"Dream the impossible" huh? Thats something that is said in the movies, For some the impossible is just that, The Impossible. Like finding a wealthy guy to see deeper than skin, or appearances. I am a very pretty woman but no one on here seems to think so, So before you go telling people to "dream the impossible" remember that that is just a huge let down for some like myself. Cause the "wealthy Beautiful"people don't go for average full figured women like me, I have been on this site for a month or more and have chatted with two men from here, and both looked at my pics and only saw the face pics but when they asked for the full head to toe pics, and saw that I am not thin, but more so full figured, they quickly moved on making sure to have never spoken to me again,and thats the let down!
Forgive me for being so out spoken but that exactly how I feel everytime I come across a profilethat reads "funloving women wanted " or something close to. I hope that everyone on here finds exactly what you are looking for and it works out perfectly for you, I suppose we all find someone someday just for some of us it's not what we want., and for some it's exactly what we are looking for in a relationship. Looks Brains, great personality, and anything else we expect our perfect mate or companion is supposed to be like. For those that are still looking I hope that you find him/her and he/she makes you happy. Have a blessed Day and a Blessed Life ladies and Gentlmen
We gals only learn from each other. i am a lot older than all of you, and yet I am the MOST NAIVE, believe it or not! Because of having the BEST -- a marriage of over 40 some years.... but here I am, looking sgain. and you know why> Because my adorable hubby once told me that if he died before me, he wanted me to go find another love. AT first I balwed my eyes out, saying, Oh No, Baby! I could never do that!" But he was soooo right, for he knew that when ya had a good thing, you needed it again. I was truley blessed, and with my age, I am learning how to be bolder (Ha! like I was not when younger!), but now I am knowing exactly what I want! I love this "man shopping" online. Sure beats going to the animal rescue kennel (a local bar) to pick up a stray dawg! *grin*
pureheartedlady write: ..relationships are like lessons. You learn from the mistakes and realize what you dont want the next time around. Dont settle to be someones trophy...
Wonderfully put ladies!!!
Relationships are lessons?? So true, so true! Before I went on my "dating hiatus", I thought I had always ended a relationship, relecting about what I learned. It wasn't until two and half years ago I went even deeper in myself and asked some pretty tough questions. "Why do keep ending up with these jerks???" Well guess what I learned...I MADE BAD CHOICES! No only did I make bad choices but it was the SAME BAD CHOICE OVER AND OVER AND OVER...!
That led me to realize I had a self-esteem problem. ME OF ALL PEOPLE!!! I always dated guys who were dependent on me, I was always the breadwinner, I was essentially seeking those to take care of because I thought if I took care of them and they needed me they would never leave me. It wasn't THEM it was ME.
I didn't believe it at first but then I remembered dating this guy back in 2000 and he was sweet, romantic, intelligent and had a great career. I had just started a new job in New York and what I had considered a great salary. Well, one day me and this guy were talking over the phone and I discovered he made more money than me...waayyyyyyyyy more. I dumped him in a week!
When I thought about this, I realized at the time I felt like a peasant girl compared to this guy and didn't feel comfortable going out with him unless I paid. I couldn't keep up so he had to go. What a shock I had when I remembered this. I knew I had a lot of work to do on myself.
What did I do? I tapped into my SELF and started loving me all over again. Well, for the past two and half years, I've been dating myself and LOVING it!!!
I've mended my brokenness, and NOW I'm ready to venture out, having learned the lesson of choices and being aware of the true wealth that lies inside me.
(Hey Jazz - "Steel Magnolias" is my favorite movie! Only second to "Beaches"....)
Lana, go to a mirror, lift your head up and reacquaint yourself with Lana...I think you'll fall in love with her!
Hi Sweetie! 'Tis Moi again. I just wanted to add some comments. Pretend like I am YO Momma... (I could be, regarding our age diff....LOL!) May I suggest some photo tips? Drop some of the real close-ups that are not as flattering; you have several good shots, but they are ALL nearly the same, OK? A suggestion would be to have a friend snap some of you outdoors, doing gardening (or whatever is your hobby, or by the beach, standing by a tree, or what about indoors with sitting in a nice surrounding? Or in the kitchen, while you are laughingly whipping up a great meal, etc. ) I hope this hasn't offended you-- besides being an artist, I am a photography buff. I am told that I am very photogenic (for my age) but then in person, I have all these facial wrinkles and sagging skin on a skinny body from losing drastic weight when my hubby died 2 years ago. Well, so be it! I can't afford plastic surgery, so what ya see is what ya get here! (I just spent $200 for a hot lil sexy Harley Davidson leather vest and the cutest black H-D cowboy hat!) for when I find a guy with a Harley! Do you like to ride a motorcycle? Try BikerKiss at the com place. Some really hunky guys out in your area who would no doubt love to take you for a spin! Do not give up -- you are still a pup! Signed -- old dawg Sailngal....also known as Jazz
Do not beat yourself to pieces, Honey! You are young -- you WILL find a loving, caring man, I just know it! If not here, then try other match sites. Personally, I have found that on THIS site, I've run into a lot of men who have somehow "reduced" their AGE! Or, they post pics that are NOT current, and then expect us to believe that they still look that young? I do not think that very fair -- especially when most men want to say that we women are "vain," HA! So BUCK UP, Sweetie! I've only been at this for a little while and am so green, yet I am finding out many aspects, when we men and women try to "shop" for Mr. Right, or Mrs. Right.... you should WRITE humorously, instead of stating that you are humorous. Be witty, if you think you are. Be TRUTHFUL if you say you are. Recently a guy has been writing to me, but then admitted that he lowered his age BY FIVE YEARS (I'd love to do that!) and that his pics were as old. Well, I am 62, but I can easily pass for much OLDER, I laughed back! Just relax, BE YOURSELF, and hang in there. Hope you have many girlfriends that you can talk to, also. Friends are wonderful! I have several whom I call my "Steel Magnolias!"
Thank you luckysolucky lol..And yes we are..relationships are like lessons. You learn from the mistakes and realize what you dont want the next time around. Dont settle to be someones trophy...expect to be an equal in everyway. Plastic surgeory can only fix so much of the outside..the inside..well that is a work in progress for everyone..it is if a wise person can see the beauty of the mind and heart.
Beauty is only skin deep. If you are not beautiful on the inside your outer beauty will fade and you have nothing. Be thankful the ones whom have money are not contacting you..if they are that shallow to not see the heart within , would you really want them? Love has no price tag on it. Happiness is worth more than money!!
LanaG says: ..Like finding a wealthy guy to see deeper than skin, or appearances..
Lana everybody has a starter point in what they are looking for...as in your quote above! You are looking for a wealthy guy (nothing wrong in that) but that means that you will miss out on all the non-wealthy guys that would like a chance with you! Its the same with the guys who are looking for skinny chicks...when it may be a fuller figured women that may be their ideal partner!
My starting point in my search is a good sense of humour...mainly because I KNOW I couldnt live with a man who couldnt share my quirky sort of personality! If I could find a man who was similar to me then I know we could deal with anything life threw at us and still come up smiling! I walked away from a 26 yr marriage with NOTHING!...but have never laughed so much or been happier in my life!!!
So...would finding a rich guy make you happy? No matter what his personality? Dig deep into your thoughts Lana...what sort of man would you want by your side if everything around you fell apart?