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Posted on Sat, Oct 29, 2005 16:34

I have dated men who I am physically attracted to at first and then for some reason they get serious really fast. I then find that I feel they are not "him" and rather than lead them on, I need to end it...but...how do you do that the best way? I have just been honest and I know I am hurting their feelings..but what else should one do?
I have dated men who I am physically attracted to at first and then for some reason they get serious really fast. I then find that I feel they are not "him" and rather than lead them on, I need to end it...but...how do you do that the best way? I have just been honest and I know I am hurting their feelings..but what else should one do?



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Posted on Sat, Dec 31, 2005 05:07

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Open honest communication is the only way to go..
Open honest communication is the only way to go..


A mercy f**k would be better. If you gotta go, at least go out in syle and with a smile...LMAO


Straight to the point and no B. S, Bill your a straight shooter...but LMAO..

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Posted on Sun, Nov 20, 2005 17:49

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I don't know about other guys, but I'd rather be told the brutal truth as cold as it may be.

me too..i hate the run around



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Posted on Thu, Nov 17, 2005 11:15

I don't know about other guys, but I'd rather be told the brutal truth as cold as it may be.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 09, 2005 15:03

billzeke write:
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Open honest communication is the only way to go..
Open honest communication is the only way to go..


A mercy f**k would be better. If you gotta go, at least go out in syle and with a smile...LMAO



Yes, direct straight forward communication. You don't have to make it personal, and You don't have to make it their fault. Simply it is not working for you and you feel you need to move on.

I think the more polite term that was being looked for was breakup sex. :o)

Repeats being options depending on how good the physical relationship was and/or how poor the state of the mental/emotional connection...



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Posted on Fri, Nov 04, 2005 20:02

scrscn. awwhh, another saver of damsills, you gotta love them...



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Posted on Thu, Nov 03, 2005 20:06

1. Ask him to meet you at a neutral place.
(someplace that you nor he have any special significance attached to)

2. Do not over dress. Something average or plain. (Keeps his mind on what you are saying)

3. Be honest, but not vicious. (Tell him why you arent feeling the magic)

4. Use discretion about asking to remain friends or allowing him to suggest it. (Sometimes that is just how men try to hang on - and that is not healthy for either of you)

5. It can sometimes help to ease the moment if you mention somethings about them that you thought are good qualities, but make sure to connect those statements with the indication some other lady will find them attractive also. (Helps to indicate the transition in the guys mind)

Polite honesty and sincerity are always the best policy.

For the rare times that the guy doesnt get the message, call in your big brother.

If any of you ladies is without a big brother, call me. I will politely convey to them the message.



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Posted on Thu, Nov 03, 2005 16:19

Tabeauty, you said it, icnore, delete, byebye now...



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Posted on Wed, Nov 02, 2005 07:38

billzeke write:
A mercy f**k would be better. If you gotta go, at least go out in syle and with a smile...LMAO

Bill,
Don't you think a mercy f**k is like trading in your voucher for a freebie...a bit like free drinks with your BIg Mac..quite tasteless and forgettable? Style or vile?..lol

  


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Posted on Wed, Nov 02, 2005 07:37

Hahaha! Nice pic Bill...she looks like she lost a little weight in prison...the bracelet suits her. Hey niceguy in prison she may have had more action than out! lol



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Posted on Wed, Nov 02, 2005 07:21

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Aaaahhh! So now we're interjecting etiquette into this scenario, are we? So your saying it would be good manners to give him this mercy f**k...I wonder if that's in Emily Posts book on Etiquette! Then again Martha Stewart is the more modern version...I wonder what she'd say?



I think Martha would be more in need than anyone else. I think I know what Martha would say. One has to be careful that they don't get all banged up on her ankle bracelet. LMAO

What would Martha say? "I have a headache?" lol
Martha wears an ankle bracelet? No Bill...have you seen Martha up close? lol


I would never want to see Martha up close. It would give me a headache. lol. I don't even like seeing her on TV. The bracelet I referred to is the one her Uncle Sam gave her so they could monitor her movements after they let her out of prison. Not sure she is still wearing it.

  
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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 20:40

BE HONEST ALWAYS...
BE HONEST ALWAYS...



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 19:12

Martha is absolutely the one that needs it, just look at that poor (not money wise) woman. shes got that look like its been awhile !
Martha is absolutely the one that needs it, just look at that poor (not money wise) woman. shes got that look like its been awhile !



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 17:17

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sharp1 write:
Aaaahhh! So now we're interjecting etiquette into this scenario, are we? So your saying it would be good manners to give him this mercy f**k...I wonder if that's in Emily Posts book on Etiquette! Then again Martha Stewart is the more modern version...I wonder what she'd say?



I think Martha would be more in need than anyone else. I think I know what Martha would say. One has to be careful that they don't get all banged up on her ankle bracelet. LMAO

What would Martha say? "I have a headache?" lol
Martha wears an ankle bracelet? No Bill...have you seen Martha up close? lol

  


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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 14:37

sharp1 write:
Aaaahhh! So now we're interjecting etiquette into this scenario, are we? So your saying it would be good manners to give him this mercy f**k...I wonder if that's in Emily Posts book on Etiquette! Then again Martha Stewart is the more modern version...I wonder what she'd say?


I think Martha would be more in need than anyone else. I think I know what Martha would say. One has to be careful that they don't get all banged up on her ankle bracelet. LMAO

  


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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 13:59

Aaaahhh! So now we're interjecting etiquette into this scenario, are we? So your saying it would be good manners to give him this mercy f**k...I wonder if that's in Emily Posts book on Etiquette! Then again Martha Stewart is the more modern version...I wonder what she'd say?
Aaaahhh! So now we're interjecting etiquette into this scenario, are we? So your saying it would be good manners to give him this mercy f**k...I wonder if that's in Emily Posts book on Etiquette! Then again Martha Stewart is the more modern version...I wonder what she'd say?

  


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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 12:09

Well Sharpe it really is the only polite thing to do ! LOL
Well Sharpe it really is the only polite thing to do ! LOL



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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 10:08

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A mercy f**k would be better. If you gotta go, at least go out in syle and with a smile...LMAO



Bill, right on brother, I was just tring to be polite ! LOL

You guys are so BAD! Bonnie's right...she needs to be gentle on the ego. Sheesh...such sexist thoughts guys!

  


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Posted on Tue, Nov 01, 2005 08:37


A mercy f**k would be better. If you gotta go, at least go out in syle and with a smile...LMAO



Bill, right on brother, I was just tring to be polite ! LOL
A mercy f**k would be better. If you gotta go, at least go out in syle and with a smile...LMAO



Bill, right on brother, I was just tring to be polite ! LOL



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Posted on Mon, Oct 31, 2005 23:53

iamoneinamillion write:
I have dated men who I am physically attracted to at first and then for some reason they get serious really fast. I then find that I feel they are not "him" and rather than lead them on, I need to end it...but...how do you do that the best way? I have just been honest and I know I am hurting their feelings..but what else should one do?
I have dated men who I am physically attracted to at first and then for some reason they get serious really fast. I then find that I feel they are not "him" and rather than lead them on, I need to end it...but...how do you do that the best way? I have just been honest and I know I am hurting their feelings..but what else should one do?


Be honest and remain good friends. Always believe in keeping a healthy reserve of male buddies in my storage space, never know when you need shoulders to lean and cry on..
Of course some have their egos so badly bruised they will not want to have anything to do with you again, so you lose some you gain some..the cost of love is pain or ecstacy, just be gentle to their egos and tell them they will make some gal v. happy someday but you're just not that lucky gal..lol



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