Do male friends really exist for women? Friendship

  • View author's info posted on Aug 17, 2013 15:22


    I really don't think they do. If the guy is single and so are you, he usually wants to date you. He can pretend to be your friend, but in the back of his mind he wants it to lead to something else.

  • View author's info posted on Jul 16, 2013 09:22


    Just remember that friendship is also what you self make it to and think about also what you send for signals, i have woman friendship for more than 20 years be on weekends sleep next to and in same house as their husband/boyfriends and never did anything beacuse if sex come into it the friendship is set to go down and when you then not can live together then you have spoiled an very good friendship
    Live and love life its an gift dont point because even if you not are rich you can also have an very nice and happy life, dont point at people every time you point then 3 orther fingeres are pointing back
    money dosent matter nice to have but real love and friendship can not be bought for money.
  • View author's info posted on Jul 15, 2013 13:58


    I think it is defenately possible. I have a female friend and she is perfect to talk about feelings or things where guys don’t talk about that easy together. She is like a sister for me and that's also how i see her. However it needs to be clear that the friendship is just a friendship. Partners can be jalous. As long you prefer the other persons luck above yours or eventual desires it is possible. Dont claim time for example if she has a relationship or dont be a threat for her boyfriend. 

  • View author's info posted on Jul 01, 2013 02:34


    I disagree. I have had straight men over that I had known, and they have laid on my bed with me and we had no intimacy. Ultimately the decision to be intimate should always be up to the lady. They were all quite respectful and no intimacy ever occurred with them there nor in the future. We were just good friends. And yes I am straight as well.
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  • View author's info Recommended posted on Jun 24, 2013 09:23


    Quoting 4EverLoyal:

    Orlando, some of us really have great male friends. I don't think every male friend is a
    "boyfriend" in waiting. Since you love research and statistics, poll a sample size and do a study.

    There is research on this already.  Bleske-Rechek, et. al took 88 pairs of "friends" and had each fill out a confidential survey on attraction.  These "friendships" averaged about 2 years in length. The authors consistently found that "men reported more attraction to their female friends than women did to their male friends." The study even looked at men and women who were in a relationship with another person.  Again, men were still attracted to their female "friend" and repeatedly the female "friend" was unaware of the attraction. As the authors point out men had an, "attraction to (and desire to date) their friend regardless of their own current romantic involvement or their friend’s current romantic involvement." In essence, women were fooling themselves that their male "friend" really just wanted to be "friends."

    Source: Bleske-Rechek, A., Somers, E., Micke, C., Erickson, L., Matteson, L., Stocco, C., ... & Ritchie, L. (2012). Benefit or burden? Attraction in cross-sex friendship. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships , 29 (5), 569-596.
  • View author's info posted on May 27, 2013 15:05


    I would like to believe your theory is wrong... however I will say, I have yet to find a male friend who truly knows how to be friend without hidden motives. I haven't given up... my search is still on! =)
  • View author's info posted on May 01, 2013 19:25


    yea i dont have many male friends but all kinds of girl friends i want more guy friends its hard to find espcially only to be friends they always want more and they just dont listen
  • View author's info posted on Apr 17, 2013 18:21


    I'm beginning to wonder. I think it is almost impossible to have a male friend. it always ends up with him wanting to eventually sleep with you. I do have one male friend but he is gay. He is a true gem. I wish I could find more like him!
  • View author's info posted on Mar 08, 2013 19:46


     


    Platonic love does exist.  Distinguishing between romantic, sexual and friendly feelings, however, can be exceedingly difficult.

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  • View author's info posted on Mar 07, 2013 12:59


    Male friends seem to be much more easygoing and spontenous.
  • View author's info posted on Mar 06, 2013 20:17


    Male Female friendship can be tricky.

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  • View author's info posted on Mar 06, 2013 12:20


    I found that having male friends was healthier than females. At least in the past. Not to say that I couldn't have had female friends but the amount of drama was far less. Now that I am older it is easier to nurture friendships with women.  

    There isn't a single one of my male friends who can say that I had anything more than a friendship with him. In fact, I am travelling to Miami to spend a week with a (straight) friend whom I have known for 20 years. He and I were never involved. This may be one of the rare instances.
  • View author's info posted on Mar 05, 2013 16:07


    It's a tough situation for men to be just friends with a female, but it is possible. Hopefully that male has totally different interests than yours!
  • View author's info posted on Feb 04, 2013 07:16


    On my case..they REALLY exist!!! My male friends are fun to hang out with, reliable, adventurous and respectful. I have no problem on defending it as my experience is so positive and even if we don't think alike we still can count on each other and call us great friends! My female friends are sensitive, sweet and great for some girl time and my male friends are adventurous, players and great for more heavier stuff.
    VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 26, 2013 21:52


    I love having male friends...Unfortunately,I only have a couple. I made it very clear to my ,male, friends that I have no interest but a friendship. Some of them accept and some try to persuade me into a relationship. One thing I know, is that those that stick around are my true ,male, friends that care and respects me. Yes, I do believe that a male can be friends with a female as long as you keep an open communication with them.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 16, 2013 10:24


    I do have male friends, they are either gay, or we have some business/interest together and i am friends with their wives too, other than that, in my experience... not really.

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  • View author's info posted on Jan 08, 2013 06:29


    I have to agree with 4Ever.  I think that your theory is flawed, Orlando. It does make for a good conversation and the percentages may favor your theory in the end but not anywhere near 100%.  How many of the women that you asked have actually asked their male friends if they would sleep with them given the opportunity?  And, it may just be wishfull thinking by the women when in reality the male friends would have no interest at all.
  • View author's info posted on Jan 06, 2013 18:32


    Orlando, some of us really have great male friends. I don't think every male friend is a
    "boyfriend" in waiting. Since you love research and statistics, poll a sample size and do a study.
  • View author's info posted on Oct 25, 2012 14:53


    that is what i need right now is a guy friend
  • View author's info posted on Aug 24, 2012 17:26


    My personal experience - men do not  just  want a plain vanilla  "friendship", sooner or later, they want the "benefits or bonus" added.
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