Sometimes I find that I have to think awhile before I tell someone how I feel about a conversation, or a situation I'm in, being it good or bad, but I always tell it the way it is, and take whatever comes my way knowing that I can live with the results. Just wondering if most of all people tell it the way it is or soften it so they don't hurt people or just avoid a person, or never say anything. Or say what is on their minds such as I.
Thanks to every one of you for the comments, I do have to agree with Minnie it is how you say it.. I would love to be in a room with all of us, and have someone ask us to tell them like it is, on a subject, would be intresting how we would all answer. I think that all you woman have class.
sharp1 write: I try to be gentle. NYCHICK's words are wise. But sometimes I question whether something needs to be said at all? If it's just going to hurt someone, then maybe silence is best. Sometimes hurt can't be avoided, and the truth is necessary. It depends on the situation.
Yep - I agree with you there. But I did like also what NY Chick said. But some things ARE better left unsaid.
99.9% of the time, it's not WHAT you say, it's HOW you say it that counts.
Well, good subject you have started here. As for me, I like to shoot from the hip so to speak. I am a firm believer that being honest and straight forward is the best policy. When you candy or suger coat it, sometime you can soften or even change the meaning of it or your intensions. Being straight forward leaves no confusion. On the flip side though, it can cause hurt by just stating it like it is, but I always feel it is better to know where you stand than to wonder where you stand. I do have a saying for this, You can respect or hate me, at least I know where I stand with you for stating it.
Although I do believe some things are better left unsaid, I think the best policy is the truth.
Some people misconstrue being outspoken and straight forward with being harsh and insensitive. You can preach to the choir all you want to spare someone's feelings but in the end you are only doing more harm than good. Too many people put time and effort into talking "logic," yet dance around the truth. Most who know me well, know I am pretty straight forward. I speak both logic and truth, especially to those I care about. Yet, the ones close to me still come to me for advice and opinion, knowing full well I am going to be honest. They may not want to hear the truth, but subconsciously know they NEED to hear it to be acceptant of a situation they may be facing.
With men, well, that's another story, lol....I will say this much, Most men do not want to sit in a room and feel as if they are being belittled, scolded or reprimanded by a woman who sits for hours talking strictly "logic". Much like children, it goes in one ear and out the other and it is interpreted as "nagging"; I believe that's why they avoid so many situations with the fear of having to encounter such scenarios And just agree with everything we say (lol)... That can be very frustrating for a woman.
Oh, and avoid those like the plague who need to be treated with "kid gloves" because it'll never change. You'll feel more like a mentor than a partner.
Sometimes we need to be cruel to be kind. Telling the truth could be cruel but make sure you tell the recipient that it is from the heart.
It takes much courage to tell the truth and to face the truth. But it sure makes it easy to sleep afterwards.
I try to be gentle. NYCHICK's words are wise.
But sometimes I question whether something needs to be said at all? If it's just going to hurt someone, then maybe silence is best. Sometimes hurt can't be avoided, and the truth is necessary. It depends on the situation.
Thanks to all of you on the commments! What I mean about men is that, they will tell you what they want you to hear, not what is to be true. Not all men but I find a lot of men will step around instead of telling it the way it is to avoid conflict. Funny thing is I don't like to fight or argue but will say what needs to be said for the situation and that sometimes pis**ses people off.
I am the low class, cruel minded , lesbian mobster", thats per kristy johnson... lmao!!!
Why did you gang up on me with that other woman sharp1 in the forum? I think that is very low class and cruel minded of you. I did not do nothing to you for you to gang up on me with that other lady. That lady sharp1 picks on everybody. Are you a lesbian or something? You act like one. Because only a lesbian would gang up on a girl for no reason. You are a very cruel natured and hateful girl. Something must have happened to you to make you be so cruel to girls for no reason. Leave me alone on th
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as for men not saying what they mean i dont get it - i personally think more woman do not say what they mean and they put up with shi* men because they cannot say what they mean..
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Nice to know that there are woman out there such as I. However want to add to the forum that in some cases men will not tell you the way it is, but tell you what you want to hear, any comments on this???? Maybe will will get a responce from a man lol Thanks NYChick and Knock3times I like what you have to say.
As I see it your right, also when you tell the truth you don't have to back track and try to keep the story right. I find that when you tell it the way it is you get more respect because they can take your word for it, or take it to the bank lol. Thanks so much for your comment Ciaobaby7.
unsnaggedeagle write: Sometimes I find that I have to think awhile before I tell someone how I feel about a conversation, or a situation I'm in, being it good or bad, but I always tell it the way it is, and take whatever comes my way knowing that I can live with the results. Just wondering if most of all people tell it the way it is or soften it so they don't hurt people or just avoid a person, or never say anything. Or say what is on their minds such as I.
I usually tell it like it is. That doesn't make me a mean person , it makes me a better person. Would you rather someone lie to you just to spare you're feelings? Sometimes the truth hurts, but the truth will set you free!