Most of my first dates arrived with flowers for me so I am wondering if this is the norm. It's not that I expect it but it is a thoughtful gesture. How many of you men show up on first dates bearing flowers? Why, why not?
Yes, I generally tend to show up for the first date with flowers or a plant. Only after inquiring about certain things like a woman's favorite color, favorite flower, allergies(RE:the good life) and whether or not she likes to nurture.
I feel that the gesture shows that you have traditional values and that you are chivalrous. Flowers also indicate your willingness to showcase your class and good taste.
I personally, don't just pick up the phone and order them. I like to go and pick them myself and I typically only give one. Just to show that I put some thought into it and create a curiosity. She may assume by that gesture, that I'm cheap, that is until I splurge the rest of the date and she discovers that I just don't want to do what other men have done. I like to stand out in her memory forever.
On the other hand I have also shown up with a fruit basket, candles, or even stuffed animals. One time I even showed up with a bottle of tequila, because that's what she liked.
GeminiDi write: Yes, Sarasota has a reputation for ballroom dancing! I haven't been ballroom dancing in such a long time due to the lack of a partner. (Guys are SO intimidated by those two words.) I'm afraid I've forgotten more than I even learned (if that's possible)! LOL Do they make steel-toed ballroom dance shoes?
Hi Gem,I was going to PM you..but I see your profile is hidden..
If You love ballroom dancing...DON'T let lack of a partner stop you. I've had partners and have gone solo many times, sometimes even a been the third wheel. I have never had a problem finding someone to dance with. You will not either!! Take lessons at a reputable dance studio...they usually have dance social's where you can meet other singles. So many of my women friends won't go because lack of a partner...meanwhile I'm going to NYC by myself to the copacabana club or if I'm in the mood for smooth ballroom to other dance studio's. If your ever in NY let me know, we'll get together, sweep up our hair into french braids, and donn our dancing shoes...
I love flowers; they are beautiful. Unfortunately . . . well, here's the story.
Last year I met a great guy in the flower business. Successful, educated, handsome. After our first date he had flowers sent to my home . . . hundreds of them. Over 100 roses, plus others. I was blown away! I was emptying out cookie jars and flour cansiters because I ran out of vases!
. . . and then, within 3 days, the sneezing started. The pollen. The mold. I was DYING. Drugs didn't help much. All the flowers went straight into the garbage.
I did not date this guy again because I knew, with him being in the flower business, I'd never escape the pollen and the mold. I couldn't bear to tell him this, though, so I made up a story about reconciling with an old boyfriend. (dishonest, I know, but I didn't want to make him feel bad about making me sick!)
So guys, perhaps you should ask a lady if she likes flowers before spending your hard-earned cash on them! These days, if a man wants to buy me flowers, I ask for potted perennials that I can plant outdoors.
GeminiDi write: BTW- that's a REALLY excellent smile you've got yourself Gem....some people have smiles that begin and end with the lips....others like yours come from having a soul overflowing with joy....:)
Thank you, SloDancin. That's quite a beautiful compliment. Thank you. And I know it's genuine.
Yes, Sarasota has a reputation for ballroom dancing! I haven't been ballroom dancing in such a long time due to the lack of a partner. (Guys are SO intimidated by those two words.) I'm afraid I've forgotten more than I even learned (if that's possible)! LOL Do they make steel-toed ballroom dance shoes?
Hey, I've learned- I've got a pair of dance shoes for private lessons, but when I'm on a dance floor with lots of other people, I wear my alligator boots- I was bruised half the time from someone spiking me with a heel....
And I'm sure you're marvelous....I figured out a long time ago that the #1 job of the guy on the dance floor is to make the woman look fabulous....VERY easy in your case....:)
redhead524 write: I don't think it's the norm anymore, but once was (long ago, in a land far, far away...!). It's still a lovely gesture and bill, your idea, delivered, (before the date presumed) is very romantic. It still doesn't guarantee bob's desired outcome, but is highly likely to get you a lips-on-lips kiss upon door opening! (oh, is that just me?!) The sweetness/depth of the kiss, however, is still dependent on the connection.....
I don't think it's the norm anymore, but once was (long ago, in a land far, far away...!). It's still a lovely gesture and bill, your idea, delivered, (before the date presumed) is very romantic.
It is what I think so too...it is an art lost in time and it is a lovely gesture, anyway I think it is. ha!
You wrote :
The sweetness/depth of the kiss, however, is still dependent on the connection.....
I believe the men think about this also..you can tell by the kiss if she is into you vice versa..it will be in the eyes.
blueeyesonlakelanier write: And a handsome smile it is Sloman. (I was going to write a zippy comment, but decided to be nice instead, I don't have the heart to be mean to slodance). And well said Teresa Bob is pathetic, its an ego thing;) He needs to get over himself, I actually think he is insecure and it is just his way of overcoming this.
Hey Zippy can be fun....but niiiice gets you a whole lot further in life....:)
....and on the general subject of guys who brag about money, sexual conquests, or how fast their cars are....the louder the talk.....the less likely the reality....:)
I adore flowers and if a man sends me flowers then he is definatly in my good books however I have to like him first as a general rule and no man ever gets laid on the first date with me because I have more self respect and I dont care if he is Mr universe he still isnt getting laid. I believe in make love to my mind before you make love to my body and even a pint of beer and a packet or crisps (chips for usa residents lol) isnt going to temp me.
I love romance and being genuinly who you are.
But flowers are a must and many women enjoy the thought and Bob may I say that I have read many of your posts on my first day here and you seem like you have the money, dont like to spend it and if you do spend it, it comes with an alterior motiff and thats a very unattractive thing in a man and you try and hide it because you feel that having money as much as you enjoy it, it hinders your need for true love because you always think women want you for just one thing and not who you are.
Are you lonely?
Maybe you need to start being yourself babe
Good luck anyway :-)
Teresa xxx and ps
why are the handom men in the US or Canada? I need to move from the UK I think.
1SloDancin write: Actually, I never get a date....I'm so incredibly shy, I'm totally paralyzed at the thought of talking to a woman....Maybe one day I'll work up the nerve to ask someone out....in the meantime, I just keep sending those flowers....:)
Hmmmm...SloD...I don't see a sign anywhere on BlueEyes that says "I'll gullible...tell me anything & I'll believe!" lol
blueeyesonlakelanier write: Here is my list of required flowers, 1 doz red, 1 doz white 1 doz blue (yes, I am allowed to make up my own colors) and few pink. Are you getting the list slodance? ;)
I'm so glad today is over- after delivering a dozen roses to 3 different women, I'm tired, out of gas, still picking the thorns out of my fingers....and about $272 dollars poorer than when I started out....but I do have this REALLY big smile on my face...:)
beautynbrains4u write: very nice BQ..I have also given flowers to men...nice to both give and receive.
I have never received flowers from women as being single but as a married couple yes, it would probably make me feel gay a bit if I were to receive flowers from a woman..just my thoughts of course..but an honest one ha!
bobsthename write: slodancin, good lines there. and they really do work. Maybe we had the same teacher?
Bob, I'm sitting here pouring out my innermost feelings about my shyness and inability to find true love with a willing member of the opposite sex and you call it a "line".... And all the time, I'm just looking for a great woman with a heart of gold...:)(Hey- the truth is I'm sitting in an airport bar in Rochester with a 4 hour layover waiting for a flight to Sarasota....and the bartender with the 4 missing teeth and the jailhouse tattoos is beginning to look REALLY GOOD!)