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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 00:31

I think you should keep whats happening between yourself and that person and dont invite a third party in. Someone will get hurt and I want us all to be friends and have fun!

  


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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 17:16


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Toonces,

I should have welcomed you too. When I saw your posts recently with your real pic you looked familiar. Did you and I correspond once before? I seem to remember you and that you were very funny. Have you been lurking around here before posting?

Sorry if I confused you with someone else. But welcome.

Andy

thanks for the welcome, but no we've never corresponded. I have just lurked in the background, but not posted until the last week or so. Sometimes it seems new people are intruders into a private party. Guess we just need to stand up and shout HELLO, CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW!! LOL!



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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 17:03

Toonces,

I should have welcomed you too. When I saw your posts recently with your real pic you looked familiar. Did you and I correspond once before? I seem to remember you and that you were very funny. Have you been lurking around here before posting?

Sorry if I confused you with someone else. But welcome.

Andy



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Posted on Thu, Jun 09, 2005 04:53


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Toonces write:
Butter, you just said exactly how I feel sometimes on here, being new. You welcomed me right off and I appreciated that. Sometimes I feel like I'm being ignored because 1.) I'm just new and nobody knows me yet. or 2.) No one knows my demented, sarcastic sense of humor because of #1 or 3.) I sound really stupid or 4.) nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I think I'll go eat worms! :-) I know it takes a while to develop those friendships, but if no one "talks" to you, it won't happen. Anyway you said it exactly perfect. Thanks.

Hi Toon, I haven't been ignoring you..I don't get into the bomb squad much..those guys in there are the greatest but sometimes they talk about pig contests and things I just don't get. Now if you say you have a demented, hopefully dirty sense of humor, that is a horse of a different color...sorry that just popped in my head..from the Wizard of Oz..memeber? Welcome..you seem like a great girl..love that but*t.

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Thanks. I can go to the edge of the gutter and jump off when I feel the "need", just cautious right now, don't print everything that pops into my head - yet.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 08, 2005 21:53

OMG... here is a perfectly good example of one of the silliest people on here,, get to know her,,you will love her...


in a totally non-lesbian way ...of course!!!!!



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Posted on Wed, Jun 08, 2005 21:48


Toonces write:
Butter, you just said exactly how I feel sometimes on here, being new. You welcomed me right off and I appreciated that. Sometimes I feel like I'm being ignored because 1.) I'm just new and nobody knows me yet. or 2.) No one knows my demented, sarcastic sense of humor because of #1 or 3.) I sound really stupid or 4.) nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I think I'll go eat worms! :-) I know it takes a while to develop those friendships, but if no one "talks" to you, it won't happen. Anyway you said it exactly perfect. Thanks.

Hi Toon, I haven't been ignoring you..I don't get into the bomb squad much..those guys in there are the greatest but sometimes they talk about pig contests and things I just don't get. Now if you say you have a demented, hopefully dirty sense of humor, that is a horse of a different color...sorry that just popped in my head..from the Wizard of Oz..memeber? Welcome..you seem like a great girl..love that but*t.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 08, 2005 21:40

you will find your spot where you are comfortable, I felt that way at first, but its like anywhere, people are attracted to different types, and your company will welcome you, you might hate me in a day but it could change the next, Just let the real you shine through and you will settle in just fine, besides you are really smart, you wont have a problem,there are a lot of incredible people on here, just have to find your comfort zone, me...i can fit in almost anywhere with most people once they get to know me.


So jump in and run around and post wherever the he*L*L you want and dont worry about what anyone thinks, that is as long as you are yourself, and you seem to be very nice.

  


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Posted on Wed, Jun 08, 2005 21:16

Butter, you just said exactly how I feel sometimes on here, being new. You welcomed me right off and I appreciated that. Sometimes I feel like I'm being ignored because 1.) I'm just new and nobody knows me yet. or 2.) No one knows my demented, sarcastic sense of humor because of #1 or 3.) I sound really stupid or 4.) nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I think I'll go eat worms! :-) I know it takes a while to develop those friendships, but if no one "talks" to you, it won't happen. Anyway you said it exactly perfect. Thanks.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 08, 2005 19:39

I agree Sharp, i always invite a new person when I see them, thats just how I am,... Cats,,Isou, Garrett,Toonces,2-line,on, and on and some of these i personally invited to the forum just for fresh faces,
However, to have friends, one should make themselves friendly. We arent babys here, but adults. by now they should be able to post , and introduce themselves,, I did, I came in with a bam, i didnt know if anyone would accept me, but I simply introduced myself in the middle of a thread, i think it was friends on here!So what Im saying is, this is a dating site, when you go out to meet people they dont have to take you by the hand to make you feel welcome in an establishment, you have to make yourself friendly to others too, and just be a little outgoing,nobody took me by my hand here, i jumped into the ring, of a bunch of really smart people having really intelligent conversations, Boy I bet they thought i was a dingbat at first,When I think back a couple of monmths ago,,lol..hehe,,too much.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 08, 2005 19:13

A deviation from your topic Bella, but sometimes new people, or even those who have been on the forums for awhile post and are neglected because a small group or click has formed and they don't make an effort to include those people...it's like they never posted. When that happens, those people feel discouraged, and stop posting. I've always been one to include everyone. If we'd like new blood injected into these forums, despite the friendships that have been made, maybe we all need to make an effort to include others who may feel they are intruding. Thoughts anyone? Not sure I conveyed myself well.



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Posted on Tue, Jun 07, 2005 17:43


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Yes - we should keep certain things to ourselves and respect any confidences someone might make.
Another thing is: if you have met someone and are interested in him/her and have hit it off etc... is it ok to go on "flirting" with others on the forum? Where does one draw the line?
This is merely a hypothetical question as I have not met anyone yet from this site but I imagine it might bother me if I thought we had something going between us and he kept on flirting with others in a blatant or suggestive way.


I think Suzan & Jim handled it very well.
Myself, if I met someone from here, I would probably hide my profile, and would expect same from him. We're all different how we do things.

"we had something going between us and he kept on flirting with others in a blatant or suggestive way."

To me, it wouldn't be acceptable. I'd take it as a strong indication that "he just wasn't that into me", because if he was, I'd be the only one he'd want to flirt with. I'd have his attention 100% of the time.
Again, to use Jim & Suzan as an example...they did not do this; therefore, it was acceptable. Make sense?



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Posted on Tue, Jun 07, 2005 17:30


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I have made a lot of terrific friends on here. I love and respect all ya'll. With the exception of one or too. We are all getting so close and so tight that we are forgetting this is actually a dating site. We are all talking to members of the opposite sex or you know whatever your into. Sometimes I find myself mentioning to a woman friend that I am talking to someone and find out that woman has been e-mailing him as well I get jealous. Or I will be talking to someone and find out he used to date someone and it hurts their feelings. I dont want to hurt anyones feelings I just want to have fun make friends and maybe meet a guy.


Bella I understand what you're saying. I ran into that a few months ago, where a lady on here told me someone she was emailing and talking to on the phone. Coincidentally I had just begun emailing this person 1 or 2 days earlier. Never spoke on the phone, although he wanted to, and he wanted to fly to meet me the following weekend! But the moment I found out this person had been in communication with him before I ever was, I declined meeting him, and discontinued emailing him. I guess it didn't mean enough to me. But had I continued, I would have felt guilty like I was sneaking in on someone's beau. I'm not a jealous person, and I am conscientious. So I agree it should be kept private who one is emailing/phoning from this site, because it is a dating site. And it would spare feelings, be they hurt, jealousy, or guilt.
You made a great point!



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Posted on Tue, Jun 07, 2005 15:56


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I'll never fully understand the inherent quality of envy that all humans possess.


This is something that varies from individual to individual. I'm sure that even the most calm-natured of us have a little flame that can ignite from time-to-time; it isn't necessarily s*xual. For example, I had a fairly lengthy relationship with a female climber, and she was incredibly jealous and angry if I wanted to go climbing or hillwalking with someone other than her. Even if she was doing something else that weekend, she would not want me walking with someone else.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 06:32

The forum is definitely a helluva lot more fun these days than looking for a "life partner" - much less stressful -lol... IF that happens too then it's just icing on the cake.
Going back to the flirting issue, if I knew that two people were in a relationship or a friend liked someone on here and he was flirting with me, I wouldn't flirt back or I would be very careful how I would respond so as not to hurt her feelings. Some people may be more sensitive to this sort of thing than others.
It also depends what they write and how they would say it. Fun, you were playful and flirty but in a very light-hearted, non-threatening way.. out of consideration for the other person. And that's the right way to do it.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 05:44

Three isn't a crowd for me..the more the merrier. Seriously, I do not get jealous...there are many men and women on here in various parts of the country..certainly enough to go around. Besides, when you are reading and writing on the forums..who has time to talk to men romantically? This is more fun.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 05:32

Bella...it wasnt me honest......I dont think it was ...
....was it?



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 04:58

I have decided this site is used strictly for entertainment and contact with my friends on here. The forums are fun...they take up too much of my time, but it is better than watching TV. If you are truly looking for someone Match . com is the place to do it..not here...well maybe for some but not for me. If I were truly looking for someone on here I think I would clean up my act a little bit but most of my "true friends" on here can accept me for the sicko I am.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 02:33

Bella,
Well, you raised a good point! It's not easy for sure. We are all on this Forum on a regular basis interacting with each other becoming friends among ourselves and engaging in some harmless "flirting" here and there with some of the guys and sooner or later there will be a bit of competition if 2 or more people are interested in the same person.
It's impossible to avoid. I guess we have to take it with a grain of salt and a lot of philosophy - well, especially me cuz I live so darn far away anyway and I'm sure that puts off a lot of males on here - lol! So Bella, consider yourself lucky at least that you live in the USA. OK I know, that doesn't make relocation automatically easier but you can go meet someone pretty much on the spur of the moment, for a weekend, or vice versa without spending a fortune or suffering jet lag or changing a few time zones!
Yes - we should keep certain things to ourselves and respect any confidences someone might make.
Another thing is: if you have met someone and are interested in him/her and have hit it off etc... is it ok to go on "flirting" with others on the forum? Where does one draw the line?
This is merely a hypothetical question as I have not met anyone yet from this site but I imagine it might bother me if I thought we had something going between us and he kept on flirting with others in a blatant or suggestive way.



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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2005 01:51


13Bella13 write:
I think you should keep whats happening between yourself and that person and dont invite a third party in. Someone will get hurt and I want us all to be friends and have fun!



Yea we all know you Bella...you always say whats on your mind lol. Hey though..thats one of the reasons we do like you. I agree to a degree with you. I think that two people who are interested in each other or who are together should keep things semi personal. I also think that if you trust a friend enough to share your most intimate secrets with it makes it more enjoyable as that person can be there for you.

Alot of things are better left between two and it is honestly up to those two to decide whats best for them. Okay, actually way to tired here and probably not making sense so I will check in when I wake up lol



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