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Posted on Tue, Oct 04, 2005 22:53

Sometimes I find that I have to think awhile before I tell someone how I feel about a conversation, or a situation I'm in, being it good or bad, but I always tell it the way it is, and take whatever comes my way knowing that I can live with the results. Just wondering if most of all people tell it the way it is or soften it so they don't hurt people or just avoid a person, or never say anything. Or say what is on their minds such as I.

  


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Posted on Sun, Oct 09, 2005 20:38

Thank you too Blondlighting, nice to know we have some straight shooters..You all have a wonderful week.

  


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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 19:21

Thanks to every one of you for the comments, I do have to agree with Minnie it is how you say it.. I would love to be in a room with all of us, and have someone ask us to tell them like it is, on a subject, would be intresting how we would all answer. I think that all you woman have class.

  


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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 18:09


sharp1 write:
I try to be gentle. NYCHICK's words are wise.
But sometimes I question whether something needs to be said at all? If it's just going to hurt someone, then maybe silence is best. Sometimes hurt can't be avoided, and the truth is necessary. It depends on the situation.



Yep - I agree with you there. But I did like also what NY Chick said. But some things ARE better left unsaid.
99.9% of the time, it's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it that counts.



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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 13:39

Hi unsnaggedeagle,

Well, good subject you have started here. As for me, I like to shoot from the hip so to speak. I am a firm believer that being honest and straight forward is the best policy. When you candy or suger coat it, sometime you can soften or even change the meaning of it or your intensions. Being straight forward leaves no confusion. On the flip side though, it can cause hurt by just stating it like it is, but I always feel it is better to know where you stand than to wonder where you stand. I do have a saying for this, You can respect or hate me, at least I know where I stand with you for stating it.



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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 10:45

Although I do believe some things are better left unsaid, I think the best policy is the truth.
Some people misconstrue being outspoken and straight forward with being harsh and insensitive. You can preach to the choir all you want to spare someone's feelings but in the end you are only doing more harm than good. Too many people put time and effort into talking "logic," yet dance around the truth. Most who know me well, know I am pretty straight forward. I speak both logic and truth, especially to those I care about. Yet, the ones close to me still come to me for advice and opinion, knowing full well I am going to be honest. They may not want to hear the truth, but subconsciously know they NEED to hear it to be acceptant of a situation they may be facing.

With men, well, that's another story, lol....I will say this much, Most men do not want to sit in a room and feel as if they are being belittled, scolded or reprimanded by a woman who sits for hours talking strictly "logic". Much like children, it goes in one ear and out the other and it is interpreted as "nagging"; I believe that's why they avoid so many situations with the fear of having to encounter such scenarios And just agree with everything we say (lol)... That can be very frustrating for a woman.

Oh, and avoid those like the plague who need to be treated with "kid gloves" because it'll never change. You'll feel more like a mentor than a partner.



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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 09:59

Sometimes we need to be cruel to be kind. Telling the truth could be cruel but make sure you tell the recipient that it is from the heart.
It takes much courage to tell the truth and to face the truth. But it sure makes it easy to sleep afterwards.



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Posted on Sat, Oct 08, 2005 09:16

Unsnagged my years of dating/relationship experience has revealed to me at least, that typically people(particularly men) are compliant types.

But that's not necessarily a bad thing and is somewhat understandable.

The recipient's role is primarily learning to hone instinct skills to detect what is hopefully geniune and what's basically a song & dance routine.

On the + side while you're going through this discovery phase you'll enjoy an evening of comedic adventure, a meal, desert, and IF you're lucky he'll apologize for suggesting amour on the first date.

As singer Phil Collins say -- "That's all".

  


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Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 22:14

I try to be gentle. NYCHICK's words are wise.
But sometimes I question whether something needs to be said at all? If it's just going to hurt someone, then maybe silence is best. Sometimes hurt can't be avoided, and the truth is necessary. It depends on the situation.



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Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 21:56

Thanks to all of you on the commments! What I mean about men is that, they will tell you what they want you to hear, not what is to be true. Not all men but I find a lot of men will step around instead of telling it the way it is to avoid conflict. Funny thing is I don't like to fight or argue but will say what needs to be said for the situation and that sometimes pis**ses people off.

  


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Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 21:19

LOL at "The Mob Squad"..

I am the low class, cruel minded , lesbian mobster", thats per kristy johnson... lmao!!!

Why did you gang up on me with that other woman sharp1 in the forum? I think that is very low class and cruel minded of you. I did not do nothing to you for you to gang up on me with that other lady. That lady sharp1 picks on everybody. Are you a lesbian or something? You act like one. Because only a lesbian would gang up on a girl for no reason. You are a very cruel natured and hateful girl. Something must have happened to you to make you be so cruel to girls for no reason. Leave me alone on th



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Posted on Fri, Oct 07, 2005 20:37

this poor woman who happend to ask the freaking mafia chicks- wee scottish mafia - jersey ciaogirl trigger girl
three-omg machine gun and Susan well she will just confuse y a with wisdom and that alont will kill y a

as for men not saying what they mean i dont get it - i personally think more woman do not say what they mean and they put up with shi* men because they cannot say what they mean..

who the hell is Jimmy wee u always talk about Jimmy --



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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 21:32


NYCHICK write:
i try and be gentle with telling it like it is.. mean what u say - say what u mean - but dont say it mean..

i believe i am accurate in that statement.. do not ask Susan this question or wee or three or jerseygirl- im gentle-

[/quote_message=OH FOR CHRIST SAKE Jimmy are you asking me lovely Lass to be silent?????lmao...it will never happen.

NYCHICK IS NEVER GENTLE WHEN SHE SPEAKS SHE ROARS......Like the lioness she is...lol. Could she actually be a leo?....NOT however she is one clever Lass.

Cheers

  


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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 20:56

Nice to know that there are woman out there such as I. However want to add to the forum that in some cases men will not tell you the way it is, but tell you what you want to hear, any comments on this???? Maybe will will get a responce from a man lol Thanks NYChick and Knock3times I like what you have to say.



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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 20:36

If you know what's good for you, it IS best not to ask me or Wee, Ciaobaby or Suzan for the truth.

That's for sure.

NYC good call.



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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 20:21

i try and be gentle with telling it like it is.. mean what u say - say what u mean - but dont say it mean..

i believe i am accurate in that statement.. do not ask Susan this question or wee or three or jerseygirl- im gentle-



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Posted on Thu, Oct 06, 2005 09:30

As I see it your right, also when you tell the truth you don't have to back track and try to keep the story right. I find that when you tell it the way it is you get more respect because they can take your word for it, or take it to the bank lol. Thanks so much for your comment Ciaobaby7.

  


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Posted on Wed, Oct 05, 2005 17:08


unsnaggedeagle write:
Sometimes I find that I have to think awhile before I tell someone how I feel about a conversation, or a situation I'm in, being it good or bad, but I always tell it the way it is, and take whatever comes my way knowing that I can live with the results. Just wondering if most of all people tell it the way it is or soften it so they don't hurt people or just avoid a person, or never say anything. Or say what is on their minds such as I.

I usually tell it like it is. That doesn't make me a mean person , it makes me a better person. Would you rather someone lie to you just to spare you're feelings? Sometimes the truth hurts, but the truth will set you free!



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