Long Distance Relationships - your thoughts requested... Friendship Forward to friends

  • View author's info Author Posted on Mar 25, 2005 at 05:02 PM


    A dilemna - when you believe chemistry exists with someone thousands of miles away (obviously based on words, feelings, thoughts, and pictures shared) and there does not appear to be any short-term hope that either person could move close to the other...would you continue to pursue a relationship which may always be unrealistic in terms of being together, or stop pursuing altogether? I'd appreciate your thoughtful and sincere answers.
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  • View author's info Posted on Jul 13, 2009 at 06:24 PM


    Quoting Peasantprince:

    A dilemna - when you believe chemistry exists with someone thousands of miles away (obviously based on words, feelings, thoughts, and pictures shared) and there does not appear to be any short-term hope that either person could move close to the other...would you continue to pursue a relationship which may always be unrealistic in terms of being together, or stop pursuing altogether? I'd appreciate your thoughtful and sincere answers.



    Hello I beleive if its meant to be by Gods hands then you ll be with that person.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 29, 2009 at 08:17 PM


    you saw each other exclusively?
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 16, 2008 at 02:18 AM


    Its a very difficult one that. I am in a very similar situation. I am hoping that time will sort it out one way or another. I am not afraid, of the distance, I am more afraid of the two possible outcomes. One is that when we meet and we ARE going to ,If it works What do we do then? It brings to mind the eternal LDR connundrum. Who relocates? Obviously, a lot of water has to flow under the bridge first but its as well to keep an eye on the end game. The alternative is that it becomes too much of a strain and it all ends in tears. Very difficult all round. One thing I know is this. We none of us know whats roung the corner. I wont pass by the chance for love no matter how far away they are Let the chips fall where they may.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 09, 2008 at 11:40 PM


    I think when two people are in a long distance relationship it can be healthier and more loving. When you have total access to a person physically all the time it can prohibit you from getting to know that person mentally. Getting into a persons mind instead of their bed can create incredible intimacy.If you find your soul mate for sure I believe you will come together eventually. Even if it takes 20 years it is worth the wait.We are all on here seeking a connection that we don't have. Maybe emailing (the new letter writing) is the way to connect to your beautiful soul mate out here in cyber space. When you are connected to the right person you are never lonely that person is always with you.Or I am just hoping that is the way it will be

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  • View author's info Posted on Dec 29, 2007 at 06:30 AM


    I might keep it as a special friendship without demandings just enjoying each others company . there are important messages that people should get .
    who knows it could turn into something deeper .
  • View author's info Posted on May 15, 2006 at 02:42 PM


    I might carry on some sort of a pen-pal relationship with someone out-of-state, but that's probably as far as it could ever go. I've tried it before, and besides the obvious obstacle of the distance itself and lack of any time spent with them, is how deception-friendly such an arrangement is. The guy turned out to be already living with another woman, but agreed to go find an apartment with me without telling either of us about the other person. Last person I dated lived ACROSS THE STREET from me, and even though we aren't still together, it was much nicer as far as nobody hiding anything important from the other, and being able to spend time with one another pretty much whenever we wanted to.
  • View author's info Posted on May 07, 2006 at 08:23 PM


    I've been in several LDRs and some work and some don't. I ended up marrying a guy that I met from online. We were married for 4 years, but it was the worst relationship I've been a part of. I think the more you make time to see each other, the more successful the relationship might be.
    I am currently in a LDR that has been going on for 3 years now. It's been a struggle, but we've managed to keep it together. Will this one last? Who knows.
    LDRs can be emotionally draining and you often question yourself if the time spent waiting on this person is/was well worth it. There are just so many men and women who promise you the world and can't even promise you the shirt off their back. So I think the wise thing to do is be cautious of who you get involved with long distance.
    Lots of people lie about who they are and whether or not they are married and have children. That's the last thing I want is to be caught up in a love triangle, especially one that involves children.
  • View author's info Posted on May 07, 2006 at 02:06 AM


    So many words could expressed my feelings for you, but these few words say it best i care for you,
    hillary

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  • View author's info Posted on May 03, 2006 at 03:53 PM


    Peasantprince write:
    A dilemna - when you believe chemistry exists with someone thousands of miles away (obviously based on words, feelings, thoughts, and pictures shared) and there does not appear to be any short-term hope that either person could move close to the other...would you continue to pursue a relationship which may always be unrealistic in terms of being together, or stop pursuing altogether? I'd appreciate your thoughtful and sincere answers.


    If there is no possibility of ever moving together, what is to stop you from just maintaining a wonderful friendship with that person. Maybe one day you'd meet, but if by then you are both in another relationship, you will always just remain the best of friends. It's not impossible with opposite genders you know! :-)
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 21, 2006 at 08:27 AM


    i think anytime you can give and receive love that space and time are of no consequence. Love is all we really have at the end of our day/lives. you can always find me at flyingheart2 at the major mail dudes. cya.. talk soon
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 22, 2006 at 10:28 AM


    LDR can be compared to the pen-pals I had in latency years.
    I preffer to have my man with in 45 min. distance from my house-
    LDR=Not for a serious relationship I couldn't do it-
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 18, 2006 at 10:34 AM


    Met a man named Pocono Slim,
    went all the way to Philly,
    to reel him in,
    Got to California,
    and things went sour,
    took a year to undo,
    what started in an hour.
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 02, 2006 at 04:02 AM


    owhitfield_77429 write:
    I have factual data about long distance relationships. I reside in TX, and I met a great guy in Idaho. we called, and web cammed each other to death, and even flew once a month. He decided to move down here, and then it fell apart. This was a great guy, but because he was hurt in the past, he had a jealousy and trust issue. I would have gladly married him, but I can't deal with such situations. To answer your question, sure, anything is possible if BOTH persons WANT it to happen, it cannot be one sided. Love is a wonderful pain.


    I to can say I have experienced the LD from ladies I met on MM. Before you go into the relationship you must honestly determine and DISCUSS if you would be willing to move. This was one of the issues that could not be overcome.

    Would I do it again yes.

    .
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 20, 2006 at 07:19 AM


    Long Distance does not work unless one or both are willing to compromise to come together.

    Plus, if either person loved each other as much as they claim then they would make it happen and none of the stuff like 'Im not ready to move' and yada yada would enter your mind, so if the relationship was all you claim it to be then you both would be together with no 'Ands, If's or But's"

    And if you continue such long distance relationship then you may be neglecting yourself from seeing a good opportunity right in your own backyard.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 19, 2006 at 09:35 AM


    I have met and had long term relationships over the past few years. They are great but there is nothing better then having that person close by. Someone you can talk to snuggle up with on a long cold night. Even though they have not worked out so far I would do it all over again. I have met a couple whom I am very good friends with. So how can it be bad? I am a very lucky woman to have added more friends to my life.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 17, 2006 at 09:32 PM


    I have factual data about long distance relationships. I reside in TX, and I met a great guy in Idaho. we called, and web cammed each other to death, and even flew once a month. He decided to move down here, and then it fell apart. This was a great guy, but because he was hurt in the past, he had a jealousy and trust issue. I would have gladly married him, but I can't deal with such situations. To answer your question, sure, anything is possible if BOTH persons WANT it to happen, it cannot be one sided. Love is a wonderful pain.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 18, 2005 at 05:08 PM


    Well from my expierence I love a long distance relationship because when I do spend time with that person, I HAVE A WORLD WIND ROMANCE!! I love that I'm always excited to see that person. I guess on what you enjoy and what you want out of a relationship.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 14, 2005 at 01:20 AM


    Hello,
    Just to let you know that I just joined today and found your picture of you and your kids very beautiful. I read your question and all the answers that everyone had to say. I can tell you that I would say that long-distance has in goods and bads. I currently reside in Chandler, AZ. If you are interested...email me. I winked!

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  • View author's info Posted on Dec 12, 2005 at 07:47 PM


    I say definitely continue it (if you know the person is real). Long-distance relationships can be an advantage in the beginning...an incubator for a more pure meeting of the minds until the day when you can meet. Society puts way too much emphasis on physicality. Think of in past generations during wars when couples would correspond for years waiting for each other! Amazing.
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