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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 14:36

Hey guys, was wondering why not many of you post. It's a wonderful way for the ladies to get more insight as to who you are. The profiles are short and sweet, but we really get to see what you're all about when your opinions are expressed.

Also wondering whether you read the Forums?

Would love to hear from you on this thread!



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Posted on Tue, Oct 11, 2005 18:00

i think a man who views his opinions is confident on where he stands, aside from that, i like that confident man who likes to say, hey look at that pretty woman or acts flirty. it is a man, my dad did it and he loves my mom and she thinks it is funny, or did until he got sick and now it is the nurses, i like a male chov, whats up with ladies today, don't ruin it for the damsils still out there, woman with the street smarts on men turn men off, that why men don't want to respond, to afraid the lady will manic on them , men do not like rejection and surely will not set them selves up for it ladies..., it makes my stomach turn, that is why men may not post, because of the pitt bull women out there that know it all and wait for a chance to cut a man down to size, so to speek, not my style, mom taught me to be a lady and a man is the man..let him be, please ladies...

  


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Posted on Sat, Oct 01, 2005 07:49


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What, like, you think I was, like, COMPLAINING? LOL . . . I LOVE MEN just the way they are.

Bottom line though is that many men aren't on the forums because they have other things to do . . .



Glad to hear it !! :)

I posted in the "Suggestion" thread about this matter.

I frequent a few other sites with terrific forums (related to my manly hobbies or business concerns)with many male participants.

Unfortunately, thats not the case here. Unless that gold membership includes a remote control to navigate these forums, many men won't take the time to participate.

Its not exclusively a question of men being absent because they have other things to do. Take my word for it, men are active in lots of forums on the net, but not many here due mostly to the muddled presentation.

Its not my nature to be negative, but it is my nature to be frank and honest. I'll try to stick around because I like the content and interaction, but I'm already disenchanted by how these forums' shortcomings needlessly burn time.


Journey I totally agree with you. And time is a major factor. I schedule early in the morning, sometimes if I have time to burn during the day, and evening if nothing else to do. But lately, from morning to night, not alot of change has occurred. The same posts remain. Consequently, I review the forums less at night, and check early in the a.m. before I need to get on with my day.

I have read other people commenting about other sites with forums...care to tell us what one or two might be? Other than this site, I've never seen another with a forum. Mind you, I don't look either!



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Posted on Thu, Sep 29, 2005 08:16


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Men like pretty naked women. And sex, lots of sex. And battles: whether they be gory fight scenes or the simulated battles of the sports arena.



Yeah, so we are men, but many of us are not so one dimensional (or do sex and battles count as two dimensions?).

Just curious - if you met a man who did not like you with your clothes off, would you be interested in that man? Not!!

And what about the man who does not embrace the "battles" of business, relationships, and life - and enjoy their parallels in movies and sports, Would you be interested in that man? Doubt it.

As a newcomer, I think these forums are very cool, but the coolness is fading. A lot of the content is interesting and entertaining, but frankly these forums are poorly organized, poorly moderated, and move at a snail's pace. They are not appealing for most men.

Gotta go. Die Hard is on.



What, like, you think I was, like, COMPLAINING? LOL . . . I LOVE MEN just the way they are.

Bottom line though is that many men aren't on the forums because they have other things to do . . .



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Posted on Wed, Sep 28, 2005 19:25


jointhejourney write:

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Men like pretty naked women. And sex, lots of sex. And battles: whether they be gory fight scenes or the simulated battles of the sports arena.



Yeah, so we are men, but many of us are not so one dimensional (or do sex and battles count as two dimensions?).

Just curious - if you met a man who did not like you with your clothes off, would you be interested in that man? Not!!

And what about the man who does not embrace the "battles" of business, relationships, and life - and enjoy their parallels in movies and sports, Would you be interested in that man? Doubt it.

As a newcomer, I think these forums are very cool, but the coolness is fading. A lot of the content is interesting and entertaining, but frankly these forums are poorly organized, poorly moderated, and move at a snail's pace. They are not appealing for most men.

Gotta go. Die Hard is on.



Hi Jointhejourney!

I agree with you that not all men are one dimensional & that's exactly what I'm looking for. I can't believe they're only visual & nothing other than sex matters. I've met some wonderful, intelligent, sensitive, communicative men along the way & hope that I'll connect with one of those on a romantic level.

I'd like to say thank you for taking the time to post to this thread.



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Posted on Wed, Sep 28, 2005 18:29

I can't blame some men for not posting after seeing some women post the emails that have received from certain guys. Who'd want to get tangled in that web?



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Posted on Tue, Sep 27, 2005 22:44


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READY502 write:
Hey guys, was wondering why not many of you post. It's a wonderful way for the ladies to get more insight as to who you are. The profiles are short and sweet, but we really get to see what you're all about when your opinions are expressed.

Also wondering whether you read the Forums?

Would love to hear from you on this thread!

If you follow the forums you could answer this question yourself. The regulars are vicious, they bully,attack and belittle all newbys. Why would any man put themselves out there for these losers to attack?



I think that is too sweeping a statement. There are some nice guys whom I have invited to come on board and though they have peeped at it and contributed only if they have something to say, I think some have been reading and spectating but not participating ..and that is fine too. I don't think the veterans here are all nasty , there are many who welcome the newbies and encourage them to stick around..unless some who are trolls and deliberately set out to antagonise everyone and inevitably they will get their just desserts.
'Do unto others as you wish others to do unto you' still holds water here..



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Posted on Tue, Sep 27, 2005 13:25


garrett2000 write:

READY502 write:
Hey guys, was wondering why not many of you post. It's a wonderful way for the ladies to get more insight as to who you are. The profiles are short and sweet, but we really get to see what you're all about when your opinions are expressed.

Also wondering whether you read the Forums?

Would love to hear from you on this thread!

If you follow the forums you could answer this question yourself. The regulars are vicious, they bully,attack and belittle all newbys. Why would any man put themselves out there for these losers to attack?



True what you stated Garrett, but it doesn't happen all the time. We've enjoyed a month or two of wonderful comedy. Unfortunately, we lost one of our major comedians. :-(

Additional comments I have her from me is that the forums have turned mainly into a gossip centre for the ladies...alot of small talk. Men want to discuss thought provoking subjects...albeit when it happens, someone male or female will throw in sexual twist...all in good fun, then the thread carried on.

You've been around for months Garret, and I've only twice witness you compliment a lady or two. Why is that? Do you stereotype and judge us the same? Shame on you, if you do!



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Posted on Thu, Sep 22, 2005 14:55


READY502 write:
Hey guys, was wondering why not many of you post. It's a wonderful way for the ladies to get more insight as to who you are. The profiles are short and sweet, but we really get to see what you're all about when your opinions are expressed.

Also wondering whether you read the Forums?

Would love to hear from you on this thread!



Because they're busy surfing for p*rn, that's why.

Face it, men are visual, women are more verbal. When we go online, we end up doing internet versions of the things we like to do at home.

In general, women enjoy yakking, gossiping, catfighting (well some at least), commiserating with one another, sharing valuable information, emoting in general.

Men like pretty naked women. And sex, lots of sex. And battles: whether they be gory fight scenes or the simulated battles of the sports arena.

Trust me ladies, all you have to do is start a new thread titled NAKED WOMEN MUD WRESTLING!!!! PHOTOS!!!!!!!!

To each his or her own . . .



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Posted on Wed, Sep 21, 2005 16:19


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I have been inviting men who write me to come to the forum if they want to find out more about my views and me...a couple have done it but they never seem to last here..either they are too busy, not their scene or they have no views about anything...



That'd be too much work Bon. They are looking for an easier way...



Hi Bonnie & Cub!

Thanks for your input. Maybe you're on to something?? Is it that men don't like to communicate? and that's just how it is?

I'm definitely looking for a great communicator & if they don't do it here on a dating site, they probably won't do it at all! Now that's a scary thought!!!

Please elaborate.



I guess men also see this as a gossip column rather than an intellectually stimulating exercise..and i believe most men prefer pictures to words..so if you pose lots of female form , that might be the draw..a picture paints a thousand words...that is why Hugh Hefner got it right..



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Posted on Wed, Sep 21, 2005 13:54


garrett2000 write:

READY502 write:
Hey guys, was wondering why not many of you post. It's a wonderful way for the ladies to get more insight as to who you are. The profiles are short and sweet, but we really get to see what you're all about when your opinions are expressed.

Also wondering whether you read the Forums?

Would love to hear from you on this thread!

If you follow the forums you could answer this question yourself. The regulars are vicious, they bully,attack and belittle all newbys. Why would any man put themselves out there for these losers to attack?

Hello Garrett, great answer!!



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Posted on Wed, Sep 21, 2005 06:38

Hi JointheJourney!

Thanks for posting!! Yes I agree it's time consuming going through the threads, but as time goes on, you figure out which ones interest you & check only those out. I've seen your posts lately & am glad a new male member has taken the time to post. I look at finding a partner as worth the effort & therefore know it'll take time. Like everything else I do, I put the appropriate effort in on a regular basis, the end result can be so rewarding.

Hope you keep up the interaction & posting & good luck in your search.



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Posted on Tue, Sep 20, 2005 07:30


garrett2000 write:

READY502 write:
Hey guys, was wondering why not many of you post. It's a wonderful way for the ladies to get more insight as to who you are. The profiles are short and sweet, but we really get to see what you're all about when your opinions are expressed.

Also wondering whether you read the Forums?

Would love to hear from you on this thread!

If you follow the forums you could answer this question yourself. The regulars are vicious, they bully,attack and belittle all newbys. Why would any man put themselves out there for these losers to attack?



Hi Garrett!

Thanks for posting, I appreciate your comment and yes I've followed the forums for quite some time, but have only recently started posting.

My advice is just to ignore them, don't engage in any way, & although I quite often have my own strong opinions on some of the things I've seen written, I ask myself if I really want to "go there" & immediately realize NO. But ... on the other hand, it's also an insight as to who they are as a person & the lesson I get is not to get to know them. Just saves me from negativity & wasting my time.

There are many wonderful people on this site who are well worth getting to know & the forums can be fun & sometimes engaging, but that's entirely up to members' contributions. We need more men to post, it's mostly the women posting & the guys get to see who's who, but in my opinion - the women aren't getting a fair shake.

C'mon guys! Nothing ventured, nothing gained.



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Posted on Tue, Sep 20, 2005 07:27


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I have been inviting men who write me to come to the forum if they want to find out more about my views and me...a couple have done it but they never seem to last here..either they are too busy, not their scene or they have no views about anything...



That'd be too much work Bon. They are looking for an easier way...



Hi Bonnie & Cub!

Thanks for your input. Maybe you're on to something?? Is it that men don't like to communicate? and that's just how it is?

I'm definitely looking for a great communicator & if they don't do it here on a dating site, they probably won't do it at all! Now that's a scary thought!!!

Please elaborate.

  


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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 23:06

I have been inviting men who write me to come to the forum if they want to find out more about my views and me...a couple have done it but they never seem to last here..either they are too busy, not their scene or they have no views about anything...



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Posted on Mon, Sep 19, 2005 16:17


READY502 write:
Hey guys, was wondering why not many of you post. It's a wonderful way for the ladies to get more insight as to who you are. The profiles are short and sweet, but we really get to see what you're all about when your opinions are expressed.

Also wondering whether you read the Forums?

Would love to hear from you on this thread!

If you follow the forums you could answer this question yourself. The regulars are vicious, they bully,attack and belittle all newbys. Why would any man put themselves out there for these losers to attack?



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