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Posted on Sun, Feb 17, 2013 19:12

Unless you've been in a long-term committed relationship, I can't imagine how it would be a good idea to send someone nude pictures. I get women asking my advice on this all the time, however.



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Posted on Thu, Feb 13, 2014 17:15

absolutely do not put your face or other obvious identifying marks in the picture.



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Posted on Wed, Feb 12, 2014 13:58

STOP don't do it. Almost every possible outcome of doing so is not in your best interest. First, it makes you look desperate and easy. Second, the pictures could always end up being viewed by someone you didn't want to see them ( like your family, or co workers). Somewhere in your pass you have an X boyfriend, who probably hates you just think what he might do with nude pictures of you. Lastly, any one ever give you a business card, at the time that they gave it to you it was important because you had a need for it. Do you know where it is now ? Of course not, and so will be the case with your pictures.



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Posted on Sat, Jan 18, 2014 13:08

Quoting Linglit:

I feel it's always a BAD idea to send nude pics incase of being blackmailed later

you are so right!! (I get a little sensitive about issues like this lol) we got nude pics of both girls and guys flying around on the internet, its worse on twitter cos everyone just keep retweeting it tilll it probably gets to the hands of the owner haha and that creeps me out!! these are pics taken by a lover who decides it should go public just cos the relationship did not end well or just a payback.. Or maybe tried to use it to blackmail the owner for some money and it did not work out so it went public. I've never and will never send nudes to any man nor allow him take nudes of me or the popular "personal" sex tape which is always not personal anyway(it always gets into the wrong hands).. So well If any man is so shallow minded to ask me for nudes or suggest it? I'm dropping you in a heartbeat!! better if its online then honey? You are blocked..lol. 

 

I still don't see the fun or swag in sending nudes..I read a comment in one blog here and some girl said..(Why not? If you got it then you have to flaunt it). That's just a dummy talk(sorryNotSorry)..yes flaunt it to your man when you guys meet not to the whole world..respect your bodies ladies!!. ..my two cents



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Posted on Mon, Jan 13, 2014 22:55

I feel it's always a BAD idea to send nude pics incase of being blackmailed later



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Posted on Mon, Dec 02, 2013 19:28

 

I totally agree!!

I might seem old fashioned but I dont undestand how some pleople can expose their intimacy like that to anyone :S

 

 

 

 



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Posted on Mon, Aug 05, 2013 14:09

Pics are stolen, I've seen this with my own eyes.  Don't be surprised to see your naked hiney on Craig's and such.  A evil man I worked for briefly was taking photos and selling them to porn sits.  He could access emails and dating sites and I suspect he was using some photos to lean on someone for criminal purposes.  Nothing is secure, we are lulled into a false since of security.  All we do can be linked to you, every time you get on a porn site it's recorded and accessible to those that know how to obtain it.  The NASA scandal scratched the surface on how aggregates are storing our info.



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Posted on Thu, Jun 13, 2013 15:18

Quoting bepositive:

Hi Lin......long time no see.  I only have one word  for such people....PERVERT!!!!    Same goes for the men and women that start a private chat with you and within 3 sentences ask you your favorite sexual position......I MEAN REALLY????   Obviously he/she is not looking for a serious relationship......just a cheap thrill.

Be, I totally agree!



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Posted on Thu, Jun 13, 2013 15:16

Hoping, Jen, Bepositive, Stross [welcome to the forums], Everyone,

What have I missed? LOLOL!!!

It surely is never a good idea....it is a question that is not really begging to be asked, but needed to be asked anyway!

What about men that actually go around demanding that a practical stranger they've never met send them racy or naked photos of themselves? Well, I once had that unpleasant experience with someone on this site, and sadly one of our blogging mates, and he was by no means a teenager. I was sore disappointed! Well, I don't have or make racy or naked photos of myself let alone e-mail such to a stranger! In a loving committed relationship, yes I will have a stack for his eyes only in the privacy of our home - not for strangers....just thinking about it turns my stomach!

So my question is, what will possess a supposedly sane man to make such an insane and insulting demand on a lady he's never even met???

Liv.



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Posted on Wed, Jun 12, 2013 17:52

Hi Lin......long time no see.  I only have one word  for such people....PERVERT!!!!    Same goes for the men and women that start a private chat with you and within 3 sentences ask you your favorite sexual position......I MEAN REALLY????   Obviously he/she is not looking for a serious relationship......just a cheap thrill.



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Posted on Thu, May 30, 2013 23:36

I have never sent a man a nude photo of me. I have self respect.
I know that is what everyone is doing, but I'm old fashioned.



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Posted on Sun, Mar 10, 2013 18:30

This thread is going to be even more confusing now since the Wicked Witch's posts are gone :)  Glad it's over though!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aopdD9Cu-So    The Wicked Witch melts



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Posted on Fri, Mar 08, 2013 07:21

I CONCUR---
"TRUE BEAUTY" ......
Isn't shone on one's face or body--- 
or found in the jewels one possesses.....
"TRUE BEAUTY"----
EVOLVES within our SOUL

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Posted on Fri, Mar 08, 2013 06:41

Dear "LADIES"----

I try to "acknowledge" everyone when addressing a forum; so please be patient, as it appears there may not be much space left in this room with someone's swelled head present... 

However, I trudge on... 

JEN--- 

Yes, I feel I gave my daughters great advice that day...  We never truly know what others have been through... There are times compassion and/or empathy must weigh in, esp when dealing with children who have not held much "life experience" to select the proper decisions.

I want to note--- I am proud of you for allowing time to "process" your thoughts before reacting. There is a huge difference between reacting and "responding" to others... I have seen you grow in this arena! ;)

SUNNY--- 

As for "barbs"-- well, my track record speaks for itself... I have been referenced to "throwing poisoned darts dipped in honey!!" I just find it a bit wasted when one being targeted lacks the wisdom to understand they have been hit....   ;)

As for some failing to be respectful and address others? This further proves their ineptitude in the fundamental realm of "social graces." 

As I have stated all along.. 

It's called "CLASS"--- 
Some have it, some don't...

I have grown to like and often enjoy all of you "ladies" who have presented your thoughts here. Though our ideals vary somewhat, we do address one another with a certain level of "respect"... 

Perhaps in the event, "newbies" looking on may realize what "social decorum" is all about.. 
If not, they won't last long. 

BEPOSITIVE---

Lordy, I had NO IDEA the level of sanctimonius hypocrisy some individuals might expose to others. Forgive them, for they know not what they do..  

HAVE A GREAT DAY LADIES--- AND ENJOY YOUR WEEKEND!! :) 



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Posted on Thu, Mar 07, 2013 19:41

I'd click on the "Thumbs Up" button for your posts MtnSunny but there isn't one here!! Thumbs Up!

Now I'm curious why some have the thumbs up icon and others don't.

Enjoy your weekend!



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Posted on Thu, Mar 07, 2013 13:46

Quoting Hoping4Love2000:

lol @ you JEN----- 

JEN, you may recall a post long ago where I addressed you and BEPOS the story of my daughters calling a girl at school a "slut" and "whore." I sat them on the bed and explained to them how I do not like those words and do not refer girls / women as those names. I told them I never wanted to hear those words out of their mouths again. I then explained, and I hope everyone listens here...

We never know where a girl / woman comes from. I asked my daughters that day how well they "really" knew the little girl. Do they know if her parents pay attention to her at home? Or does her dad, brother, friend, uncle, neighbors, family friend abuse her? Do they know if the only means of attention she has ever gotten was from someone fondling, touching or raping her, so now she misguidingly identifies "sex" with her only means of receiving attention because that is the only way anyone has ever paid attention to her? Do they know if she has a mother who buries her head in the sand while the step-father abuses her? I just saw a Dr. Phil where a little girl was raped from ages 9-12 before she ever opened up to a school counselour and told. Sometimes the abuse was up to 8 offenses a day!! The step-father is already out of prison. :( 

Little girls who have endured abuse from anyone must learn to retrain their minds before they are ever "healed." Most times, this "healing" cannot occur without the assistance of a professional, or a very well guided individual like a pastor or someone who has suffered and healed themselves. Many times it takes years to recover ones spirit and retrain the brain. 

THE SAD FACT: We have a lot of grown women out there who are misguided in how they should receive attention. We have many women who are unknowing of how to go about this, and many woman who are so desperate for love, ANY attention will do, good or bad.... 

Therefore, I do NOT use the words whore, slut, or anything of that nature. There was a time long ago where I was very misguided in where love and sex commingle... 

JEN-- I do concur with you completely on CONCEIT. There are some beautiful (and even not so beautiful) women who become very ugly in a very short amount of time due to how they conduct themselves or address others. 

This was a blog on sending STRANGERS NUDE PHOTOS... Not an art class on tasteful photography and modeling. NUDE PHOTOS TO MEN YOU NEVER MET! That simple! ;)

Oddly? The "character" Dagny comes from a book. This "character" is known as a strong woman who doesn't give much thought to her "looks" and who never allows her ego to get in the way. I read almost nightly and now the book "Atlas Shrugged" is on my list! I love strong women who don't get pushed around, who aren't full of themself!  

Hey Hoping, how ya doing? The forum is perking up, lol, have you noticed?  It seems the book's character doesn't have the same thinking process as the one who has the same username, one has allowed their ego to get in the way, it's sad to see.



I'm limited on time right now but I wanted to acknowledge your post here. I vaguely remember the old post mentioning your daughters but you did right in what you told them.  Not only should we not call girls certain names but we should not use the term "Retard", etc.. toward anyone.



We may never know the reasons why someone is misguided but if you could walk a day in their shoes, it may be a huge eye-opener!  Abuse, bad parenting (or no parenting), bad influences,lack of morals in the household, etc.,whatever it may be,  all of it plays a part in someone's life.  Are they racist because their parents were?  Sooner or later, I hope something or someone helps set them straight in a positive way.  Unfortunitely if you are an older adult, there is no excuse to continue the bad behavior, you should know better by then!



"Life is 10% what happens and 90% how you react to it."




I'm still working on the reacting part!!  When I see an adult acting a certain way that is annoying, I may be the one to set them straight or at least try ;) 





Be Positive,lol, you crack me up!! Thanks for your message, I sent you one back.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 06, 2013 07:22

lol @ you JEN----- 

JEN, you may recall a post long ago where I addressed you and BEPOS the story of my daughters calling a girl at school a "slut" and "whore." I sat them on the bed and explained to them how I do not like those words and do not refer girls / women as those names. I told them I never wanted to hear those words out of their mouths again. I then explained, and I hope everyone listens here...

We never know where a girl / woman comes from. I asked my daughters that day how well they "really" knew the little girl. Do they know if her parents pay attention to her at home? Or does her dad, brother, friend, uncle, neighbors, family friend abuse her? Do they know if the only means of attention she has ever gotten was from someone fondling, touching or raping her, so now she misguidingly identifies "sex" with her only means of receiving attention because that is the only way anyone has ever paid attention to her? Do they know if she has a mother who buries her head in the sand while the step-father abuses her? I just saw a Dr. Phil where a little girl was raped from ages 9-12 before she ever opened up to a school counselour and told. Sometimes the abuse was up to 8 offenses a day!! The step-father is already out of prison. :( 

Little girls who have endured abuse from anyone must learn to retrain their minds before they are ever "healed." Most times, this "healing" cannot occur without the assistance of a professional, or a very well guided individual like a pastor or someone who has suffered and healed themselves. Many times it takes years to recover ones spirit and retrain the brain. 

THE SAD FACT: We have a lot of grown women out there who are misguided in how they should receive attention. We have many women who are unknowing of how to go about this, and many woman who are so desperate for love, ANY attention will do, good or bad.... 

Therefore, I do NOT use the words whore, slut, or anything of that nature. There was a time long ago where I was very misguided in where love and sex commingle... 

JEN-- I do concur with you completely on CONCEIT. There are some beautiful (and even not so beautiful) women who become very ugly in a very short amount of time due to how they conduct themselves or address others. 

This was a blog on sending STRANGERS NUDE PHOTOS... Not an art class on tasteful photography and modeling. NUDE PHOTOS TO MEN YOU NEVER MET! That simple! ;)

Oddly? The "character" Dagny comes from a book. This "character" is known as a strong woman who doesn't give much thought to her "looks" and who never allows her ego to get in the way. I read almost nightly and now the book "Atlas Shrugged" is on my list! I love strong women who don't get pushed around, who aren't full of themself!  



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Posted on Tue, Mar 05, 2013 15:08

To all the posters,

     Sorry for my part in the confusion!!  Dagney answered the question, she was not the original poster. I did decide to edit my first post and deleted my first paragraph in it about being confused but some people read it before my editing was approved.   A lot of confusion happens because of the time delay with the non-paid members posts.


 We all have opinions and mine is still the same on this nude photos issue.   I will add that I have NEVER "whored" myself, not for anything, not for a free trip or for something as simple as a free drink!   There are females that do this but there should be no implying that because women who don't give it away for free also have a price attached to what they have. I consider my body a gift I have given to very few men. Were those few men even worthy? Some of them were not, I am even more selective than I used to be.


By the way, I consider conceit to be ulgy.  In my former Michigan surroundings, if you were conceited, you would not have many friends if any.  You do not become more popular by bragging, you become less popular.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 05, 2013 12:00

Quoting DagnyTaggart2:

TO EVERYONE WHO HAS NEVER BEEN A MODEL: No one cares about your image other than in terms of market value. There is something more grotesque about the use here of the metaphor "milking the cow for free" then understanding that artists have been immortalizing female nudes since the BEFORE THE INTERNET.
An "iconic" image of me was recently auctioned off in London. Do you really think I feel horrified that a photo from 1981 is now valued as an "iconic image"?
If you really worry about being viewed as a cow, that will only produce milk for the right price: the lady is a whore negotiating terms. You are not in a position to dictate market conditions.
Pearls of wisdom from a Diamond...


Hi DAGNY-

Thank you for clearing the air on who posted this. Leave it to a man to drop a grenade and run!! LOL

I am LOL @ your responses DAGNY---

Not once have you addressed what the guy asked, or even responded to what I regarded.

The statement was claiming:  SENDING NUDE PHOTOS TO BASIC STRANGERS IS NOT A GOOD IDEA. It appeared the author was aghast as to WHY a woman would even consider this a good idea. You took my reference to “milking the cow” as meaning “sex”… and then mention “whore.” DAGNY, I am a lady who does not speak like that.  That reference is NOT in my vocabulary and if this is what you thought; my apologies! I would never refer you or any other woman as that. I taught my 3 children there are no whores, sluts, etc. Only desperate or misguided women seeking love and / or security! (Remember that post JEN and BEPOSITIVE?) I am an extremely “in depth” woman. Again, my apologies you took this in the improper form!

DAGNY- My reference was regarding….. Why would a man WANT to go through the trouble of even meeting a woman who HAS ALREADY SENT HIM NUDE PHOTOS before he has ever met her? THAT is what this discussion is about. You appear to want to turn this into an "art" discussion? I am an advertiser and there are different levels for advertising. DATING AND MODELING DO NOT COINCIDE! Modeling is a JOB. Dating is seeking your lifetime mate, or a one-nighter perhaps! LOL.... DIFFERENTIATE!

A man wants to feel “special” and if a woman runs around sending NUDE photos to STRANGERS, I don’t see how a man would find this a “turn-on.” I would think he might feel she has lacks self-respect and holds little value to the sanctity of a relationship, which is what he is seeking. Men want to feel like they receive something NO ONE ELSE HAS, from the woman he adores! Therefore, common sense deduces me to stake claim as the author does.. BAD IDEA!

For me--- It’s "CLASS"--- any way you slice it!

One possesses it, or one does not... 

Online dating is NOT the "Wonderful World of Art" .... 

“ART” is an entirely different ballgame. 

I cannot consider your words as "wisdom" DAGNY, as you fail to understand one very basic premise here. This is not a "modeling forum" and we are not to be treated as "commodities." We are Genuine men / women seeking a partner. Just the fact you state "market conditions" on this forum and the fact you would boast of "iconic" image and refer to "Those of us who have never modeled,"shows you need to stick with being the "pawn" we advertisers use you for. You do not advertise properly for DATING. WE DON'T SELL OURSELVES THAT WAY HERE. You will not find a man who truly desires a worthwhile relationship seeking a woman who WANTS to send NUDE PHOTOS to men she has never met. 

Again, it's called DIFFERENTIATE.... 

My sincere apologies you felt I was refering you, or women who send nude photos as a "whore." NEVER.... I do not speak in that manner and any of these ladies here can verify this...... NOT MY STYLE... 

Best wishes to you~~ 



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Posted on Tue, Mar 05, 2013 05:16

HOLY COW!!! What is going on here???  hahaha  My own opinion is that men or women that post nude or half nude photos on the internet are either seeking attention, insecure or conceited.   I would hope that I find a man that is attracted to me for who I am on the outside and the inside.    I am not against "racy photos" , I think they should be shared with the one you love and in private.......not splattered on the internet.
Happy searching people.......:)



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