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Posted on Wed, Jan 04, 2012 00:29

Ok Im open to all opinions. I want to know why ladies who are mainly 25 to 45 who consider themselves beautiful either inside or outside, are still single and can't seem to find a guy to settle down with. Many are looking here and other personals sites. From my dating experience they seem to have higher than average expectations for men. Men on the other hand, such as myself tend to avoid these women once they are figured out. I want to know from both sexes what you think these expectations are and why women dont want to accept the character of guys that are attracted to them?



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Posted on Mon, Jun 03, 2013 21:08

Very good question!  I know a # of women (myself included) who are considered by I would say more than 90% of men AND women they encounter in daily life as beautiful (inside and out), caring, independent, smart, even approachable...as a matter of fact some of us need to only step into a social gathering and any man that is single (and even some not so single) will approach us, like us, be interested in us, even ask us out; we may even go on a few dates with them, or choose to have a relationship that extends into months, we may even get engaged to one.
Here is the deal & this is just my personal opinion.  More women don't marry for money nor need a man for social status.  It doesn't mean they would not be proud of such a man if they met, but this is not their # 1 criteria; they want loyalty, chemistry,communication, some romance, companionship, intimacy and someone who will stick by them through thick and thing and never give up; we want them to also be cute or have some physical characteristics we are attracted to; we want them to be excited about things like travel and trying new activities.  In terms of their career, yes we want them to have something going for them; if we have something going for them, there is no reason why a man who lives in a country of opportunity all his life, would not in his 30s/40s have that (there are exception of course, recently divorced, gone back to school) but then the exception may not be in a position to start a committed, long term relationship with a woman that has everything going on for her.  Women that have the whole package (including education past high school may I add, which they also expect in the men they want to be taking seriously), are not desperate; the question you should be asking is why are so many people in miserable marriages, because they married out of desperation, neediness, were tricked into it, out of guilt, out of family or religious & peer pressure, or societal pressure, or too young to knw what they wanted, or just to not be alone? I can guarantee you that those unhappy marriages started on the wrong foot....the women you speak of, do not want to marry out of desperation, or neediness or due to any other outside pressure; they want to build a life based on genuine caring, trust, love, attraction, maturity, loyalty...they are less likely to put up with a man they smell while dating will cheat, be violent, have addictions...they date all these guys, maybe...but they are too smart to marry them...on the other hand maybe men are intimidated by a woman that doesn't need them or think they are hard to please.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  These women in particular, may want a regular guy, that has integrity,something going for him, and some family values...it's not unreasonable and it's coincidentally not so far from what a man who has it all together wants.  (prerequisite is physical attraction)  Men have become to spoiled, too scared and lost some of their masculine strength in this generation, not because women are more empowered, but because the other women that think they are empowered, and think for instance sleeping around is their freedom, are in fact weakening the fabric of society; yes these women have always existed, but now sex has become like underwear, and women wonder why they are more nervous, stressed, neurotic, hurt, bitter...they forget that the body has a memory and wont' forget things that happen so easily, too many casual encounters and one becomes numb, can't feel deeply any more; the women you speak of, are kind of needless when it comes to being happy single, so there is so no urgency ever to jump into a relationship...this ironically is good for men too; but men don't realize that most women anyway do get attached when sleeping with men; this causes a whole series of issues, if it happens too soon, before a woman is ready.  I digress.  If one of the women yo u speak of is ready, and the man she is dating is strong enough to wait for her, he may just get exactly what he wants, and more, instead of settle for the one that chased him, or he thought would be easier to handle.  :)



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Posted on Mon, May 27, 2013 16:12

Quoting cheliz419:

well i find myself single once again bc i was in the wrong relationships basically since i have been 19. I yet to find the right one. Idk where or when or if i ever will find the right one. I did though waste alot of my life in the wrong ones and when i say wrong ones i have been in mainly 3 differnt ones since 19 . so it took me a long time to finally say im done. all 3 been unhealthy relationships. now im 33 and still havent found the right  person to spend the rest of my life with :( i know i might be picky but i kow i must of not been that picky if i had bad ones in the first place. and i think im a good person inside and out so if somone can tell me why i am sinlge and cant find Mr. right what am i doing wrong??



Hi Cheliz
You may not be doing anything wrong. Mr Right may have come and gone in your life several times but you turned him down. See Mr Right is only right as long as your emotions tell you he is. That can change anytime. When your emotions tell you he is wrong you move on. Emotions are powerful and can trick you in avoiding conflict resolution, high expectations and insecurity due to low self esteem, abuse  and lack of love when you were younger. Look at the bigger picture and always know the better successful longterm love relationships are not when you two never have conflict or disagree. It's when you work it out and grow from it. Good luck



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Posted on Wed, May 08, 2013 13:06

My pesonal reason I am still single is because ..... I am profoundly deaf, even though I can speak and converse is more than one language. I dated in past and can count the men in one hand, and one thing I learn from them as well many not all men I encountered .... they prefer someone who is eye candy, and that they can show off to friends and family.  It seem like they were ashamed to tell friends and family met someone great, but she is deaf. Some even those who are just friends prefer speaking on phone instead of taking a few moments texting, etc it seems just to much for them. As soon as I noticed that these things relationship as well some friendships tend to go sour. Second thing comes to mind I have no children, if found someone I would like to try and have one child prior to me turning 42 ( still have 4.5 years left ... lol ) and many older males are done having children or just don't want any more. Seeing both sets of grandparents in love and married over 60 yrs growing up as well my own parents celebrating 43 yrs married I know it exists rare, but it does. I just choose not to settle, and know is a life commitment even though I am not picky I think. I have no preference what religion they are for at the end of the day majority of us believe in one God just our road to him come in many paths. I am not so shallow to not consider someone with a few extra pounds since we can always go workout together. Weight one can lose, but a nasty personality is not easy to change. My attraction tend to come out based on the persons character and personality since looks fade. I joined this site  thinking there might be a few rich men who are so secure and confident In life they could careless what people think about them considering dating and possibility finding love with a deaf individual. Yes, I said rich not cause I am looking for monetary gain. I have made a personal assumption that if he is set financially I might be able to share more quality time than being with someone who unable to take any time off work for the simplest things in life due to trying to make ends meet. I have seen to many overwhelming themselves with work that they end up losing quality time with love ones. However, it is not something I expect and I am not going to set it in stone. I am happy being single, and being able to jump on a plane to go anywhere at spur of moment. I am also very happy with who I am, and always learning new things about myself and life.  If I remain single for life I am ok with that for the simple fact I rather  enjoy life to fullest, continue traveling, etc. alone  than being around bad/negative company. 

 
PS~every person that is single has their own personal reasons one just need to want to get to know them if one is interested. Just can't put them in a category, but bare in mind you will come by a few with high expectations they feel entitled even though their expectations are very shallow.  Now I am going to read the posting since this is a longgggg thread .



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Posted on Wed, May 01, 2013 20:00

well i find myself single once again bc i was in the wrong relationships basically since i have been 19. I yet to find the right one. Idk where or when or if i ever will find the right one. I did though waste alot of my life in the wrong ones and when i say wrong ones i have been in mainly 3 differnt ones since 19 . so it took me a long time to finally say im done. all 3 been unhealthy relationships. now im 33 and still havent found the right  person to spend the rest of my life with :( i know i might be picky but i kow i must of not been that picky if i had bad ones in the first place. and i think im a good person inside and out so if somone can tell me why i am sinlge and cant find Mr. right what am i doing wrong??



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Posted on Mon, Apr 01, 2013 19:22

It is because in real life attractive women are not approached by men. Men are intimidated by them. Women further influence their fears by talking badly about them.



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Posted on Sat, Feb 23, 2013 09:20

Quoting dannyspl:

@Cruizin1
Yes but that is a question for men on another thread.  Please start one because Im sure you will get different answers than from  women. Again I have repeated this over and over.
 Im looking for why beatiful women on the inside and on the outside are still single.  If you think you are beautiful on either that is all that really matters. How others see you is a reflection on how you see yourself. I want to know why you are choosing to remain single if you have those ideal qualities. Many women look too much on outer beauty to attract men.  I have met many model looking women who don't know how to value their man.  A matter of fact they feel they do not need to make much effort at all to show him

Value
support
encouragement
acknowledgement
appreciation and affirmation

But still want him to treat her in her ideal way. With her expectations met.  She may think it is all about how he treats her and not much how she treats him. Men want to be emotionally stimulated.

 Please do not turn this  back on men. That is not the purpose to this thread.  Just express yourself in your own answer about you. Thanks for your  answers.


DANNYSPLACE----
I will take another stab here as I feel perhaps I understand your question better... 

DANNY--- 
Beauty is obviously a "perception".... However, studies have been performed as to what "the norm" sees as "outward beauty".... I myself, am not one who has ever stood by the side of the road... 
In saying this, I am also one of the most beautiful, empathetic women I know, on the INSIDE. I have held hands with the dying and wiped their tears away... 

WHY am I still single?
I don't have CHEMISTRY with many men... 

Heres the stats for me---
67% of men are FAT or OBESE.. (women stat is slightly lower) 
That leaves me with 33% of the American population I "might" wish to play with. 

Take that 33% of (at least not heavy) men
and put on a face.... and hair.. I might be attracted to... 
Down to 15%....

Then add.. other qualitities such as 
Christian-- MUST BELIEVE J.C. IS OUR SAVIOR---
Down to 10% of Population 

Meshing of POLITICS----
Down 5 to 8%??? 

Financal Stability-- Enough I know he won't be dipping into my wallet to pay his bills
2- 5% Population left

NOW NOTE: WE HAVE NOT EVEN SEEN HIS PERSONALITY!!
Only LOOKS, RELIGION, POLITICS AND FINANCES.. 

I am NOT asking for wealth or "hard body".. Just 
"Don't be fat or obese, believe Jesus is our Saviour, be able to pay your own mortgage and truck payment, and vote somewhere like I would."
THAT'S ALL I ASK HERE.. AND I AM ALREADY DOWN TO 5% of the population

NOW ADD!!!!
Non-abusive..  (emotionally, financially or physically)
HUMOUROUS!!! ;)
Same Interest
No crazy ex-wife making my life miserable before I know him
No children who are so disrespectful and bratty he allows to walk all over him while I want to take a switch!! ;) 
Our lifestyles work... 
THE LIST GOES ON!! 

OH! And need I remind anyone? I FAILED to mention SEEKING CHILDREN!! Many men seek kids.. even in their 50's?? Birth defects increase by 50% due to MEN 50 years of age and above!! Autism... and other severe birth defect areas.. Yet, I see men daily saying YES to "wanting children" in mid 50's!!!!! It's like a "new trend!"
We don't even have the opportunity to delve into the AWESOME things you state DANNY...... We can't find one to fit the SIMPLE THINGS LIKE "BODY TYPE, RELIGION AND POLITICS"....
Just sayin...  
Value
support
encouragement
acknowledgement
appreciation and affirmation 



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Posted on Fri, Feb 22, 2013 16:35

@Cruizin1
Yes but that is a question for men on another thread.  Please start one because Im sure you will get different answers than from  women. Again I have repeated this over and over.
 Im looking for why beatiful women on the inside and on the outside are still single.  If you think you are beautiful on either that is all that really matters. How others see you is a reflection on how you see yourself. I want to know why you are choosing to remain single if you have those ideal qualities. Many women look too much on outer beauty to attract men.  I have met many model looking women who don't know how to value their man.  A matter of fact they feel they do not need to make much effort at all to show him

Value
support
encouragement
acknowledgement
appreciation and affirmation

But still want him to treat her in her ideal way. With her expectations met.  She may think it is all about how he treats her and not much how she treats him. Men want to be emotionally stimulated.

 Please do not turn this  back on men. That is not the purpose to this thread.  Just express yourself in your own answer about you. Thanks for your  answers.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 15, 2013 01:01

My experience is that many beautiful women feel that is all it takes to capture a man. They become narsistic and do not realize men expect the total package, not just a pretty face. Most are high maintenance and the price is not worth it.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 06, 2013 19:16

Because men are afraid of them?

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Posted on Wed, Feb 06, 2013 06:24

The question goes both ways. There are guys who claim to be a catch but don't seem to get caught.
 

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Posted on Thu, Jan 17, 2013 16:49

Well said Cruizin1!!!



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Posted on Tue, Jan 15, 2013 04:04

hmmm. internesting question.
Why are rich man/woman still single?
Why are nice man/woman still single?
Why are smart man/woman still single?
I don't know. I think our life is shaped by the challenges and the opportunities we are given. For me, I am single simply because I have not put efforts into finding one. I have chosen my career and my kids over a new man, fearing that I can't treasure "him" as he deserves and the conflict would be too much for my little brain to handle.
Come to think of it, I got more attention as I get older. I am a late boomer and I guess I was very geek/nerdy in school...haha.. It's almost like the more I enjoy being myself, the more attention I get. Go figure.



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Posted on Sun, Jan 13, 2013 20:10

the same is asked of you and guys that are single on this site that are attractive and are still looking for a date..if you are so wonderful than why are you still single...woman cant measure up to your expectations? Before throwing out that measuring stick of perfection ..check yourself first..serving is the greatest of all attributes and it works both ways. When you give selflessly then you wont be discouraged or dismayed because your eyes are on the other and not yourself. The number one reason for divorce and broken relationships is selfishness and a close second is the inability to forgive and over look faults. Imperfections and down right flaws will exhist in every relationship..how you deal with them is key. Society is becoming more and more about Me myself and I. As we are living in the end times and this was predicted in the Word of God. The roles of relationships have completly reversed.  The womans lib movement did more harm to realtionships and marriage than anyone thing in human history. Demasculination of men became the central theme at this time. We woman have paid the price ever since,. Woman want to be treated like a woman but then wear the pants of a man. We have been forced to do this as the marriage relationship has broken down and woman were forced into the workplace. As the Word also says."right will become wrong and wrong will become right" It is satans most keen plan to ruin the relationship and marriages between man and woman therefore the family will cease to exhist. Since all of this is well in motion we have to deal with it on this level.So we have to get Back to the basics...Love, acceptance, forgiveness..and selflessness.Until we all adapt this attitude..we will all be shuffling through single sites hoping somehow things will some day be different...



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Posted on Sat, Jan 12, 2013 18:13

I believe women that are beautiful don't have to s etttle for less then pecfect men or remotely good for her sometimes and, why should We. Life teaches Us that is better to be alone Then with a Bad Man that dosent not appreciate a fine Women until its to late. So why even star.t We will know when that person really feels Right, if where Lucky to fine that One man or women that belong too you only with heart and soul you'll know. That's my opinion...M

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Posted on Fri, Jan 11, 2013 17:13

Often, I do believe women are a bit picky.
I am a man who seeks an attractive woman who will love me for the man I am, & not be concerned with anything monetary I can give them, or a comfortable life. That is easy for me to say, since there is no way I can provide that for a woman now. 
I am weary of women who are physically attracted to me, yet, they look elsewhere because I am not wealthy. To be honest, I would rather be with a woman who has money simply because she doesn't need me for that purpose, but WANTS me for every other reason.
The most sad commentary about my life is the fact that I have never found that one person who I have loved more than my own life & ambitions. This is amazing, because I have been married in the past, & had long term relationships. In each case, I felt a sense of longing for someone who could understand me, & not berate me. My continuing mission to discover this elusive life mate, with no tangible success, is disturbing & frustrating. 
What I am about to tell you is one of my most closely guarded secrets. I have never been with a partner who could satisfy my basic, instinctual attraction level, & I mean this on the deepest physical echelon. 
I have the tools that are considered the archetypal female magnets. I am attractive, I sing, & can communicate rather effectively. Yet, her I stand... Alone. Any woman can find me on a search engine under michaelantonio live. Mostly, I hear crickets, or there is merely no connection there.
What good is my appeal, if I cannot be mutually satisfied by a beautiful woman? If she is out there, & she finds me, oh how beautiful life will be for us...



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Posted on Thu, Jan 03, 2013 04:07

Hi,
I just logged in to see what is new and I feel for a small contribution to the discussion "Why are beautiful women still single?".
Well, I am not a model but I had enough men´s attention all my life, so I think I know what I am about to say a bit of personal experience.
First of all, my parents marriage was not at all ideal.  I know today, that nothing is perfect but still, simple to put, there could be higher respect from my father to my mother (and women in general) and higher self-esteem and independence from my mom´s side. So it led me to two extremes, i) being afraid to fall in love for a hard working, selfish business man, who I am going to be just a servant,  ii) and  trying hard to be as much independent as my mom never was.
The negative vibration caused, that I left my parents house at age 19 for USA. I was meeting lot of people all the time and I was happy. It changed me intensily, I became very independent, self-standing women, who lived the moment. All that opposite to my father´s wishes to marry and to be taken care off, as that is the only thing girl can do.Or he wanted me to do some business. How to do it without any money, he had no advice.
So I was confused, young, and took various short term jobs before I am where I am today.
Secondly, men consider me attractive, I had good vibes andaction in the blood, so yes, I received many offers. Yet, I was turning them all down. In situation, when I was travelling and having various short-term project accross the world, it was quite natural, not to be involved into a relationship, at least I never looked deeper for other reason. The true was that I was terryfied to end up like my parents and I never allowed anyone to come closer.
I realized that such attention was at the end contraproductive. Men approached me and did not allow anytime to get to know each other, not time to fall in love. We both then were missing the pink glasses and often the relation broke wown shortly. And worst, as independent, hard-working women, often men with no same values, work or interest approached me, as seeking in me there another "mother".
Today, when men ask me why such an intelligent, smart and beautiful lady has no relation, I know that it is a mix of the previous - fear of falling for a wrong men, fear to follow my parents tragedy, lack of an adequate partner, being active, traveling and moving often from one place to another, also my independent behaviour and ideas.
I hope this article helps men to understand women better.



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Posted on Sat, Dec 29, 2012 09:20

Quoting alina_r:

Not just that. They can lose their job too :( They can be fired for being "too attractive " After working as a dental assistant for ten years, Melissa Nelson was fired for being too “irresistible” and a “threat” to her employer’s marriage.


This is interesting.  It implies that she became more attractive over those ten years otherwise there might have been an issue sooner.  It confirms what I have always thought which is that if a woman is attractive in her 20s, she will be even more attractive in her mid/late 30s.
So the point is some of these beautiful women may not have been equally beautiful ten years ago.



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Posted on Sun, Dec 23, 2012 07:50

Not just that. They can lose their job too :( They can be fired for being "too attractive " After working as a dental assistant for ten years, Melissa Nelson was fired for being too “irresistible” and a “threat” to her employer’s marriage.



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Posted on Thu, Nov 29, 2012 10:30

I think alot do have unrealistic expectations and not much to back it up from their own POV. I also think people lack patience, understanding and commitment these days. I'm also seeing a trend with men over 35, who are mentally unstable and very insecure. I've not dated many men, but speak to alot of men and also have friends who talk about men and relationships(my fav subject), so i won't speak as if i've first hand experience. 
I'm not sure what the problem between men and women are and why relationships aren't lasting, but one thing i do agree is that when sex became easy, love got harder to find. There is truth in that statement.
I also think people rush into relationships and they don't spend enough time talking and learning about each other.



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