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Posted on Fri, Aug 14, 2009 19:00

I agree with you Larry.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 14, 2009 18:59

I do think that men most of the time wants to finish in bed. But that also depends on the woman they are dealing with. Some peple feel very attractive to each other and both decide the final ending.

I agree with Larrye2001. It is true that men who are not interested in a woman relationship, and are looking only for sex, that is what they will get if the woman allows it.

If you are an intelligent woman you will know how to handle each situation. If the man you are with does not respect your way or your decision, then that man is not meant for you. A man who wants to have a serious relation will have to wait till the right time. If he is impatient, that is his problem. As a woman, you have to put the limits if you want to have a life-time relationship.

I belive that everything takes time. You do not conquer the world in one day. You have not become the woman or the man you are today in one day. It took you several years to improve and achieve your goals. Why then, men cannot wait for the right time. For me sex is as important as Love. But I will not give myself to the first man I meet nor to the wrong person. Respect here is a very important issue. If the man you are dating does not respect your feelings, why continue the relationship? It is better to be alone, than with someone who is not willing to accept you, respect you and love you.
And as the book says, women are from Venus and men are from Mars, but I also belive there are still out there gentlemen who agree with me. You may call me an out of fashion, but I rather be out of fashion than complicate my life for nothing.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 24, 2009 22:52

I personally have been on first dates where the chemistry was just so right that we ended the night in bed. It is (in my opinon,at least ) an almost visceral attraction, that has nothing to do with loniless, it is pure out and out lust, and if it is at that level, it's kind of hard to ignore or not act on.


"the problem with doing nothing is that of never knowing when you are finished"

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Posted on Mon, Jun 30, 2008 12:59

I personally believe that if a man is going to learn and respect you, then he should be patient and let it happen when it does. No use in trying to rush and jump straight into bed, there has to me mutual respect between each.



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Posted on Sun, Oct 21, 2007 10:28

If a man and woman together on a first date decide mutually to become sexually intimate, and subsequently the man believes the woman is 'easy' for having done so, could the same not be said for the man as well?



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Posted on Thu, Feb 08, 2007 09:37

drop it guys....You're out on the run



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Posted on Tue, Dec 20, 2005 23:50

Maybe the thinking is: if you do it on the first date with him you did it on the first date with the last guy and the next guy......... Another theory's is: men can lose their desire to learn about a woman after they do IT the first time.



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Posted on Sat, Dec 10, 2005 14:16

"puting out on the first date" nope. I like the self respectt i have for myself in the morning. If he is sincere he won't even go on that path. HE will have respect for the lady. To many men think that since they have shelled out for a nice dinner and a few drinks the woman owes them a romp in the hay........

Even if there is heaps of chemistry, the wise thing to do is just wait and see if he calls you again. Slow and steady always wins the race.



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Posted on Sat, Dec 03, 2005 07:59

Sailingal write:
OH MY! Here's my thoughts from "The Show Me State" (Missouri gal) on this. Hanging head in shame, for it has never been known, but I "put out" on my first date .... and our marriage lasted 42 years! Interestingly enough, when our daughter was in college , and came home announcing, "DAD, MOM! We need to talk!" She was very serious with her theory of why she and her boyfriend should live together at college; they studied, cooked, did laundry together, so they could save money by living together. Her Dad and I tried to keep a straight face but I had to finally laugh, blurting out, "Gee, wish WE could have had THAT option!" So we allowed them to, with the rule that when they came home on weekends they would NOT sleep together under our roof! (And by the way, they have been happily married for 18 years strong!)

I say, it ALL depends on the most powerful chemistry ever-- the hot sparks, the magtism. NOT just being lonely and doing it for a good time. Make sense? I DO believe in love at first sight!
OH MY! Here's my thoughts from "The Show Me State" (Missouri gal) on this. Hanging head in shame, for it has never been known, but I "put out" on my first date .... and our marriage lasted 42 years! Interestingly enough, when our daughter was in college , and came home announcing, "DAD, MOM! We need to talk!" She was very serious with her theory of why she and her boyfriend should live together at college; they studied, cooked, did laundry together, so they could save money by living together. Her Dad and I tried to keep a straight face but I had to finally laugh, blurting out, "Gee, wish WE could have had THAT option!" So we allowed them to, with the rule that when they came home on weekends they would NOT sleep together under our roof! (And by the way, they have been happily married for 18 years strong!)

I say, it ALL depends on the most powerful chemistry ever-- the hot sparks, the magtism. NOT just being lonely and doing it for a good time. Make sense? I DO believe in love at first sight!


Nice to see such open, loving and respectful communication in a family unit. That was pretty much the same in my house growing up too. Oddly, I don't think myEX and I ever did it under my parents roof even after we were married. :o)



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Posted on Sat, Dec 03, 2005 01:30

The Pope cut my lawn once....



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Posted on Wed, Nov 30, 2005 22:08

I am not sure you can put any sweeping generalization on the subject.

Plus the whole termanology is not as cut and dried as it once was.

I'll say that if "putting out" equates to casual sexual intercourse, the chances of getting a phone call the next day is roughly equivalent to waking up and seeing the Pope cutting your front lawn.



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Posted on Fri, Nov 11, 2005 12:57

Jessigirl1963 write:
Hmm honestly in my wild days I have put out on the first date and I found that most of the men didn't have as much respect for me as they did for ones that didn't.So, I would say speaking from my personal experience the respect isn't really there but, I could have just been with the wrong kind of guys as well so, thats a tough one.


I am very open with my sexuality, and if the chemistry is there, I have shared that with women on the first date. My experience that many times, especially if alcohol is involved, women don't respect themselves in the morning and tend to fade into the woodwork...

This is very disappointing because although it might have been a bit too soon in the relationship, I wouldn't have done it in the first place if I wasn't going to want to do it again, and again, and again... Some of us might jump in quickly but that should not be construed as lightly...



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Posted on Thu, Oct 27, 2005 19:55

OH MY! Here's my thoughts from "The Show Me State" (Missouri gal) on this. Hanging head in shame, for it has never been known, but I "put out" on my first date .... and our marriage lasted 42 years! Interestingly enough, when our daughter was in college , and came home announcing, "DAD, MOM! We need to talk!" She was very serious with her theory of why she and her boyfriend should live together at college; they studied, cooked, did laundry together, so they could save money by living together. Her Dad and I tried to keep a straight face but I had to finally laugh, blurting out, "Gee, wish WE could have had THAT option!" So we allowed them to, with the rule that when they came home on weekends they would NOT sleep together under our roof! (And by the way, they have been happily married for 18 years strong!)

I say, it ALL depends on the most powerful chemistry ever-- the hot sparks, the magtism. NOT just being lonely and doing it for a good time. Make sense? I DO believe in love at first sight!
OH MY! Here's my thoughts from "The Show Me State" (Missouri gal) on this. Hanging head in shame, for it has never been known, but I "put out" on my first date .... and our marriage lasted 42 years! Interestingly enough, when our daughter was in college , and came home announcing, "DAD, MOM! We need to talk!" She was very serious with her theory of why she and her boyfriend should live together at college; they studied, cooked, did laundry together, so they could save money by living together. Her Dad and I tried to keep a straight face but I had to finally laugh, blurting out, "Gee, wish WE could have had THAT option!" So we allowed them to, with the rule that when they came home on weekends they would NOT sleep together under our roof! (And by the way, they have been happily married for 18 years strong!)

I say, it ALL depends on the most powerful chemistry ever-- the hot sparks, the magtism. NOT just being lonely and doing it for a good time. Make sense? I DO believe in love at first sight!

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Posted on Fri, Jun 10, 2005 01:23

i put out on the first date with my last date but that was mutual and felt right all depends on the couple if it is really love or just someone thats just after one thing. and i personally think woman are not easy it could be something very special like what i lost.



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Posted on Mon, May 09, 2005 09:45

Don't think it is that strange..thru the centuries , all women's ambition was to 'marry up' and this is just a metamorphosis of the same thing..except their intentions and their style of operation are now more overt..and agressive..
at 13 for e.g . some socially ambitious mum called to invite my son to the Spring ball organised by her daughters' friends...so I had to rush around to find him dinner jacket/bow tie etc..and this mum whom I don't even know insisted that these 7 boys had to go over to her house for dinner first with 7 girls before the ball!! ...and after the ball, 3 boys came home to us at midnight and 5 minutes later , a husky voiced girl called to speak to my son...is this fast work or what?? Cinderella has not even got off the PUmpkin carriage and already on the mobile phone??

Of course these boys at 13 were averaging 6ft 3ins tall dashing, blue- eyed blonde with brains..and come from established families..so that is the complete Prince Charming deal..and some are real life Princes too...lol

NOt strange just another part of the world..an exclusive one perhaps but yet not different from the rest of the world..Im just an amused mum spectator ..worried that my poor son will be trapped sooner than he realise..



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Posted on Mon, May 09, 2005 08:43

"so mums thru the centuries eye them for their daughters"

It's a strange, strange world you live it.
I think that was a song.

lol

wwwww



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Posted on Mon, May 09, 2005 00:48

Oh no not if you come from my son's elite college, they have been historically classed as the most eligible for 7 centuries dating back to King Henry IV who started it..so mums thru the centuries eye them for their daughters and they are the most popular candidates for Debutante Balls every Spring, castle shoots ..and barn dances in the country...lol ..it is like modern day Vanity FAir ala Jane Austen or Oscar Wilde...lol



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Posted on Sun, May 08, 2005 20:32

"it is the boys that are being relentlessly chased by the girls"

I have seen this happen with friends sons when the girls are 13-14, maybe 15. It seems to quit after the girls get a little older, and usually it's the guys who have to do the chasing then. Guess the girls are just a little more "advanced" at a little earlier age.

wwwww



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Posted on Sun, May 08, 2005 11:14

Sorry I was thinking of the silly boys at my son's school who let themselves get led down the slippery slope..recently a boy in my son's year,(some politician's son) got into headlines at 16 for dating a well known American model in London who is in her 30s and apparently she claimed she did not realise that he was under age for the club they were in..so he is the much admired stud at school now...so whether the model was 'puting out' for him is anyone's guess..but she sure got the publicity she wanted...lol



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Posted on Sun, May 08, 2005 00:51


Cub39 write:
Hmmmm. Is this every guy's dream? That women are scheming to put out for them?
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I m not so sure about that if it also means the shackles of marriage is close by, a sort of trap they set for wild animals too stupid to realise the painful consequences...



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