where you want to live?
who's in charge,the ranking.i say this because when i remarried with kids teenage,there was a constant power struggle going on in the home.you're partner has to come first or it won't work.and never let the kids see a weakness in you're relationship,cause they will try to magnify the problem.
nobody is good enough to take the place in you're life,of their mom or dad.it can cause big problems.so you as a couple need to agree to stand togather in front of any kids in the relationship.hash the problems out in private,no yelling or you lose
You should talk about every thing under the sun so you can get a sense and a feel of this person you are trying to get to know. and you should do this in a variety of situations, with other people as well so that you can view them from a third person prospective. when we like someone we tend to start making excuses for them. but you talk about all things before you come to the conclusion of a long term relationship or marriage. that is the way I see it any way have a great day. and talk it up with that special one.
The answer to the question "what fills your days when you're not working?" usually gives me the best clue as to what's in store for us if we marry . . . if he starts talking about reality TV I know we're in trouble.
HM. With the exception of whether or not to have children (very important, because I don't want any more), I believe people can talk about "values" until the cows come home, but what really matters is what people DO. I wouldn't marry a guy unless I knew he'd gone through hard times and was able to explain to me how he got through it . . . HONORABLY. Character is everything . . . all the rest is just window dressing.
I would want to know what their plans are for burial. Do they intend to be buried beside me or some other place? Will they attempt to care for me in my old(er) age or will they put me in a nursing home. I know...not romantic topics to talk about but it is important to me.
Bubba...I have rigged many a bass boat because my ex-husband's arms were too large to fit in the holes. Out fished him many times and could filet the fish perfectly.
The topic I would wnat to discuss is how to deal with jealous kids, since I know how manipulative and destructive a child can be if they feel that daddy is being taken away. ( i don't have that probs with mine since they are all adults and live their own lives). I would want to know if there would be any girlfriends poping out of the past. If he has a mother in his life, how much influence does she have?? Where he would sleep if his snoring got to me and basically I would pick his brain so no stone would be left unturned rofl.
I don't believe in secrets in a marriage (unless they are for something like a birthday party or anniversary surprise). I would expect to have all cards layed on the table so that there would be no unpleasant upheavals.