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Posted on Thu, Jul 14, 2005 17:17

Here's one for you, who stretches the truth the most during a relationship, the female or male? Is this a good opening line whilst pursuing the other half? Actually there are folks out there that offer lessons on how to attract the opposite sex. Anybody ever try taking those lessons?

Personally I think that they would be a waste of time for the majority of the population as you start off the relationship by living a lie but for some they might just work...



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Posted on Tue, Jul 19, 2005 01:23


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TheCatsMeow65 write:

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Who colors their "truths" more? Um, MEN. Big-Fish stories, etc.

I think women are often TOO honest and wayyyyyyyyyyy too open about their insecurities/idiosyncracies too early in the relationship, and it scares men off.

What opening line works best? How about . . . "Hello, my name is . . . .?" Save the "lines" for fishing!



I agree! In my practice, I see many women who are really frustrated with the man after the "romancing" is over (typically pretty quick after they have [caught their prey!!]). Not trying to be cynical, but many men do seem to have the strange notion that they have to present themselves as something they're not, or embellish their accomplishments in order to "woo" a woman. Once they've "hooked their partner" they revert back to who they really are. Sounds almost like hunting instead of developing a relationship. Dr. R

I hateeeeeeeeeee when they do this...why oh why do they?


I've got a good idea, but it's toooooo long for this section!!! Ask me in Columbus . . . you are going aren't you? Since you began picking on me (yeah, I like it . . . but don't tell anyone), I'm looking forward to get the fur flying when we all meet!! Yeah baby!!

  


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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 16:43


TheCatsMeow65 write:

drrepublic write:

thegoodlife2005 write:
Who colors their "truths" more? Um, MEN. Big-Fish stories, etc.

I think women are often TOO honest and wayyyyyyyyyyy too open about their insecurities/idiosyncracies too early in the relationship, and it scares men off.

What opening line works best? How about . . . "Hello, my name is . . . .?" Save the "lines" for fishing!



I agree! In my practice, I see many women who are really frustrated with the man after the "romancing" is over (typically pretty quick after they have [caught their prey!!]). Not trying to be cynical, but many men do seem to have the strange notion that they have to present themselves as something they're not, or embellish their accomplishments in order to "woo" a woman. Once they've "hooked their partner" they revert back to who they really are. Sounds almost like hunting instead of developing a relationship. Dr. R

I hateeeeeeeeeee when they do this...why oh why do they?


I've got a good idea, but it's toooooo long for this section!!! Ask me in Columbus . . . you are going aren't you? Since you began picking on me (yeah, I like it . . . but don't tell anyone), I'm looking forward to get the fur flying when we all meet!! Yeah baby!!

  


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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 16:25


drrepublic write:

thegoodlife2005 write:
Who colors their "truths" more? Um, MEN. Big-Fish stories, etc.

I think women are often TOO honest and wayyyyyyyyyyy too open about their insecurities/idiosyncracies too early in the relationship, and it scares men off.

What opening line works best? How about . . . "Hello, my name is . . . .?" Save the "lines" for fishing!



I agree! In my practice, I see many women who are really frustrated with the man after the "romancing" is over (typically pretty quick after they have [caught their prey!!]). Not trying to be cynical, but many men do seem to have the strange notion that they have to present themselves as something they're not, or embellish their accomplishments in order to "woo" a woman. Once they've "hooked their partner" they revert back to who they really are. Sounds almost like hunting instead of developing a relationship. Dr. R

I hateeeeeeeeeee when they do this...why oh why do they?



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 12:43


thegoodlife2005 write:
Who colors their "truths" more? Um, MEN. Big-Fish stories, etc.

I think women are often TOO honest and wayyyyyyyyyyy too open about their insecurities/idiosyncracies too early in the relationship, and it scares men off.

What opening line works best? How about . . . "Hello, my name is . . . .?" Save the "lines" for fishing!



I agree! In my practice, I see many women who are really frustrated with the man after the "romancing" is over (typically pretty quick after they have [caught their prey!!]). Not trying to be cynical, but many men do seem to have the strange notion that they have to present themselves as something they're not, or embellish their accomplishments in order to "woo" a woman. Once they've "hooked their partner" they revert back to who they really are. Sounds almost like hunting instead of developing a relationship. Dr. R



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 02:10


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I won't play favorites here as far who stretches the truth, but from my experiences in life...its very apparent.


I agree with Cat. It is definetly women that stretch the truth.

Geez Mel you are the only one that caught that...hehehe How did you ever know?



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 02:08


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Hmm Cat Lady what you say is very true if you start off a relationship based on a lie then the chances of failure are greater as you will eventually be found out. The best motto for me is "what you see is what you get" as for the glass of wine let me buy you a bottle. lol.

Here's another one for you, the 17th World Congress of Sexology is taking place in Montreal at the present time. And no I haven't attended nor do I have any desire to do so as it's just a matter of interest because of the craziness of the headline, concept and it's a slow hot day. Their opening line, designer vagin*s and a society that worships the phallus, so I guess size does matter..

IMHO no matter how many surgeries that you have done unless you correct the underlying problems associated with this type of surgery, why bother unless you're in the porn industry. However it is a highly popular surgery never the less, costing anywhere from $3000 to $7000, money that I would spend on travelling instead.. Hmm I seem to have gotten off topic here, well what the heck..

Did I miss something here?



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Posted on Mon, Jul 18, 2005 00:50

Who colors their "truths" more? Um, MEN. Big-Fish stories, etc.

I think women are often TOO honest and wayyyyyyyyyyy too open about their insecurities/idiosyncracies too early in the relationship, and it scares men off.

What opening line works best? How about . . . "Hello, my name is . . . .?" Save the "lines" for fishing!



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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 22:40

At our age, we've done our changing over the past 25+ yrs...we've grown and evolved into the people we are today through all of our life's experiences over the years. We're not going to change now. So for anyone to enter a relationship thinking they will change the other person...they are dreaming!
Accept us (male/female) for who we are, not who you want us to be! If you want us to be someone else, then they should keep looking!



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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 22:25


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The "lie" that you're talking about is sometimes called Toxic Niceness or Toxic Intimacy. In the beginning of a relationship we are overwhelmed with a desire to cast ourselves in the most flattering light possible. Which it's not bad to accentuate our most attractive qualities. But if we start a relationship agreeing with every suggestion the other person makes and pretending to be someone we are not(re-inventing ourselves for them), it's really hard to ease our way out of that dynamic and into our "real" personality. Because eventually we will feel comfy enough with this person to be ourselves and that could be a real shock to the other person if we are not honestly "ourselves" right from the beginning.

Does that make sense? There is a book called The Inner Bit*ch, Guide to men, relationships, dating, etc. that this came from. Men and Women can both learn from this book, it is entertaining and honest.



Agree with you there Toonces! That happens a lot. It's important to be yourself from the start. The "what you see is what you get" thing is important.



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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 18:32

Why don't you hunks out there give us some lines that have actually worked for you or lines that we can use to pick up you guys (besides, hey, you wanna ?????) LMAO



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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 18:30


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Whatever you say, Sweetie. (Non-Toxically)

clear as mud, huh? well then how bout this.

Hey, big boy, is your name Summmer, cause you're hot as he*ll.

Baby, when I saw you I thought, "now I'm gonna see somethin' swell!"

Hi, will you help me find my lost puppy? I think he went into this cheap hotel room across the street.

Hey, I work for UPS, I need to check out your package.


Hahaha! Toonces...those are good! lol Good for a laugh that is!

Your previous post is right on the mark. When I was younger I knew females that were like that. Sometimes the guys stay, and sometimes they just can't live with the change, or the true personality that is suddenly revealed and leave. I think it pays in the long run to just be yourself.

Yep, I am who I am, like me or don't, but I'm not re-inventing myself for anyone.

  


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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 17:50


Toonces write:

WrightWoodPT write:
Whatever you say, Sweetie. (Non-Toxically)

clear as mud, huh? well then how bout this.

Hey, big boy, is your name Summmer, cause you're hot as he*ll.

Baby, when I saw you I thought, "now I'm gonna see somethin' swell!"

Hi, will you help me find my lost puppy? I think he went into this cheap hotel room across the street.

Hey, I work for UPS, I need to check out your package.


Hahaha! Toonces...those are good! lol Good for a laugh that is!

Your previous post is right on the mark. When I was younger I knew females that were like that. Sometimes the guys stay, and sometimes they just can't live with the change, or the true personality that is suddenly revealed and leave. I think it pays in the long run to just be yourself.



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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 08:55


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I won't play favorites here as far who stretches the truth, but from my experiences in life...its very apparent.


I agree with Cat. It is definetly women that stretch the truth.

  


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Posted on Sat, Jul 16, 2005 21:58


WrightWoodPT write:
Whatever you say, Sweetie. (Non-Toxically)

clear as mud, huh? well then how bout this.

Hey, big boy, is your name Summmer, cause you're hot as he*ll.

Baby, when I saw you I thought, "now I'm gonna see somethin' swell!"

Hi, will you help me find my lost puppy? I think he went into this cheap hotel room across the street.

Hey, I work for UPS, I need to check out your package.



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Posted on Sat, Jul 16, 2005 21:34

Whatever you say, Sweetie. (Non-Toxically)



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Posted on Sat, Jul 16, 2005 16:48

The "lie" that you're talking about is sometimes called Toxic Niceness or Toxic Intimacy. In the beginning of a relationship we are overwhelmed with a desire to cast ourselves in the most flattering light possible. Which it's not bad to accentuate our most attractive qualities. But if we start a relationship agreeing with every suggestion the other person makes and pretending to be someone we are not(re-inventing ourselves for them), it's really hard to ease our way out of that dynamic and into our "real" personality. Because eventually we will feel comfy enough with this person to be ourselves and that could be a real shock to the other person if we are not honestly "ourselves" right from the beginning.

Does that make sense? There is a book called The Inner Bit*ch, Guide to men, relationships, dating, etc. that this came from. Men and Women can both learn from this book, it is entertaining and honest.



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Posted on Sat, Jul 16, 2005 15:05

Hahaha! Cute Alpen!

A lady on the forums months ago told me to try, "Going my way?" I thought it was a hokey line. Obviously not, because the first guy I tried it on said sure! LMAO!!! Then he invited myself and MY daughter to NYC. He said his 19 yr daughter would entertain mine and show her around NYC. Not prepared for that fast of a response, I declined! lol



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Posted on Sat, Jul 16, 2005 08:37


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According to an old Dilbert cartoon, where he asked his computer what the best chat-up line in the world was, his computer told him:

"Hi, I'm Mel Gibson. Did you just see a dingo dog go past with my shirt?"

LOL Lordy



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Posted on Sat, Jul 16, 2005 04:38

According to an old Dilbert cartoon, where he asked his computer what the best chat-up line in the world was, his computer told him:

"Hi, I'm Mel Gibson. Did you just see a dingo dog go past with my shirt?"



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