Well, there are so many things I could say in response to Bob's post, but we'd all still be here this time next week if I share all my thougts, but here's a few. I hope you do read the entire post, it's not going to kill you, and who knows, you may be glad you did. I'm doubtful that Bob will be able to understand the meaning behind my words on the level that he would need to in order to better his life. However, I have been known to be wrong before, so I'm going to try. Bob, the attitude you seem to have is one of an individual who is somewhat controling, suffers from tunnel vision, and one who is basicly very niave and handicaped. You seem to be lacking in the area of social skills and basic common courtousy (just to name a couple) skills that a person must have, understand, and most of all respect by applying to everyday life. Lets say that you are correct in your line of thinking for just a few minutes here, ok? You now want an ugly and fat woman, yet with quality. You need to stop and read those words as if someone else had just spoke them to YOU. Would you find them to be offensive? Sure you would (if not, you are more arrogant than I origionally thought and need not to continue reading..it wouldn't help you). "Quality" comes in all genders, colors, shapes, sizes, etc.....TRUE QUALITY. Also, if someone is of quality, regardless of their physical features, they WILL WITHOUT A DOUBT view themselves as pretty/beautiful...even if they weigh 300 pounds. But based on your own words, you do not understand that simply because to you beauty is outside only. Whether or not your background and upbringing molded you to your pattern of wrongful thinking, it is up to ONLY you now to change to a more healthy mindset, but you never will unless and until you can open your mind and hear the meaning of my words. Even if you were 100% right in believing quality only cames in an unattractive box, you still would never have it in your life. If you don't respect all human life (and looks) as being equal, an "ugly" (to you only)woman of high quality would NEVER give you a second look...regardless of what material things you possibly could give them. Wanna know why? You think that everyone else is as you are (normal human behavior, yet it's wrong). Meaning, you judge everyone around you by your own personal lifestyle and standards. You think you are "normal", thus, everyone thinks as you do (the 'normal' ones anyways). But in reality, you are the one with the "issues" and "problems" that need to be addressed before you ever find true happiness with another. I doubt you will do that or even for a second consider I may know what I'm talking about...because if you did, well...it'd be to you like someone jerked the rug out from underneath you and you'd have to actually look at yourself and how you have lived for so long...confused and lost and didn't even know it. Then afterwards, the long and difficult road ahead of you to improve in order to attract quality individuals to you would most likely send you into a state of shock. So, you place everything on everyone else. You couldn't possibly be the one who needs some fine tuning. One last thing, though I should have posted this first as I doubt you will even read this far, but maybe others will. You get what you give. It's plain, simple, and very true. You attract those like yourself. It's a KNOWN FACT PROVEN OVER AND OVER AND OVER. If you had any kind of respect for anyone (that includes yourself) in the least, you NEVER would have posted such personal, and cruel words to describe the woman you want to meet. If a woman thought of you in that manner and was so brave/bold, yet ignorant in life, would you want to be with them? NOOOO!!!! You wouldn't be hurt (cause you think you are "all that"), you would tell them to f**k off and not think twice about it. You expect anyone who is of quality to return any less to you? Please don't misunderstand me, Bob. I am not upset with you or angry with you. I do not know you but only what words you have posted. You may be a very nice man, but one who is just lost. Try saying nice things for a change and see the response you get. Can't hurt, right? You already said what you have been doing doesn't work. If you treat women as if they really don't matter, the ones you attract (are like you) will without even knowing they're doing it return the same to you. If you can change your mind AND heart...guess what....here's the VERY BEST NEWS...SAVED FOR LAST BECAUSE YOU ONLY DESERVE TO KNOW THE SECRET IF YOU PUT IN THE EFFORT TO READ TO THIS POINT. If you are a man who has what it takes to sincerely change the things that are wrong in your life...(admitting is half the work...cool, huh), all because you desire something more..something better..something REAL and FOREVER LASTING....I can guarantee you that you will find the quality you say you want AND....AND....physical beauty as well....all wrapped up in one box. The only reason you haven't met a "hot" woman with quality is because all the good ones that you have crossed paths with never gave you a second glance. THEY TOO WANT MORE....THEY TOO WANT IT ALL.....and as of yet, you don't fit THEIR bill. To them, YOU are viewed or considered on the same level as those women that to you are not worth it. Birds of a feather flock together. Food for thought. Oh yeah...as for the sex.....it's not good for you because the women you are with are not concerned with how YOU feel...it's to them (in their mind) as it is in your mind. Why should they worry if you gett off or not in the manner you want....they are thinking the EXACT SAME THING about you as you are them. They are concerned with their desires...not yours. They know you are a player, and they play you...excusing it by the thought that you deserve it anyhow. Two wrongs NEVER make a right....and NEVER make for good relationships....in or out of the bedroom. Sorry everyone, I get going and I just can't stop!!!! Good luck to all!!!
Bob, great sex and looks have absolutely no links whatsoever, if a man is experiencing lousy sex its probably because he's a taker , rather than a giver, hasn't the stamina, doesn't know what makes a woman tick and thinks all woman should know as much about sex as a high class hooker.
The university covers a multitude of subjects, yet it still amazes me that men spend a lot of their waking time time thinking about women, but dont bother to learn what they are all about.
I know as Ive got older and wiser,curiouser, less rushed, become a giver, my life has changed beyond belief.
But you girls need to help willing men to know and understand what you want and like, good sex like many things in life is best as a great partnership, talk, confide, use your brains, the biggest sexual organ we have, and the results are quite amazing, its not just your sex life that improves.
Quite new to these forums and very interesting to conclude that the universal rules/guidelines for virtual communities also apply here.
* A group of 'frequents' , the people who read this forum daily and respond a lot.
* Some as^sholes who post to shock.
* Some warriors, who are easily shocked and don't walk away from 'the fight'. (only because of 'the warriors', an as^shole can exist on a forum)
* And of course the occasional 'I am a newbe' post.
I like these forums, but must admit, I think there are too many categories and all the pics and quotations make it a bit messy.
hmmmm it must be the weather over where you are coz i know im not lousy in bed , far from it . infact i have NEVER met a man who can keep up with me
You are quite young, give it some time and you might meet such a man. Many men aren't interested in winning the race again women. Some of us just want to keep abreast of the the lead. Many times, it is much more efficient to let the females cum in first .. :o)
Soulmate2000 write: lol..immature...hi,hi,hi i stay silent because im not gonna waiste my time arguying... u probably put ure emotion(mad) on; cuz someone told you the true...u re not the type of gentleman they want dear...in life you have to not take things personnaly... there s someone for everyone!:)
You are right! My grandmother told me that! She also told me to "LOVE THE ONE WHO LOVE'S YOU, NOT THE ONE YOU LOVE." And how would you know if I were taking things personally? It seem's like you take me personally. Thanks for being able to speak for everyone! And as far as immiture lol, speak for yourself. You are'nt even a preferred member! So I give you a choice finger from each hand. Can you guess what they are???