Oh Minerva, YOu are kind and sweet..I don't think I entice them at all, in fact I antagonise them more like it..lol ..suspect they all like bossy women ..well, a couple of them are more interested in me from a business point of view, so we talk business and of course free legal/business advice is always a good freebie for these business types , so we share alot of info that way an also learn to trust each other when we realise we talk the same lingo..one guy wanted to find out about the lawyers he engaged in his case, another wanted to know rental prices of prime London property, another wants to know what area of business is good in shanghai and Asia.....looks like I am running a sort of business info center more like it...lol..maybe should start charging my professional fees..
I found in the end I get more business info from all these profesional guys, from real estate esp over the breadth and length of US... NY stock market to Palo Alto Venture capital deals..now that is valuable information I gather for a matchmaking site...lol..and I have met several multi-millionaires from this site..so Domino , where have you been looking, they are all here..!
For some strange reason I get a lot of guys , ( even lost count of the number of guys )who want to meet me here in London ..guess it is a convenient work and pleasure center as well... and I am not even a paid member nor have I posted my pic in my profile..
I did meet one and we have remain very good friends and he visits whenever he is here for business. I think there are lots of genuine guys around , it is just sussing out the real from the fake..and chemistry is almost a natural instinct I find..
I had great success once, inviting a guy from the coast to come to Ottawa to visit me. We hit it off really well. I made the reservations for his hotel and at restaurants I thought he might enjoy. I showed him a bit of our lovely city. It was no-stress and delightful!
Yep. Mel has the key.
Follow your heart but use your brain. said in another way:
Love with your heart but think with your brain.
My opinio is meeting half the way where both can explore new things,places, memories, etc.
I've never actually done that, but have talked to friends that have, and I think having them come to you is best....as a woman, you have to be safe, so being on your home turf, where you have someone to call or somewhere to go if things go sour is a good idea. If I ever do anything like that, that's how it's going to be if he wants to meet me. Just my 2 cents.
Does anyone really do this..? Fly to another state to meet their cyber-love?
I have only met a few men on cyber-sites and...even after getting to know them on-line...I found that meeting them was sometimes altogether different...and so very disappointing after being so hopeful and excited...and it's not always appearance-wise but sometimes being completly incombatable personality-wise.....or lacking that oh so important chemistry...then what after that..? how do you continue to explore these factors?...it makes it rather hard to meet for that casual cocktail, doesn't it? Doesn't the difficulty just drain all the juice out of a budding possibility?
Does this really work for some? I would love to hear the positive feedback...
I've found meeting in a neutral setting is best. You can both relax and spend time getting to know each other and going out to explore new places and create your own memories. When one of you is on their own turf, there are outside influences, interruptions and you tend to be less relaxed and more territorial.
Besides, if it's a first meet and it doesn't work out you don't have to fear that they know where you live. Safety first !
Mel, money is not a problem,. what I am thinking is when two people are out of thier natural atmosphere they might react more positive to each other. Being that the weights are equal on both sides of the scale. Playing in someones elses home court is much different than meeting half-way so to speak.