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Posted on Tue, Nov 29, 2005 15:07

You're right, you'd be amazed at how many pretty women (some of them professional models) stay at home dateless on Saturday nights . . . Women presume they're snobs and men think they're "out of their league." And these women are too afraid to walk into a bar alone. So ironic . . .

Robtest, I think you said it best. We all fantasize about the "perfect" partner, but honestly does he/she exist? The dating environment is a competitive and ruthless market, comprised of ordinary human beings with dreams ranging from the merely hopeful to the downright delusional. It comes down to knowing one's (dating) "market worth," placing yourself in that market, and holding out for the highest "bidder" (in terms of overall charm or whatever it is you consider most important). Some folks get lucky, others compromise, and others stay on the shelf indefinitely!

OK now I'M getting depressed! Someone get me another margarita!

  


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Posted on Tue, Nov 29, 2005 13:05

Guys do tend to get intimidated by women who they might consider "out of their league". As one gets older, one tends to ask himself "what is the worse thing that can happen to me?".

Flat out rejection is not fun but not fatal. And as long as you are not drunk, rude, obnoxious it's usually a gentle "you're just not my type" kinda thing.

If you don't try, you'll never know. There are ALOT of gorgeous women who are sitting home because men find them unapproachable, which is really pretty stupid.



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Posted on Sat, Nov 19, 2005 16:55

"when looking for a life-mate, do you look for more substance than looks?"

I look for both. However if she doesn't have substance, her looks mean nothing to me.

"Is it important that she be able to discuss Taoism vs. Christianity, of know where Gaughin painted, or can recite a Shakespearean monlogue?"

Absolutely not.

"Is it attractive if she is successful in her own right (say, hypothetically, a real estate investor) or simply that she throws a good dinner party?"

In terms of successful, I assume you mean money,,, money means nothing to me. I will not and never have judged a person by their pocket book.

"I am wondering not to disparage ANYONES view of happiness...only to figure out where I belong! Poor guys dont like that I have a bit more, rich guys dont see me as glamorous enough...older men want to take care of me (not needed) and younger, well, they seem to like when I pay"

Clearly you have been dating the wrong type of men. But I do find it interesting your choice of words to describe men with less money than you,
"Poor guys"

"if someone out there is looking for a bright, educated successful girl next door (who happens to laugh ALOT and be a bit of fun), let me know"

Theres a ton of guys out there looking for a woman like you describe.

IMO, its just like the fishing expedition you were on, BE Patient...

  


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Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2005 09:46

robtest write:

sharp1 write:
Robtest...could you repeat that?




Hmmmm... How about there are no answers and we might be merely frustrating ourselves by searching for them? Or perhaps like most 1 in a million odds, the numbers just haven't come up yet. I hate when I wax philosophic and sound depressing...

Wow! You're fast! You must have taken typing 101! LOL
Sorry, didn't mean for you to resort to sounding depressing...just looking for a condensed version! :-)
I agree with you, we humans need to be flexible! :-)



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Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2005 09:41

sharp1 write:
Robtest...could you repeat that?



Hmmmm... How about there are no answers and we might be merely frustrating ourselves by searching for them? Or perhaps like most 1 in a million odds, the numbers just haven't come up yet. I hate when I wax philosophic and sound depressing...



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Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2005 09:36

Robtest...could you repeat that?

  


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Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2005 09:00

I guess this is a rhetorical question that somehow seeks an answer? :o) I guess we need about 2000 calories a day, some air and some water and that should be enough to survive, if perhaps we propagate the species, that would be bonus for mankind(or in theory anyway)... Due to our complex system of nerve endings, neurons and such, species of the human kind finds a way to convolute it up into a calamity.

I feel your pain sister, and have struggled with this for many years.

Searching for 1 in a million, means you have to kiss a lot of frogs. On an average day, one can but hope not to get any warts, while dreaming of our destiny.

BTW, I think finding a balance of Taoism and Christianity or more generally between philosophy and religion is something everyone must face, whether they realize it or not. I find great amusement in the implementation of other artist's interpretation of their vision/dreams. While I can't recite Shakespeare, I often ponder what relationships were like in his day, and if the man might have taken the commonality of no women in the theater just a little too seriously, but as Seinfeld would say "Not that there is anything wrong with that"...

In the end there must be balance between reaching for the stars and keeping ones feet planted firmly in the reality of the ground. They tell us we must never settle, but what if our expectations are truly unrealistic?

As to the choices offered by this thread title, I just wish the choices were better than a plastic doll and a convict, but I guess in the end, relationships are composed of communication, negotiation, and sadly, some compromise. LOL

I wish thee well traveler!



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Posted on Tue, Nov 15, 2005 08:39

If more people, man or woman, realized that inner beauty causes outer beauty, the world wouldn't be so "Barbie & Ken" minded. Outer beauty fades with time but inner beauty can last a lifetime.

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Posted on Mon, Nov 14, 2005 15:26

i think a person can be both if you have a good heart and are a master of love...(i love seista key, lived and go there often)...
beauty and love in a heart, is a good person... they are everywhere, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and only skin deep....so if you can find beauty in what ever form it comes in smile,body, eyes,face, smarts and a sense of humor, then i think people can settle with a combo of these things.. settle for that...



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