I saw a lot of topics here based on the physical (don't get me wrong that is very important) but what ever happened to verbal intimacy? Doesn't anyone long for the deep relationships where you can talk to someone for hours that seem like minutes?
It doesn't always have to be intense, deep conversation either. How about a soft whisper in the ear, a poem read by candle light, a song sung on a long drive.......If you combine this (and more) with a strong physical passion you'll experience a deeper connection. Curious what others think of this topic?
Bonnie, speaking of the Live8 concerts, one is being held here in Canada in Barrie, Ontario (the other locations are London, Paris, Berlin, Rome, Philadelphia, Johannesburg and Moscow - and Barrie was chosen as Canadas' location? Go figure!) Oh well, it's close to Toronto and has a huge park to showcase it in. I don't plan on attending. I went to the Molson Canadian Rocks for Toronto (aka SARSStock, SARSfest and SARS-a-palooza) in 2003 - what a zoo! Although the music was great, sitting in the roasting sun for 12 hours with app. 1/2 million other people there and very little water (was not allowed to bring in own) was not. Very tiring experience. .. To anyone attending Live8, good luck, be safe and have fun!
My kids went to Barrie, Toronto for the Warped Tour Concert a few years ago..Live8 had 250000 participants in Hyde Park , a few miles from where I live..my American visiting teenagers who came in on Saturday , took an hour to get into a taxi to get to me..thank goodness it was a dry day..the Glastonbury concert last week (a pre-event to Live8) was rained our and the tents that some of the audiences pitched up were flooded and floated away, in the end it was more like a mud-wrestling site than a concert site...glad my kids did not go or I will insist they hose themselves down before they come into the house..lol
katiegrl write: Some of my best conversations with men have been over a bottle of wine in a dimly lit restaurant as an hour turns to four or five and we laugh and realize we're hungry again and order dinner to talk until closing time. First dates like that are wonderful and I find men enjoy it as much as I do, meaning, they aren't just yapping until we give in and let them come home with us. It's mutually stimulating.
It also gives me a chance to tell him what I do for a living and see how he reacts. It's an unfortunate thing but many people are intimidated by art and writing so have no interest in it. Others aren't intimidated ... they just don't care about either creative activity.... period.
But it's what I do, and my Ex used to have a mild interest in it as tho it were my hobby or something. He never asked me about it, never helped me with my shows, never gave me his opinion beyond, "Yeah .... that's nice." I felt I was all alone even when we were together.
I don't expect the man I'm looking for to start sketching in charcoal and study art history and Rubens and Picasso to show me he cares, but no guy I've ever dated has really given a care about my work. The man who wins my heart will be a guy who wants to, and to do that he has to be able to analyse what is important to me and care enough to support me in it. He can be assured, I'll be doing the exact same for him.
Couple years ago I met an artist. We went for a walk in the mountains and then she showed me her art. She wasn't trained, but did very intricate collages made from photos cut out of magazines. I showed her how her compositional elements tied things together, explained the S-curve and how some repositioniong might make a couple of pieces a little more effective. Kinda blew her mind, then she returned the favor. Now I know the full story. Thanks, Katie for shedding some light, and Champagne, just up the road from me, for a geeat th...
Most men are visual. I have to say I am a very auditory person in many ways. Communication before sex, during sex and after sex is critical. I have been with men before that don't talk much at all and I am very uncomfortable and bored. Communication in general is important for any relationship.
I have to say I totally agree. I become very uncomfortable, and it's a big turn-off for me, with a guy who is very quiet most of the time during a love making session. I need to have the feed back of a guy communicating with me through his words and moans. Verbal intimacy is like a caress, a kiss, a hug, just made with words. And combined with a caress, a kiss, a hug, it can be such a personal turn on.
Same with a relationship. I just can't be with a guy who can't communicate. It is like pulling teeth when trying to have a decent conversation.
OooooOH Ms Bonnie, you can't be deprived of verbal intimacy, are you? ROFL.
NO , I certainly don't need noise this moment, house full of raging teenagers from all corners of the world descending on me , just because London is a happening 'in' place ..Live Aid rock concert will drive this city nuts...
Min..this forum is less exciting without some of your LUx sparkle..where are u now?
OK let's start the nomination titles:
1) most sexy
2) most funny
3) most considerate
5) most original
feel free to add more titles for nomination, did I miss any?
luckysolucky write: Yes, CP I agree, the most satisfing relationship that I ever had was with a man involved this type of intimacy, which leads to a deeper connection, which facilitates trust, which decreases inhibitions, thus allowing our merging into one become uhhhhh mind blowing.....
Wow, I almost forgot this topic was out there. Thanks for digging it up lucky. You're right, it's that deeper connection that makes the relationship great. Thanks for your input ;-)
Bonnie....no cloning aloud. I have enough competition here as it is
Yes, CP I agree, the most satisfing relationship that I ever had was with a man involved this type of intimacy,
which leads to a deeper connection,
which facilitates trust, which decreases inhibitions, thus allowing our merging into one become uhhhhh mind blowing.....
Can you understand what is needed?
Can you understand what is wanted?
Can you understand what the feeling is?
The love, inside the sole, wants to be free
Are you the key?
Can you understand?
Something happened to change like the tides of the ocean.
It's churning and crashing against the shore.
The sky is Grey and unsettling.
One beacon of light shines through with the ray of hope.
That the storm might settle.
That the cries of uncertainty, calm into the tranquility of scene.
Can you understand?
Can one awake from a dream that has become strained? Can one go back and start the dream over? One hopes so. Not to change the characters but the scene or dialog. The sole wants a part to feel whole.
Can you understand?
The love, inside the sole, just wants to be free to love.
Are you the key?
Bonnie88 write: Champayne, I bet you sing a wonderful lullaby too..softly and so so tenderly..any baby would go into deep slumber..lol But sometimes after all the long long heart-rendering conversation and whispers...deep meaningful silence is also very very seductive . I often feel that when you understand the one you love , you will both feel a sort of telepathic understanding of the mood..when a couple are comfortable in silence..they are onto something quite inexplicably enchanting too..just touching each other watching the sunset together, needs no words to describe the magnificence and beauty, whether in warm embrace or just touching the fingers could send tactile and exciting messages..when you are thoroughly engrossed with each other..TOUCH is another form of loving tender communication..all babies instinctively feel it ..our first sense of communication...
Bonnie - I love what you wrote! Couldn't have said it better.
My ears were pierced when I was 6, Chinese tradition , so that our husbands could buy us expensive jewelry..very materialistic...lol
Tattoos in different culture means diferent things, in Japan it is the Yakuzas or gangsters world that popularise it , so we often frown on it..prejudice I guess. My kids are threatening to get one..body piercing , the fad now with the young is a way of rebelling..
Well,I just feel that ear piercing is probably symbolical of the effeminisation of the male ...the artistic streak of self-adornment surfaces..a sort of active narcissisticism..surfacing..lol my son adores his ear piercings..to the chagrin of his house master..
so yours mark a turning point in your romantic life...must be painful...
lend me your pierced ears..hear, hear the voice of reason and romance..lol just trying to get back to the thread...
For me it was a symbol of change. I wanted to do it for a long time and had just ended a four year relationship so I went out and got them. At first I think some of the conservative people I know were 'shocked' but after a while most said it looked good and I honestly didn't care because I like them! So, not really macho just something I wanted to do. A lot of tatoos are the same way. I don't think they are really used as a symbol of being macho but more so as a personal symbol to the person who gets one. If you ever ask someone about their tattoo they usually have a very interesting story and motivation behind why they got it (for the most part). I am guessing it has something to do with age too. I mean I just got mine when I was 29 and my motivation was probably totally different than someone who is still a teenager!
Are your ears pierced? Did you do it because society says most women get their ears pierced at a young age or was there some other motivation?