Orlando, some of us really have great male friends. I don't think every male friend is a "boyfriend" in waiting. Since you love research and statistics, poll a sample size and do a study.
There is research on this already. Bleske-Rechek, et. al took 88 pairs of "friends" and had each fill out a confidential survey on attraction. These "friendships" averaged about 2 years in length. The authors consistently found that "men reported more attraction to their female friends than women did to their male friends." The study even looked at men and women who were in a relationship with another person. Again, men were still attracted to their female "friend" and repeatedly the female "friend" was unaware of the attraction. As the authors point out men had an, "attraction to (and desire to date) their friend regardless of their own current romantic involvement or their friend’s current romantic involvement." In essence, women were fooling themselves that their male "friend" really just wanted to be "friends."
Source: Bleske-Rechek, A., Somers, E., Micke, C., Erickson, L., Matteson, L., Stocco, C., ... & Ritchie, L. (2012). Benefit or burden? Attraction in cross-sex friendship. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
I would like to believe your theory is wrong... however I will say, I have yet to find a male friend who truly knows how to be friend without hidden motives. I haven't given up... my search is still on! =)
I'm beginning to wonder. I think it is almost impossible to have a male friend. it always ends up with him wanting to eventually sleep with you. I do have one male friend but he is gay. He is a true gem. I wish I could find more like him!
I found that having male friends was healthier than females. At least in the past. Not to say that I couldn't have had female friends but the amount of drama was far less. Now that I am older it is easier to nurture friendships with women.
There isn't a single one of my male friends who can say that I had anything more than a friendship with him. In fact, I am travelling to Miami to spend a week with a (straight) friend whom I have known for 20 years. He and I were never involved. This may be one of the rare instances.
I love having male friends...Unfortunately,I only have a couple. I made it very clear to my ,male, friends that I have no interest but a friendship. Some of them accept and some try to persuade me into a relationship. One thing I know, is that those that stick around are my true ,male, friends that care and respects me. Yes, I do believe that a male can be friends with a female as long as you keep an open communication with them.
I have to agree with 4Ever. I think that your theory is flawed, Orlando. It does make for a good conversation and the percentages may favor your theory in the end but not anywhere near 100%. How many of the women that you asked have actually asked their male friends if they would sleep with them given the opportunity? And, it may just be wishfull thinking by the women when in reality the male friends would have no interest at all.
I have lots of female friends and I have no desire to sleep with any of them. Just because what she has between her legs is different than what I have doesn't make her attractive to me and just because she's attractive to me doesn't mean I want whats between her legs.
The benefit of friendship is that it allows you to accept a persons imperfections without being driven absolutely insane by them.
I would have to say speaking as a woman.... male "Friends" exist. A lot of women tend to "friend zone" guys and throughout life, he would be nothing more than a friend. I have a lot of male friends in which we hangout, talk, party and just have fun. We do not have sex, so I believe its possible to have guy friends and not make them bofriends. You can Never have to many friends. The hard part of having guy friends is that they might actually start having feelings for you and that is when it becomes complicated.