Oh Minerva, YOu are kind and sweet..I don't think I entice them at all, in fact I antagonise them more like it..lol ..suspect they all like bossy women ..well, a couple of them are more interested in me from a business point of view, so we talk business and of course free legal/business advice is always a good freebie for these business types , so we share alot of info that way an also learn to trust each other when we realise we talk the same lingo..one guy wanted to find out about the lawyers he engaged in his case, another wanted to know rental prices of prime London property, another wants to know what area of business is good in shanghai and Asia.....looks like I am running a sort of business info center more like it...lol..maybe should start charging my professional fees..
I found in the end I get more business info from all these profesional guys, from real estate esp over the breadth and length of US... NY stock market to Palo Alto Venture capital deals..now that is valuable information I gather for a matchmaking site...lol..and I have met several multi-millionaires from this site..so Domino , where have you been looking, they are all here..!
I can understand London I guess. Just about every businessman flies in and out of London!
Bonnie - you entice these nice, intelligent men with your wit, charm and intellect. Afterwards, the looks are the cherry on the icing.
For some strange reason I get a lot of guys , ( even lost count of the number of guys )who want to meet me here in London ..guess it is a convenient work and pleasure center as well... and I am not even a paid member nor have I posted my pic in my profile..
I did meet one and we have remain very good friends and he visits whenever he is here for business. I think there are lots of genuine guys around , it is just sussing out the real from the fake..and chemistry is almost a natural instinct I find..
wellab613 write: Minerva -- how could one not have a great time in Paris!!!! Love that city. Would go there several times a year for many, many years but have not been able to get back since I retired in 2000 so I'm long overdue.
oh but Wellababe! I had a GREAT time in Paris - even without my red-haired pal... sorry Domino.... :-( lol...
I used to spend almost every Christmas and Easter there with my parents a long time ago... but been there on my own too a few times. I have only wonderful memories... But never been there with Domino!! I'm sure that would be an unforgettable experience! (Every experience with Dom is unforgettable..!)
Minerva -- how could one not have a great time in Paris!!!! Love that city. Would go there several times a year for many, many years but have not been able to get back since I retired in 2000 so I'm long overdue.
Domino--Bobby is a Cajun. They speak a mixture of English, French, and their own slang, and many of them only speak "Cajun" so some cannot speak fluently in either English or French. The only part of the world you will find their language is in Louisiana in the Bayous. I think you would have to go there and experience it to understand. As a result what he is typing is somewhat difficult to understand at times and his sense of humor may not come off as well as he intends.
I once travelled to Paris to meet with someone several years ago. I went by train. Stayed at his place - he had the guest room ready and was a real gentleman the whole time. In the beginning I could sense that he fancied me but I didn't and so he didn't pursue the matter but we ended up having a great time together. He was attractive but just not for me - not my type, no chemistry! There was one strange thing though: he had pictures of his ex-girlfriend all over his apartment and she had just been to visit him a few months before for 3 weeks all the way from Canada... hmmm.... makes one think. He was still hung up on her obviously. Wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway.
Another time, I flew across the ocean and across part of the States to meet someone! Very nice, handsome guy - just like his pics - and we got along very well but.... it just didn't click the way it should have from his side so nothing happened! We were like good buddies. I fancied him but it takes two to tango....
For some reason I have always felt more comfortable travelling myself to meet someone. I know I probably took a chance when I accepted being a guest at these two men's homes but my gut instinct told me it was OK and I was right. They both turned out to be very nice and polite etc... and made sure I felt comfortable and was having a good time. I must admit I never get too paranoid about the safety issue but having read HM's story... wow, that's a bit freaky alright!
I think the ideal thing would be to meet someone halfway - that way you are both on neutral territory.
But I live so friggin' far away if I want to meet someone in the US and we say we meet halfway - that's somewhere over the Atlantic ocean.... hahahaha
I have a little experience in this department. I have had two men fly to meet me here. Especially since I have kids, I just feel safer on my own turf meeting someone for the first time. Albeit, we have been talking/chatting at least a good amount before I invite, but you still never KNOW for sure. At least on my turf, I can drive myself to meet them, at a place I am familiar with and am still close to home if I want to not see him again.
I'll tell you a story, this one guy from S. Carolina I met on Match. Not one of the two mentioned above. They were great! :-) I didn't invite him here, he was here on business anyway, but wanted to meet for a drink. We had been chatting via email for a few weeks. I met him, half hour tops, he seemed nice enough. Called me later and wanted to go out the next night, I said OK, but it's pending a babysitter being available. He was cool with that. Well, throughout that day he was emailing me about the evening from his blackberry thing while supposedly golfing with clients. He kept saying things like, Yeah you can come sit in the jacuzzi with me at my hotel after we go out. (It was in his room BTW) Then he got worse, saying I didn't need to bring a suit either, I declined and he kept pestering and getting graphic about the jacuzzi. I finally decided I am not meeting him and said I couldn't find a babysitter. He seemed sympathetic and understanding about it. He called me back and started pushing me to let him come to my house instead, with his co-worker since I can't 'go out'. He wanted me to invite a friend for his collegue.
Con't from above.....
Again, I said NO. I explained that my kids are here and I don't invite strangers to my house, that this is their safe haven. He wouldn't stop! He then tells me that his co-worker said he would babysit my kids so I could go out with him. Mind you, I don't even know this guy! He justified it by telling me he was a good guy with kids of his own. Now I was getting ticked...and really scared that he wouldn't just let it go. I rec'd probably 15 more phone calls, until I finally ignored them and he started emailing me to apologize and still be my 'friend'.
He seemed like a GREAT guy while getting to know him via email. But he turned out to be like a weird stalker or something. He finally stopped emailing me after a couple weeks of ignoring him. He also left Denver without my seeing him again. That's why I don't meet men on their turf until I really KNOW them. It's safer, period!!
I had great success once, inviting a guy from the coast to come to Ottawa to visit me. We hit it off really well. I made the reservations for his hotel and at restaurants I thought he might enjoy. I showed him a bit of our lovely city. It was no-stress and delightful!