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Posted on Mon, Jul 01, 2013 02:34

I disagree. I have had straight men over that I had known, and they have laid on my bed with me and we had no intimacy. Ultimately the decision to be intimate should always be up to the lady. They were all quite respectful and no intimacy ever occurred with them there nor in the future. We were just good friends. And yes I am straight as well.
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Posted on Mon, Jun 24, 2013 09:23

Quoting 4EverLoyal:

Orlando, some of us really have great male friends. I don't think every male friend is a
"boyfriend" in waiting. Since you love research and statistics, poll a sample size and do a study.

There is research on this already.  Bleske-Rechek, et. al took 88 pairs of "friends" and had each fill out a confidential survey on attraction.  These "friendships" averaged about 2 years in length. The authors consistently found that "men reported more attraction to their female friends than women did to their male friends." The study even looked at men and women who were in a relationship with another person.  Again, men were still attracted to their female "friend" and repeatedly the female "friend" was unaware of the attraction. As the authors point out men had an, "attraction to (and desire to date) their friend regardless of their own current romantic involvement or their friend’s current romantic involvement." In essence, women were fooling themselves that their male "friend" really just wanted to be "friends."

Source: Bleske-Rechek, A., Somers, E., Micke, C., Erickson, L., Matteson, L., Stocco, C., ... & Ritchie, L. (2012). Benefit or burden? Attraction in cross-sex friendship. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships , 29 (5), 569-596.



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Posted on Mon, May 27, 2013 15:05

I would like to believe your theory is wrong... however I will say, I have yet to find a male friend who truly knows how to be friend without hidden motives. I haven't given up... my search is still on! =)



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Posted on Wed, May 01, 2013 19:25

yea i dont have many male friends but all kinds of girl friends i want more guy friends its hard to find espcially only to be friends they always want more and they just dont listen



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Posted on Wed, Apr 17, 2013 18:21

I'm beginning to wonder. I think it is almost impossible to have a male friend. it always ends up with him wanting to eventually sleep with you. I do have one male friend but he is gay. He is a true gem. I wish I could find more like him!



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Posted on Fri, Mar 08, 2013 19:46

 


Platonic love does exist.  Distinguishing between romantic, sexual and friendly feelings, however, can be exceedingly difficult.

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Posted on Thu, Mar 07, 2013 12:59

Male friends seem to be much more easygoing and spontenous.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 06, 2013 20:17

Male Female friendship can be tricky.

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Posted on Wed, Mar 06, 2013 12:20

I found that having male friends was healthier than females. At least in the past. Not to say that I couldn't have had female friends but the amount of drama was far less. Now that I am older it is easier to nurture friendships with women.  

There isn't a single one of my male friends who can say that I had anything more than a friendship with him. In fact, I am travelling to Miami to spend a week with a (straight) friend whom I have known for 20 years. He and I were never involved. This may be one of the rare instances.



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Posted on Tue, Mar 05, 2013 16:07

It's a tough situation for men to be just friends with a female, but it is possible. Hopefully that male has totally different interests than yours!



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Posted on Mon, Feb 04, 2013 07:16

On my case..they REALLY exist!!! My male friends are fun to hang out with, reliable, adventurous and respectful. I have no problem on defending it as my experience is so positive and even if we don't think alike we still can count on each other and call us great friends! My female friends are sensitive, sweet and great for some girl time and my male friends are adventurous, players and great for more heavier stuff.
VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!

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Posted on Sat, Jan 26, 2013 21:52

I love having male friends...Unfortunately,I only have a couple. I made it very clear to my ,male, friends that I have no interest but a friendship. Some of them accept and some try to persuade me into a relationship. One thing I know, is that those that stick around are my true ,male, friends that care and respects me. Yes, I do believe that a male can be friends with a female as long as you keep an open communication with them.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 16, 2013 10:24

I do have male friends, they are either gay, or we have some business/interest together and i am friends with their wives too, other than that, in my experience... not really.

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Posted on Tue, Jan 08, 2013 06:29

I have to agree with 4Ever.  I think that your theory is flawed, Orlando. It does make for a good conversation and the percentages may favor your theory in the end but not anywhere near 100%.  How many of the women that you asked have actually asked their male friends if they would sleep with them given the opportunity?  And, it may just be wishfull thinking by the women when in reality the male friends would have no interest at all.



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Posted on Sun, Jan 06, 2013 18:32

Orlando, some of us really have great male friends. I don't think every male friend is a
"boyfriend" in waiting. Since you love research and statistics, poll a sample size and do a study.



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Posted on Thu, Oct 25, 2012 14:53

that is what i need right now is a guy friend



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Posted on Fri, Aug 24, 2012 17:26

My personal experience - men do not  just  want a plain vanilla  "friendship", sooner or later, they want the "benefits or bonus" added.



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Posted on Fri, Aug 24, 2012 06:49

I have lots of female friends and I have no desire to sleep with any of them.  Just because what she has between her legs is different than what I have doesn't make her attractive to me and just because she's attractive to me doesn't mean I want whats between her legs.
The benefit of friendship is that it allows you to accept a persons imperfections without being driven absolutely insane by them.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 23, 2012 08:27

Theres always attraction between the two but only when there is mutual respect can there be friendship



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Posted on Thu, Aug 23, 2012 07:47

Theres always attraction between the two but only when there is mutual respect can there be friendship



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