Hi I'm in a situation where I think I'm in love with more than one man! Yes I know I'm married and I should be committed but everytime I see these men my heart races! Is it lust for these other men or is it that I want more than what I have from my husband? Ohh guys help me!
Hi I'm in a situation where I think I'm in love with more than one man!
Yes I know I'm married and I should be committed but everytime I see these men my heart races! Is it lust for these other men or is it that I want more than what I have from my husband?
Ohh guys help me!
Have you ever heard of a book called The Ethical Slut? How about the word "polyamory"? If you are truly feeling agape (deep spiritual connection) and not just lust, for two human beings, then you need to explore these ideas in the context of others who have mastered an ordered, idealized and ethical context for these feelings and are actualizing them. There are many, many ways to express mature love for more than one person. Cheating is the "old" conventional thinking. Think outside the box and look to grow spiritually in this exploration. Or admit it is lust and move on.
Sure, your current relationship may be lacking in some sense and if it was "true love" then you wouldn't be looking. I firmly believe that if you are in love, really in love, you won't look at another person with loving eyes.(except your kids, but thats different)
But when friends ask me this same question I always try to give them to things to think about,
1- don't confuse lust with Love
2- the grass always looks greener somewhere else, but normally it isn't.
So, somehow open the lines of communication with your husband and see what the issues are. IMHO
also, if you are married what the h*ll are you doing here.
I think it is possible to lust for many. I think it is possible to find friendship with many. However, to allow oneself to fall in love with one while in a committed lifetime relationship with another doesn't show much character. If the communication and feelings are so poor with the existing "forever", then bite the bullet, and kill the relationship. Then you would be free to seek a new one.
As always, IMHO...
BTW, I found this an odd topic for the business section. :o) But I guess in a way you are sharing your personal business with the forums.