is it truely impossible for people to be happy with what they already have as opposed to always expecting and demanding more...
It amazes me that people often do not give their partner enough time to show their true colours... they are simply judged against a personal 'wish list' and if they do not have what you want they are ditched...
Maybe if given the time of day they themselves would manage to prove that not only do they tick every box on your 'wish list', they also happen to possess characteristics which you did not think to wish for before.
This can be what happens, you want something you never had before and when you get it a new set of conditions exist that you have never experienced before, you may not know what to do.
WINNING THE GRAND LOTTERY money is a perfect example. Studies prove the majority of the major prize winners are broke and in debt within 5 years. Wanting is great, having is better,keeping can be a life changing experience that is a road few want to travel once they get there. Not many are like Bill Gates that had the right product at the right time, even he can squeeze a penny's.
i think people need to be more real.it is simple,you have to find one that you can work with.in every relationship there is do's and don'ts.you have to give and take.lifes not always a party ,right now option. finding one that you become a team ,working towards the same goal.in good or bad.a marrage isn't always feel good ,you have to love youreselve before anyone else can.you are responceable for youre owen happyness,no one can make you truely happy till youre happy with youreselve. just my thoughts
Before I met my late husband, I had 5 main requirements:
4.not a philanderer
I got 3 out of 2 but we had 20 years of a good marriage..and it was smoking that killed him.
Marriage is like buying a home too, list out all the conditions and then decide how much you are willing to compromise and of course that strange 'love is blind' potion could well make you give up all of those expectations and it may just work or NOT at all..so the truth is expect the unexpected and be prepared to be surprised..that is the journey in life..
Well, haven't you noticed how every time you end a relationship you add/edit your "list" of what you want? Therefore, it becomes a moving target. I think the whole idea of finding "what you want" is a falicy. You're setting yourself up! The problem arises from the first meeting, when you start to compare this new person to your "list". They don't stand a chance. They may keep you interested as they compare well for a while, but then you discover they have some "extras", and you edit the list to either include or exclude these things. I would be totally amazed if I could find a women who could meet my "total list"! So, I have decided to surrender the list, except for a few basics. Then, I can allow myself to enjoy people for who/what they are and appreciate them from an open mind.....sans list! I understand that I have nowhere near enough "data" to make a legitimate list, nor could I ever. So, to be happy, don't try and get what you want on your list (I allow room for 3-4 basics) but instead, want what you get! And,
BECOME your list of what YOU want to be! That's the only thing we truly have any control/power to affect. So, in other words, don't look outside so much, it's like chasing the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.....look inward and you can create the happiness and satisfaction you desire. That's my 2-cents....and if it strikes a resonant cord for you....look me up!