQ write:
    I have tried it different ways, some with one Red Rose,some with 1 dozen Red Roses, Pink Roses, White Roses, Purple like Roses, Yellow Roses and no Roses..the one with the Roses had a better response but I didn't bring Roses on the first date to get laid. As I don't believe in that.

    It was taught by my relatives it is a positive gesture to say you stand out among all the ladies that there is in this town and this was to show my appreciation in having a date with this lady and to say you have a special interest in my heart.

    BQ

    very nice BQ..I have also given flowers to men...nice to both give and receive.


    Among the people me and my ex used to visit we brought flowers if they invited us for supper or a special evening and motsly all our friends did the same when they visited us.

    BQ
  • View author's info posted on Feb 01, 2006 06:23


    I believe you can never go wrong giving flowers. Why do they have to HAVE a meaning?? I always enjoy getting flowers no matter what the occasion, they're beautiful, smell great & you get to enjoy them for several days! What's wrong with that?

    When I treat myself, it's always flowers!
  • View author's info posted on Jan 31, 2006 19:55


    bobsthename write:
    I don't show up with flowers on the first date unless I'm trying to get laid.

    Well Bobby you could bring me flowers I will lay you out.................cold!!!!!One punch would do it lmao
  • View author's info posted on Jan 31, 2006 19:18


    bobsthename write:
    if you don't like them, give them to me. I disagree with flowers on a first date, unless you know the person personaly...one can end up in a relationship of friendship, business...not romance. you kind of close the dor on friendship or business. like I said...looking to get laid, bring the flowers. I stand by my statement.

    So Bob'sy!!!,
    Does that mean when we meet you will have a bouquet of YELLOW Roses waiting for me...hint..HINT!!!

    Lol

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 31, 2006 16:35


    bobsthename write:
    if you don't like them, give them to me. I disagree with flowers on a first date, unless you know the person personaly...one can end up in a relationship of friendship, business...not romance. you kind of close the dor on friendship or business. like I said...looking to get laid, bring the flowers. I stand by my statement.



    Not sure if bringing them as an enticement works BOB, but certainly the next time you show up at the house after the first time you "get laid" you better be bringing the good flowers !!! ROFLMAO...


    But in your typical humurous style you do bring up intriguing questions... In the Celestine Prophecy, the author puts forth the theory that all souls cross paths for a reason, and it is the duty of the souls that crossed to determine the reason... So are the flowers your way of negotiating the outcome to your desired outcome??? :o)
  • View author's info posted on Jan 30, 2006 16:00


    I hesitated on posting here!.
    But, while I am truly flattered when I guy shows up on the first date with flowers I am very uncomfortable with it.
    What if I do not like him? what if we do not get along in person?..all these what if's. One date recently showed up with Chocolate and Roses I was soooooo uncomfortable with it. I accepted them graciously and continuously thanked him, knowing this would be our first and possibly last date. (he smoked imported Davidoff cigars)..Imported or not YUCK..He was sucking on them all night like they were a watermelon Jolly Rancher!!!!!

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 30, 2006 03:53


    I would rather give diamonds, that really makes them funky, it drives them crazy.

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 28, 2006 16:38


    pride and joy!

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