I was talking to friends about how they met their significant others and we delved into an interesting area.
People go through cycles emotionally and reach a low after a break-up and then continue to build and rise...You go from frantically seeking affection and approval immediately afterwards, wiping you're hands of you're mistake, to getting both feet on the ground and becoming "yourself" again. You are strong and wise and have learned never to repeat the same mistake twice. You also discover it's a "Jungle" out there. Lions and Tigers and Bullshitter Bears.
It now becomes important to find another, and after bumbling you're way through strange affairs and one nighters when you're Rolex turns up missing, Or you're hot blooded Romeo quits calling, you decided you've had enough, and want to find someone.. someone who's on the same page and will be faithful and "there" for you..all the things you're Ex didn't do.
You're lid is now boiling over!
It's "Clattering". You have this "Look" about you that you want the real deal. You have so much to Offer! There is an urgent way to you're thinking and looking at others. You are in control and getting good offers, Not all of which you entertain. You're also lonely.
Now here comes someone of the opposite sex who's "Lid is boiling over", also. You connect, immediately. It feels right. Body Language abounds.. You are both hungry for the same thing..No BS commitment. You agree and form a Pact. (You also haven't been laid in awhile).
Is Timing the most important factor in finding that special one?
Do the "Clattering Lids" find one another through the Fog?
Do we reach a desperation level that becomes unbearable and throw a headlock on another pot boiling over? Just because of an inner yearning we know little about and can't control?
"Just when a man is on top of his game and has nothing to bother him..He goes and gets married," - Samuel Clemons 1868
WrightWoodPT write: I was doing everything right, swear to it. I was in the corner, clattering,just like I was supposed to, and met another clatterer and got in a tug of war with another girl over her and lost.Honest!
That is one of the funniest stories of the week WW,,you might send that one to 4W's, he'd love it..
And then someone wrote a book with the message that few people become a big success until sex becomes less (or not) important. You spent to much time chasing it, courting, keeping the other party happy, entertaining them, talking, raising children, etc. etc. and can't focus on being a success.
That's my problem (story), and I am sticking to it.