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  • View author's info Posted on Dec 21, 2008 at 02:24 PM

    No, I am not really divorced and I do not believe that if I divorced my husband after he physically and emotionally and I gave him time to get help and seperated from him. I just don't believe that my God, the God who loves me would call me to stay in some marriage like that. Jesus came to forgive, set the captives free and fulfill the law. If you have received Christ as your savior then you are no longer bound by law but grace and faith. Grace saved my life and faith is bringing me out so that I can be free. I will be divorced without condemnation from anyone. I appreciate those who understand the spirit of the Word and not only the Letter. We may not need to have bible study, but the 1,2,3s of Salvation would allow those without the Spirit, to get some revelation.

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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 29, 2005 at 04:46 PM

    I think that people take the laws of the old testament which (if I undersand this correctly) are null and void once Christ was crucified on the cross, taking with him the sins of all mankind. (with the exception of the 10 commanments of course, even Christ teaches on that in the new testament)

    Just to add, I think you have THE most beautiful eyes I've ever seen. Have you read my profile?

    Tonya in MI
    I think that people take the laws of the old testament which (if I undersand this correctly) are null and void once Christ was crucified on the cross, taking with him the sins of all mankind. (with the exception of the 10 commanments of course, even Christ teaches on that in the new testament)

    Just to add, I think you have THE most beautiful eyes I've ever seen. Have you read my profile?

    Tonya in MI

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  • View author's info Posted on Oct 04, 2005 at 10:22 AM

    I am an atheist and I don't believe a word of the Bible, not the supernatural and miraculous stuff anyway, but in Matthew 5:32 it says "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adult*ery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adult*ery". I don't see anywhere that it says she needs to be a Christian or not. ( I had to add the ** or support would have rejected my message even though they are not in the Bible. )

    I knew a divorcee who thought that the "causeth her to commit adult*ery" part gave her a perfect Bilical reason to commit adult*ery. Very convenient. Since her husband had divorced her HE was the one who caused her to commit adul*tery.
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 01, 2005 at 02:36 AM

    If the law is done away with, why are you preaching about adulterie (mispelled on purpose to be able to post this) which is a commandment of the law not to do ? I think you are bit mixed up on the misconception that jesus died for your sins so that you can keep sinning (transgressing the law)
    "Dont commit adulterie." and many others like lying , stealing and woshiping idols are all a part of the 10 commandments you say is done away with so you are contradicting yourself greatly.If it si done a way with then you can lie cheat and steal people and still be sinless. get my point. Read John 15:10 and also I John 2:3-6.
    In Exodus 21 it explains that a women can leave her husband if the husband does not provide for his wife 3 things, shelter, food and marital relations as a right of isralite daughters. Another false statement that you made is that the law was only for Israel.. If you are born again and grafted in- what are you grafted into? the answer is Israel.. you are no longer a gentile if you are grafted in to the house of Israel.

    SpoiluRotten07 write:
    No, its not Gods law about beating slaves. That was moses law and that law, which, includes the ten commandments, was done away with when Jesus died on the cross. If you care to search for yourself, hebrews 8,9 & 10 talks about this and explains who the law was given to(Isreal ONLY), how long it was to last and why God did away with it.

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 04, 2005 at 03:55 PM

    They asked if you promise to love her forever. Since you cannot purport to predict how you will feel in the future or promise to feel when feel is an involuntary reaction, it is clear that the question was facetious and an answer to a facetious question is clearly meant as sarcasm. Clearly no contract was intended to be entered into, it was a stupid answer to a stupid question. I think we all can see that plain as day.

    Therefore, nobody really took the marriage contract seriously. In the spirit of intent, the contract is invalid. No marriage, no divorce.

    However, you are guilt of adultry. So as long as you have not made any porns or had 3-somes, there are no witnesses, so case dismissed.
  • View author's info Posted on Aug 21, 2005 at 03:11 PM

    Got to remember some things were based on the times and society of those must be taken in context...some things however are suppose to be our guide to proper behavior...others are history or letters while someone going though a tough time to help you relate...

    As for the author of this topic:
    Matt 6:1
    Matt 7:1-5
    I could list more but then it would be a Bible meeting...

    Since I walked in on my husband having sex with his co-worker...think that applies as 'allowable divorce' according to "God's law" (who is to say your interpretation is God law or your own law?), society norms, or civil court...however through all that pain, I found myself closer to God then separated from Him...

    As for sex...anyone read Song of Solomon? God created sex, he does not hate it or forcing us to feel guilty about it...but he wants it to be more than merely 'recreation' but something more...

    See ALOT of people blame God for things, but never praise him, and even non-believers still blame God, or curse the Devil, which I find kind of weird.

    We also must not forget history created by man, history written by man, and we have to allow the Holy Spirit help guide us in our lives...we KNOW when something is wrong if we listen...
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 29, 2005 at 01:51 AM

    Hey Rotten. I am a Christian as well but am disturbed by people who profess to speak in the name of God with harsh and biting words. Contention is of the Devil. God's word is love. Why bring a negative spirit to a discussion of Godly topics. Surely you practice love and tolerance also.

    Don't you think that God will work it out in the end? Are you wiser than He?
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 26, 2005 at 09:15 AM

    I am 75 years old, back in my younger teenage years I thought I wanted to be a Baptist preacher but by the time I was 17 I had changed my mind.

    Now, I don't believe in God or Heaven.
    I don't believe in the Devil or Hell.
    I don't believe in the soul or life after death.
    I don't believe in damnat*ion or salvation.
    I don't believe in the Bible or any other religious book.
    I don't believe in anything supernatural or what can't be proved.

    I am a very nice divorced guy, a gentleman, and I would never lie (unless it was a life or death situation and so far no such event has ever arisen in my life and it probably never will ) I am honest, clean and I treat everyone the way I would like to be treated. I am in good health and I try to stay that way.

    One of the ways I try to stay mentally healthy is to try to learn something new on a continuing basis. A way to learn something new is to study mathematics and other science. Fiction and philosophy I don't much care for.

    I love a good joke. One of the last jokes I have learned is as follows:"What do you get when you cross a mountain climber with a mosquito? Nothing. You can't cross a scalar with a vector." To mathematicians or those who understand some mathematics that is funny.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 22, 2005 at 08:51 AM

    Back in my younger days I met a woman who had been married but she was a very religious person and she had read in the Bible that if a man divorces a woman except for the cause of fornicatio*n he CAUSED her to commit a*dultery so she believed she had a God given right to commit a*dultery.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 21, 2005 at 06:29 AM

    The bible is not the law. The church, any kind of church, does not determine the law. The only law that counts is the law of the land.

    You can believe your bible, be it the King James version, the book of Mormon or whatever, but it is still not the law.

    The only law in the U.S.A. is based on the Constitution and the decisions that have been handed down.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 27, 2005 at 06:22 PM

    Yes I am really divorced. I have been since Feb. 1 2002. When the judge signed the papers. I was separated in 1999. He told me he no longer loved me when I was 5 months pregnant with our 2nd son. He started seeing someone at work before we separated. Within 6 months from separating they were living together. It took me a about 1 1/2 years to get over what he had done. In the mean time I had to deal with the rest of my pregnancy(which was high risk to begin with) him leaving, and our 7 yr old not really understanding it all. Our 2nd son was born a month early. Due to the stress I was under, plus it being high risk for other reasons. Anyhow, I finally filed for divorce and got on with my life as a single mother raising my boys.
    Now since this topic is under religion and asking if we are really divorced I am assuming that is to mean in the church. My religion says they don't believe in divorce. So if I ever get married I wont be able to be married again in my religion. Since I am not that religious anyhow thats not going to matter too much. Unless it does to whomever I marry in the future. I will cross that bridge when and if I ever get to it.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 27, 2005 at 04:28 PM

    I am divorced but my ex lives here in my house with me. That is not for hanky panky, it is just so that she won't have to pay all that money for an apartment or another house.

    I have plenty of room and she can just live in her room for free. Which she does.

    She lived here before so why not now?
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 26, 2005 at 01:37 PM

    Mom doesn't listen to the court-ordered psychologist, the judge, me, or our daughter. Want to give it a try?

    I think I already know your answer.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 25, 2005 at 10:40 PM

    "I think it all comes down to how you react toward each other in the kids' presence and how secure they are in the fact that you both love them dearly and always will. "

    I do. Mom doesn't. I has reached the point where I do not talk to her directly nor am I ever in the same room when possible. It is a long unfortunate story. I still try my best.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 24, 2005 at 03:30 AM

    I am divorced. I would've preferred to save our relationship. It didn't happen.

    I see the impact the divorce has on our daughter. Why can't mommy and daddy live together? Why are mommy and daddy having issues?

    I can't imagine what it is like to be living in two different homes at the age of 7.

    Yes, I am divorced.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 12, 2005 at 08:43 AM

    I read Spoil's original comment and had to laugh out loud! (I don't do that enough)
    And what about the millions of people that "lived in sin" prior to the establishment of the church??
    It is Spoil's illogical rationale (and those like him) that muddies the clear, cool waters of reality.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 05, 2005 at 01:53 AM

    Oh, by the way, the answer to the question is that if the marriage has been dissolved by the state, you are divorced. If you have asked God to forgive the sins of your marriage, including whatever sins accompanied the divorce, your sins are forgiven and you are free to "go and sin no more." If your particular church does not see it that way, either change churches or abide by your church's teachings; it doesn't really matter which. Just remember that if you love God and try do your best, confessing your shortcomings when they occur, then nothing can separate you from the love of God. Not a church, not even the words of the Bible, not even the words attributed to Jesus. John Lennon accurately summarized 1 Cor. 13 when he wrote "All you need is love." Love God, love your neighbor. Love as much as you can, then love some more. Everything else is just extra credit.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 05, 2005 at 01:40 AM

    Hello. I'm new to the site but I am already puzzled.

    Why would the beautiful and intelligent women posting on this site bother responding at all to someone like you-know-whom, an intolerant ideologue who is also (a) abusive, (b) inflexible and (c) ignorant ?

    Responding to people like that only serves to put you on their level. The best response is merely "You may be right, but I don't see it that way and I don't care to debate it with you."

    Then lather, rinse and repeat as necessary until clean again.

  • View author's info Posted on Mar 28, 2005 at 11:53 PM cant say cum on the religion forum..only come...and stop making me laugh...God punishes me for laughing at religion. Now if you take this to the romance forum I will do you good like we talked about.
  • View author's info Posted on Mar 04, 2005 at 05:58 AM

    Fortune telling has nothing to do with Spiritualism

    Anyone interested should read Arthur Conan Doyle's History of Spiritualism Vol I and II.
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