Interracial Relationships Interracial Relationship

  • View author's info Author posted on May 26, 2005 16:20


    I am a Caucasian Englishman (is there such a thing?) and have been married three times, the first a caucasian english lady, the second an Iranian beauty and the third an Afro-Caribbean lady from Barbados....

    Three may seem like failure to some, but I look upon them all as valuable life experiences. The time I spent with each woman is a treasured part of my life and I would not change any part of the ups and downs of each relationship...but read on!

    For the risk averse, I would urge caution in dabbling in a mixed race relationship. The cultural differences can very likely take their toll, plus what I term the "inside out" scenario, where the lady feels defensive about introducing somebody "different" to her own family and friends, no matter how keen the man is..

    Does love conquer all? In an ideal world..yes! However, my last two marriages bear testament to the contrary. The Iranian I discovered later in the marriage, had a violent streak which created a "battered husband" scenario and the ultimate Barbadian lady, whom I loved fiercely, appeared to see me as just a meal ticket, and I was too blinded by love to see it...When we had to tighten belts a bit, she jumped ship in prompt fashion..

    I am however, not discouraged in any way and am looking to meet another lady from a different ethnic background from myself..My ex-wife (the Barbadian) summed it up when she uttered to me the immortal words after the first sexual encounter, "Once you've had black, you never go back."

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  • View author's info posted on Apr 16, 2011 19:41


    sounds like you were looking for love in all the wrong places
  • View author's info posted on Feb 10, 2011 00:19


    Try this thread for some insight on culture in dating.

    Do american guys really like chinese girls?
  • View author's info posted on Dec 27, 2010 07:48


    I don't think the problem was dating outside your race. I think the problem is the type of women you are attracted to.  There's likely something similar about the three women you chose to marry.   Instead of blaming marrying outside your race as the problem, you need to take a closer look at yourself and assess why you're attracted to the same kind of women. If you don't figure that out and make a conscious effort to change it, you'll  repeat the same mistake again. You'll choose the wrong women, even if she's from the same race as you.

     

     

     

  • View author's info Photo Verified Certified Millionaire in 2009 posted on Jan 31, 2010 08:14


    im another englishman living in america,my black girlfriends tell me something different,they say when u go white ,u doing it right.what kind of man let a woman whup on him,he describes other races as though they r aliens.id whup his ass too.women will never respect a man who thinks they can use or beat him.where has he been living,not in my world for sure.he should watch the jerry springer show to get some self defense tips,now all the haters can come n hate some more...smiles

  • View author's info posted on Jan 30, 2010 06:25


    Sorry for your failed marriages/relationships .I'm sorry I can't hear those ladies side of the story, but anyway, my advice to you
    Stupot01 is to look at the mirror and ask yourself..what's wrong with me? and maybe you can understand why you had three failed relationships instead of blaming and finding faults. You may end up collecting and discarding...lol
  • View author's info posted on Jan 30, 2010 02:54


    I'm certainly not sure who you have dated but being an African American woman we do have values and are definitely family oriented. For you to say such a thing is absurd.

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 07, 2010 16:37


    I find it vey wonderful and encoraging. I have great respect for anyone who is living outside the box when it comes to find your true love, even if it means marrying outside your culture. We have to get with the program and remember that you are find that person interesting to you and one should not care what others may think. I am not limiting my search for my partner. I am taking advantage of every option availabe for me to find my ture love and you shoul all do the same as wel.

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  • View author's info posted on Nov 20, 2009 07:24


    is that i like all typs of women so i dont see race but were iam from we stand up for that but i have never beeen married i need the right one but
  • View author's info posted on Nov 04, 2009 15:44


    Quoting stupot01:

    I am a Caucasian Englishman (is there such a thing?) and have been married three times, the first a caucasian english lady, the second an Iranian beauty and the third an Afro-Caribbean lady from Barbados....

    Three may seem like failure to some, but I look upon them all as valuable life experiences. The time I spent with each woman is a treasured part of my life and I would not change any part of the ups and downs of each relationship...but read on!

    For the risk averse, I would urge caution in dabbling in a mixed race relationship. The cultural differences can very likely take their toll, plus what I term the "inside out" scenario, where the lady feels defensive about introducing somebody "different" to her own family and friends, no matter how keen the man is..

    Does love conquer all? In an ideal world..yes! However, my last two marriages bear testament to the contrary. The Iranian I discovered later in the marriage, had a violent streak which created a "battered husband" scenario and the ultimate Barbadian lady, whom I loved fiercely, appeared to see me as just a meal ticket, and I was too blinded by love to see it...When we had to tighten belts a bit, she jumped ship in prompt fashion..

    I am however, not discouraged in any way and am looking to meet another lady from a different ethnic background from myself..My ex-wife (the Barbadian) summed it up when she uttered to me the immortal words after the first sexual encounter, "Once you've had black, you never go back."

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    Hey, as long as white guys are cool with playing in the dark, I don't mind playing in the snow...and I've dated many a snowman! LOL

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  • View author's info posted on Jun 06, 2009 10:39


    I have only been married once. I better get busy. :)
  • View author's info posted on May 28, 2009 12:20


    Hmmm, I agree with lovelylotus. I am a white woman born in Zimbabwe and I lived in South Africa for 23 years before moving to the UK. I have had a few inter racial relationships..and it's not about colour or culture, it's definitely about the person's heart and attitude. People are so hung up about race and that's sad. As a white woman in South Africa years ago, it was frowned upon to have a relationship with a black or mixed race man..but I never let it stop me following my heart. I dated two amazing mixed race men, and even an older muslim man for a while. My first husband (yes I have been married twice tut lol) was of mixed race and he physically abused me the whole time we were married, as did my second husband who is white.
  • View author's info posted on Nov 03, 2006 17:37


    Honey,you just chose the wrong people. You will land the lady of your dreams, we still exist you know...kisses Jade

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  • View author's info posted on Aug 03, 2006 11:31


    I dont mean to be a dumb blonde but what the heck is a Troll as in your definition Steve lol ???

    A troll here in the UK is an ugly short beast that partly resembles a human being but with its beast side included that lurks on bridges and wants to eat you lol or it was when i went to school in the books i read.

    Steve your troll pic looks too cute. Do they come as pets?
  • View author's info posted on Aug 02, 2006 17:48


    Hello Healer tnx for reading my opinion here, i hope u too find your abundance..

    May God bless you and more power.

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  • View author's info posted on Aug 02, 2006 14:43


    Hello lovely Phillipino lady. You have a very good mind and attitude! You are correct about race, colour and marriage. Love and not lust is what creates long term success. I hope you find both in abundance! Healer. x
  • View author's info posted on Aug 02, 2006 05:19


    I had a mixed relationship and was due to get married. He didnt tell his mum and sisters about me until our wedding was very close. I left him as his family were so bad and against mixed relationships that as much as I loved him I couldnt tolerate what his family done in their bitter and twisted ways. They had other plans for him and expected him to marry a greek gal & they had no concerns at all in their methods of ensuring the wedding didnt go ahead. Love didnt conquer all in my situation. That was 3 years ago.
  • View author's info posted on Aug 01, 2006 19:22


    i know "aaaaaaaaaa".
  • View author's info posted on Aug 01, 2006 18:50


    races is not the problem in a relationship it's u itself is the problem, if u get married for 3 to 4x then either u is the problem not because girls r black or white or from other races. Me myself as a filipina from philippines alot of americans and europian was married to a filipino woman and most of marriage was successful so i don't think on my opinion races is problem of getting married it is you or her or maybe u start a relationship with only u want is sex not as deep like ur are inlove and attract as Godly not as just physically.

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  • View author's info posted on Jul 10, 2006 10:52


    I totally agree with 1sweetLove. Seems if you have to talk about the hue of someone's skin you have already not looked beyond it. Why is their an need to label someone by the color or lack of color of someone's skin.

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